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Cake smash...

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SleepingStandingUp · 08/09/2020 19:24

I know I am. But if people can convince me I'm not I'll be much happier 😁😁

When DS was 1 I was opposed to cake smash photoshoots because it was a waste of cake. And he was tube fed all wouldn't have touched it and was actually in the middle of a 4 month awful hospitalisation for his birthday and when he came out he ate even less than when he went in and he had/has sensory issues that just would have made it not viable.

Now I have twins who would devour a cake shop between them, who don't seem to have any issues touching messy stuff or eating ANYTHING and I really want one.

But I know they're terrible.

Would I be unreasonable to bury my principles for some cute photos of fat babies covering in icing and cream?

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ShebaShimmyShake · 10/09/2020 15:13

Nor me, perhaps I need to be on Snap Chat it so I can Snap Chat it to everyone. Is that less or more cool than posting on the Gram or FB?

I'm not on Snapchat or Insta, so that's a pretty good indication that they're much cooler than Facebook. Maybe they're awash with cake smash pics.

Bloody ridiculous judgements and blatherings about how impossible it is that someone might just find a cake smash cute and fun and want to do it for that reason.

SleepingStandingUp · 10/09/2020 16:10

I can confirm there's lots on Instagram (did a #cakesmash search bit they're all looking v cute, no evidence of this costume that you're all meant to wear for £40

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Ilen · 10/09/2020 16:10

@ShebaShimmyShake

MN is obsessed with the idea that no one else is interested in anything to do with anyone elses child.

The obsession is more to do with anything deemed to be "attention seeking", because good women should be self-effacing, silent and invisible. It goes hand in hand with the endless bloody moralising about everything.

I get it, I'm a woman so I was raised on the Cinderella complex too, but you'd think by now more people would have figured out what a lot of cobblers it is.

Hear hear. God forbid you should be a confident woman who doesn’t need to engage in competitive self-denigration, either in person or via your children.
ShebaShimmyShake · 10/09/2020 16:17

Hear hear. God forbid you should be a confident woman who doesn’t need to engage in competitive self-denigration, either in person or via your children.

You're supposed to show your confidence by never, ever doing anything that might involve people acknowledging your existence, achievements or appearance. It is however, acceptable to congratulate yourself at length for not doing things on social media, though it's not acceptable to put nice things on there.

len1234 · 10/09/2020 16:22

Absolutely do it! Enjoy all the fun little things you can! It will make for adorable photos that you can all look back on in the future.

Ilen · 10/09/2020 16:24

Even though congratulating yourself on not putting things on social media can come perilously close to the horror that is virtue-signalling. Grin

catnoir1 · 10/09/2020 16:27

If my dd didn't have dairy and soya allergies then we would have had one.

Her allergies are lessening as she's getting a bit older so I'm hoping when she turns 2 that we can.

SleepingStandingUp · 10/09/2020 16:56

@catnoir1

If my dd didn't have dairy and soya allergies then we would have had one.

Her allergies are lessening as she's getting a bit older so I'm hoping when she turns 2 that we can.

If you can't, I've seen some cute ones with "milk" and cookies type things, I assume just coloured water, I'm not twisted
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