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New owners after competition, wanting us to pay Out more

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Pringlemonster · 10/09/2020 07:56

Completed yesterday, have the money
Relatives house ,I’m trying to keep on top of situation ,but I’ve a difficult home life ,and I don’t live anywhere near the sold house.
They got us down £20000 of the asking price,
Elderly relative in rest home ,needs money to pay for care .
Cleared out relatives house as best could ,left some rubble in garage, due to Covid no one would remove .not a huge amount.
They are asking us to pay for a skip to remove rubble
Dh says I’m giving relatives house away as it is and he reall y disagrees if I pay for a skip for them.
It’s a huge plot of land ,and I too feel annoyed they pushed the price down.
AIBU to not pay for a skip

OP posts:
BoomBoomsCousin · 10/09/2020 09:23

My question wasn’t about me paying for it ,
I just felt theY were cheeky to ask ,it’s barely going to fill a fraction of a skip .
Feeling frustrated

If you know of a cheaper way for them to get rid of the rubble you wouldn’t be unreasonable to suggest it. But from their perspective it’s you that’s been cheeky - leaving the rubble in the garden and trying to push that expense on to them after agreeing a price. They probably haven’t explored all options. They are also stressed from buying (and possibly selling) a house, moving, possibly finding their feet in a new area. They may well think they are doing you a favour by just suggesting you pay for the skip rather than hire someone to come in and dispose of it. Or maybe they’ve realised that they can’t get anyone in to do it because of covid too.

I get the frustration. Selling someone else’s home, from a distance and whilst trying to sort out their care homes etc. is a frustrating and fairly thankless position to be in. You have most of the stress of selling but none of the rewards and you have other stress on top. Caring for elderly relatives is not at all easy. I hope the stresses lessen soon and your relative does well in the care home. Flowers

ClumsyAnnabel · 10/09/2020 09:25

If it's not enough to fill a skip I think they're trying to get a skip for free for their own reasons - An inventory details fixtures and fittings, not a pile of rubble surely - presumably they saw the rubble when viewing - and by the sound of it nothing was said previously or agreed about it's removal or otherwise. It's not as if you've left a pile of dirty mattresses in the front garden. Like you I'd pay for a skip for a quiet life but if nothing was said and its been there through the viewings I think it's a bit cheeky.

tenlittlecygnets · 10/09/2020 09:25

Sounds like you have an awful lot on your plate, OP.

Just be grateful the house has been sold so you can now pay for care home fees. A skip should only be a couple of hundred quid.

BigBadVoodooHat · 10/09/2020 09:26

presumably they saw the rubble when they viewed the house

And assumed it was part of the fittings and fixtures? Hmm

kirinm · 10/09/2020 09:27

If it isn't enough to fill a skip, don't get a skip. There are plenty of commercial waste collectors who will do a van pick up and likely cheaper than a skip.

Codexdivinchi · 10/09/2020 09:28

@Hoppinggreen

You have completed, it’s now their house and their garden. You don’t have to hire a skip for them, presumably they saw the rubble when they viewed the house
Tell them to take it out of the £20,000 they have just saved.

Why on earth did you drop it so much?

steppemum · 10/09/2020 09:28

@Hoppinggreen

You have completed, it’s now their house and their garden. You don’t have to hire a skip for them, presumably they saw the rubble when they viewed the house
not true.

Unless the rubble was listed as being left behind, the sellers have to remove it.

and skips round here do not cost £250, more like £80

Usergroundzero · 10/09/2020 09:32

I’d actually be really annoyed too. They are relatives who managed to cut £20,000 of the asking price. Money that was supposed to go for care homes fees.

It’s a piss take

JamesZebra · 10/09/2020 09:33

surely you would have had to pay the man with a van to come and clear it so what difference does it make to pay for a skip?

Original poster
Pringlemonster · 10/09/2020 09:33

I’m no where near the house ,6 hours drive ,I’ve so much at home to cope with ,I’ve moved him to a rest home near me ,and the buyers just kept coming back saying this needed replacing ,that needed replacing ,then they wanted me to fix every before they moved in ,and I just couldn’t.
I’ve got 3 threads running today about this ..so if anyone noticed yes they are all me
.it just came out of the blue ,this relative was as fit as a fiddle ,you just could not of predicted this
To cap it of I’ve got their dog as well ,and I’d been taking it in to visit relative at rest home ,but now Covid ,and relative has forgot about dog ,and kids now attached ,and now I’ve a dog that barks at everything that I didn’t want ,but we took ,as we thought relative would be home after 2 weeks ,but no couldn’t go home ,dog here to stay

OP posts:
IrmaFayLear · 10/09/2020 09:34

A HippoBag is your friend. I have used these: they don't take up as much room as a skip and you can clear the stuff quickly. Cheaper than a skip.

VintageStitchers · 10/09/2020 09:34

Cheeky feckers! They’re taking the piss.

Tell them to sort it themselves with the money they saved from the purchase price.

I had buyers trying to get us to give them money for something after the sale but I just ignored them.

BoomBoomsCousin · 10/09/2020 09:38

OP it sounds like a nightmare. You’ve done magnificently to step up the way you have. Put this behind you now and be glad it’s done with.

Hope the kids are also stepping up and at least walking the barking dog they’ve got attached to.

WhoWouldHaveThoughtThat · 10/09/2020 09:38

@Usergroundzero
Maybe the house was over priced to start with, and in any case the vendor is not obliged to accept a lower price they could have waited for another buyer.
The rubble should not have been left unless they told the prospective new owners that they were unable to get it moved.
That's what I think anyway Wink

Original poster
Pringlemonster · 10/09/2020 09:38

We did put it on high So that’s where the £20000 reduction comes from
Solicitor feels the price was fair ,I’ve not given it away .
There was an awful lot needed doing ,
Which the price reduction reflects
I’m just annoyed with the situation.

OP posts:
VintageStitchers · 10/09/2020 09:40

Gosh, you’re having a hard time.

Stop worrying about the cheeky buyers and focus on your own family.

Close this thread (ask admin to delete) because some posters on here seem to care more about some random buyers than try to support you with your horribly difficult situation. They should be ashamed of themselves.

AnneLovesGilbert · 10/09/2020 09:45

You’re obviously having a hard time but that’s irrelevant to the buyers. It’s a business transaction and you wouldn’t be happy if you bought a new home and were left with a load of rubbish to deal with.

You don’t know anything about their personal circumstances, they might be having a tough time too, loads of people are. The last thing they need is the cost and hassle of rubbish disposal.

savethewales · 10/09/2020 09:46

Surely not - otherwise people could leave any furniture they didn’t want?

AnneLovesGilbert · 10/09/2020 09:49

Close this thread (ask admin to delete) because some posters on here seem to care more about some random buyers than try to support you with your horribly difficult situation. They should be ashamed of themselves.

Hmm yes, if you don’t like the answers just pretend you never saw them...

Someone who’s posted 3 threads is obviously desperate for feedback from strangers on the internet and OP has already said she appreciates she’s wrong and pretended she didn’t ask the question she asked. House buying and selling can get emotional but OP’s mainly annoyed she got less than she wanted and no one made her sell at that price. Her personal issues are nothing to do with her leaving a load of junk for someone else to deal with.

Obviouspretzel · 10/09/2020 09:49

Love all the people on this thread salty as fuck about people "getting so much off the price " and how cheeky they are.

Buying a house is a business deal. Someone owns an asset. I try to buy it. I get it for a cheap as possible. They do not have to accept. There is nothing cheeky about it whatsoever. If it's too cheap, just say no.

I'm not referring the OP here particularly but others. OP has said she'll pay for the skip so people could probably stop the pile on now.

stillfeelingmad · 10/09/2020 09:49

Oh for goodness sake @VintageStitchers why should people be ashamed?!

Op asked if she should have to pay for the skip, legally YES and a lot of people felt morally yes too!

It's awful going through a tough situation and I'd wager a lot of people on here have been through shit too but it does not change the legal reality!

fromdownwest · 10/09/2020 09:51

@VintageStitchers - It is not about spite or being mean. It is about the law.

Unless declared on the F&F form by the vendor then the house should have been obtained as per the listing. Any deviation from this is the legal responsibility of the vendor.

I appreciate that they are having a tough time, sadly conveyancing law does not take personal circumstances into account.

If you do not pay for the skip, they could press legal proceedings. Their solicitor would most likely advise to dispose of the rubble themselves, then a nice invoice would land with your solicitors for an expensive removal company and more legal fees attached.

I do appreciate your situation, and how it must be, however, look at the posters citing legal basis and not those based on emotion.

AnneLovesGilbert · 10/09/2020 09:51

Love all the people on this thread salty as fuck about people "getting so much off the price " and how cheeky they are.

What are the chances they’ve been through it themselves? Low.

Original poster
Pringlemonster · 10/09/2020 09:52

No it’s ok
I wanted to know if I was being unfair
And I am ,
So I have sorted it out
We all have difficulties in our lives ,and yes I would not of liked buying a house to find rubble there
I have been unreasonable,and that’s the point of asking on here ,
I totally appreciate the time people took to reply
Thankyou x

OP posts:
Codexdivinchi · 10/09/2020 09:52

@Pringlemonster

I’m no where near the house ,6 hours drive ,I’ve so much at home to cope with ,I’ve moved him to a rest home near me ,and the buyers just kept coming back saying this needed replacing ,that needed replacing ,then they wanted me to fix every before they moved in ,and I just couldn’t. I’ve got 3 threads running today about this ..so if anyone noticed yes they are all me .it just came out of the blue ,this relative was as fit as a fiddle ,you just could not of predicted this To cap it of I’ve got their dog as well ,and I’d been taking it in to visit relative at rest home ,but now Covid ,and relative has forgot about dog ,and kids now attached ,and now I’ve a dog that barks at everything that I didn’t want ,but we took ,as we thought relative would be home after 2 weeks ,but no couldn’t go home ,dog here to stay
Pringle you’ve got a lot on. The sale is done now. Don’t answer any more messages or let your dh deal with it. Flowers