To think nursery need to do better?

[Ponchy]

Dropped off DS at 8:30am. Did the fucking happy dance of joy to have all the kids out of the house for the first time in 6 months. Made it to 9am and they told me I had to come get him because he had done a poo and hadn't gotten his trousers all the way down so half of it landed in his trousers. They left him sitting on the loo while I drove back there and cleaned him up. When I got there they had a dither because I wasn't suppose to come in the building but I can't clean him up if I can't get in can I!? So home we went.

That's fucking ridiculous!

Omg that's awful! What are their policies on this? Do they not help them 'to clean up'?

How old is the child? Not that it's that relevant to be honest.

I would think about making a polite complaint.

Nurseries are supposed to deal with poos etc! What if you'd been at work? That sound pretty incompetent.

Surely they just needed to change his pants and let him carry on with the day.

Do they not change nappies for other kids?

Did he have spares in his nursery bag?

I cannot fathom how any early years setting had not thought through how to handle a poo. Hell anything up to age 7 is probably reasonable as unfortunately kids do miss from time to time!

He's 3. They won't take them if not potty trained. He had spares in his bag. They won't take children in nappies. Apparently this is because of COVID. But really I can't leave work every single time this happens.

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He's 3. They won't take them if not potty trained. He had spares in his bag. They won't take children in nappies. Apparently this is because of COVID. But really I can't leave work every single time this happens.

Loads of 3 years olds aren't trained though!

This is ludicrous.

That’s crazy!!

So your child has to sit on the toilet until you can come sort him out? How is that possibly a good solution? Are there alternative care providers near you?

Wow. Sometimes I spend half my day helping kids in the toilet who have had an accident or like your DS not got their pants or trousers down far enough. That’s what we’re there for!

I would be looking for a new nursery ...they cannot refuse to have children in nappies....that is discrimination.
Had they advised of their change in policy? I'm sure most early years settings have a solution for this..even in covid times

At a push I could maybe understand that their covid policy dictates change of clothes must be available from home. But as he had spares in his bag I can’t understand what their issue is! YANBU

That's crazy. My nursery prefer potty trained kids but they legally can't ask for it. My 3yo is potty trained but obviously going back to nursery has thrown her and she's had both wee and poo accidents there. They wouldn't dream of phoning for that, they've just changed her and let her go back to playing without making a big deal. Your nursery really needs to look at their "policies".

That’s crazy! Even potty trained 3 year olds have accidents, especially when they have had a change of routine by going back to nursery when they’ve been home for six months!

Shocked that they didn’t think of this and have a plan in place. I volunteer with older children so toilet accidents are rare but we have plans for if we need to give first aid to a child and therefore can’t social distance, how to do so as safely as possible. I would expect a nursery to have similar plans for first aid and toilet accidents.

They won't take children in nappies
Even if this is a new thing and due to Covid it's really bad. What if a child had SEN? Would they not take them?

Whoops - my post was deleted, so I'll rephrase. I think it would be most unusual for a nursery to have this policy for a 3 year old and carry it through.

I'd ask for clarification and assurance it wouldn't happen again.

I'd be looking for a new nursery. How can anyone professing to like children enough to work with them think its acceptable to leave a 3 year old sitting on a toilet until you arrived. The fact all of the staff thought this was acceptable would lead me to wonder what else they thought was acceptable practice!!!

New nursery yep

Stupid really to call you in and then “oh..you aren’t allowed in though”

Maybe they thought you was Mrs Incredible and you could stretch your arms all the way into the toilets

How is changing nappies a covid risk, presumably the adults working in the nursery can take the appropriate precautions. Literally a nursery that won't deal with nappies, whatever the fuck next. Have you thought about looking for a childminder OP? I find them a lot more reasonable to be honest.

They’re not allowed to not take children in nappies. That’s total discrimination and I’d make a serious complaint to Care Inspectorate or OFSTED or whoever the regulatory body is for where you are.

It's a nursery attached to a private school and they clearly state they won't take children in nappies and that was before COVID. Does anyone know if that really is illegal because my son's nursery was the same.

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It's a nursery attached to a private school and they clearly state they won't take children in nappies and that was before COVID. Does anyone know if that really is illegal because my son's nursery was the same.

Of course its illegal. What happens if your child is in nappies because they have disabilities? They cannot have a blanket policy excluding children in nappies, it's dicrimatory. It would also make me run a mile as it shows they are not inclusive of all needs, which is not an environment I would want my child in.