Cake smash...

[SleepingStandingUp]

I know I am. But if people can convince me I'm not I'll be much happier 😁😁

When DS was 1 I was opposed to cake smash photoshoots because it was a waste of cake. And he was tube fed all wouldn't have touched it and was actually in the middle of a 4 month awful hospitalisation for his birthday and when he came out he ate even less than when he went in and he had/has sensory issues that just would have made it not viable.

Now I have twins who would devour a cake shop between them, who don't seem to have any issues touching messy stuff or eating ANYTHING and I really want one.

But I know they're terrible.

Would I be unreasonable to bury my principles for some cute photos of fat babies covering in icing and cream?

@lazylinguist

So you're saying people from a lower social class dislike cake smashes because they're dirty? But middle class people mostly dislike cake smashes because they're tacky . So what category of people like them then?

Well I'm definitely fully working class so I can't help you there. My father would have been concerned about appearances when we were younger as he was a single parent but always encouraged the grandkids to get dirty so I can't help

I must have missed the bit where it came with a mandatory outfit

OK, have changed my mind. If you agree to getting matching cake smash outfits your entire family, adults and children, preferably with matching headbands, then I've decided I'm all for it!

@peachescariad

I'd never heard of it until this thread but WTF? Absolutely beyond pathetic....pandering to the 'like' obsessed SM junkies...

Why is everyone so obsessed with frigging social media? It's been clearly stated I am (apparently) sufficiently without class that these pictures would go up in my house. As i don't have a live stream from my living room on FB it's got flip all to do with social media! And if I did post one on FB, I have a couple of hundred friends. A handful would reply with a positive comment, a handful with what have you done, a handful asking if they're too old for it and the majority would scroll on by. I mean I have no issue with you thinking I'm pathetic for wanting these pictures up in my house, or even wanting them taken, but at least get it accurate

@Irelate

I must have missed the bit where it came with a mandatory outfit

OK, have changed my mind. If you agree to getting matching cake smash outfits your entire family, adults and children, preferably with matching headbands, then I've decided I'm all for it!

Oh gosh could you imagine. We could all be lined up behind with a slice of cake on a plate eating it delicately but with me in a tutu and headband and DH and DS in pants and a bowtie 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Do you think I'm going to invite people over and force them to watch a 3 hour screening of the babies smeared in cake?

Well, you might...

Probably not though.
I just meant that if I was shown a picture of a child smeared in food I'd instinctively recoil and most likely say, "Ugh!" or something.
Then I'd feel bad about having reacted to a photo of someone's baby like that.
At least, if warned, I'd be prepared and could pretend I wasn't repulsed.

It would still make me feel queasy though, but then I've never understood why advertisers try to promote their products using babies covered in food.
It obviously appeals to some.

@WhatATimeToBeAlive

Is this a thing? Blimey.

Only within select echelons of society, apparently. Seemingly somewhere between skanky chav, pathetic instagrammer and thief of the food of the starving.

@SleepingStandingUp

either tell people in advance what pictures you want to show them or don't mind if they involuntarily recoil. Do you think I'm going to invite people over and force them to watch a 3 hour screening of the babies smeared in cake? I get that people on the thread think I'm just a chav who is trying to grow my Instagram (??) and I guess that does then make me want to respond. I haven't told anyone who doesn't like them that they're wrong or that ianbu, just have continued to respond to replies. Presumably I should just agree with all the posts telling me I'm a skanky chav using my kids to make myself popular because I'm not allowed to disagree with posters?

I think you've conducted yourself brilliantly. I confess that if I started a thread about something so absolutely harmless and devoid of any moral value whatsoever, and people got this worked up about it (paragraphs upon paragraphs about how wrong and inferior it is, followed by OF COURSE I'M NOT JUDGING, OF COURSE IT DOESN'T MATTER TO ME, TO EACH THEIR OWN"...ah, Mumsnet) then I might have been tempted to poke the fire a bit. I'd never do it over something that actually mattered, but family photo shoots with cake... The class obsession on here does depress me a bit, actually. I'm glad someone else also remembered the fruit bowl one.

The Queen has probably never done a cake smash shoot with any of her children or grandchildren (she probably doesn't shop at Boden either), but I'm pretty sure that if you told her about yours, she would tell you how lovely it sounded and how she hoped you all enjoy it.

@LaMarschallin

Do you think I'm going to invite people over and force them to watch a 3 hour screening of the babies smeared in cake?

Well, you might...

Probably not though.
I just meant that if I was shown a picture of a child smeared in food I'd instinctively recoil and most likely say, "Ugh!" or something.
Then I'd feel bad about having reacted to a photo of someone's baby like that.
At least, if warned, I'd be prepared and could pretend I wasn't repulsed.

It would still make me feel queasy though, but then I've never understood why advertisers try to promote their products using babies covered in food.
It obviously appeals to some.

When you come over for coffee I promise to preemt any presentation with "ooh, we had a cake smash for Harold and Lou, do you want to see?" late enough in the visit that you can excuse yourself by needing to rush away

@ShebaShimmyShake thank you. Adobe of us don't even really know a fruit bowl is. For whole fruit or like felt cocktail? Either way you're getting a dessert bowl and a tablespoon.
And I reckon Kate has her Cake Smash photos under a secrecy order and locked away in the ensuite

It's a personal preference thing. If you want to do it, do it!!

I think its awful. And usually the parents who have them are the type to plaster it all over social media. Which I'd feel was a bit of a fuck you to the many people who can't afford to feed their families at the moment. And I think they look horrible!
Also, you may want to reconsider referring to your children as fat!

A cake smash no... But I‘d dress the twins as Krystle Carrington and Alexis Colby and photograph them have a Dynasty cat fight.

@draughtycatflap

A cake smash no... But I‘d dress the twins as Krystle Carrington and Alexis Colby and photograph them have a Dynasty cat fight.

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Very tacky especially of you post it on Facebook. No one is genuinely interested in watching your kid make a mess

But I‘d dress the twins as Krystle Carrington and Alexis Colby and photograph them have a Dynasty cat fight.

I am all ears for your Instagram feed.

Idly wondering whether there is a crossover between people who moralise about the tackiness of cakesmashes and people who think that trick or treating at Halloween is disgusting and 'letting your children beg'.

Tacky. .. just for Facebook likes

I've actually never seen a cake smash photo on Facebook, ever.

@Ilen I hate cake smashes but love Halloween!

@WaterOffADucksCrack

I think its awful. And usually the parents who have them are the type to plaster it all over social media. Which I'd feel was a bit of a fuck you to the many people who can't afford to feed their families at the moment. And I think they look horrible! Also, you may want to reconsider referring to your children as fat!

By that logic no one should ever post anything as there will always be someone who can't afford to do it. Family meal with grandparents first time since lockdown? Fuck you to those with kids, without parents, or can't afford pub food. First day at school? Fuck you to anyone who's childless or couldn't get into your school. Bad day at work? HUGE fuck you to those who have lost their jobs. And I get that you'll say you don't have SM or you never post anything on it, but if you're looking to be offended you can be offended by anything.

JUST IMAGINE how much food is wasted with BLW or arts and crafts and sensory classes, and that's before the amount supermarkets throw away and households throw away because they didn't get time to eat it.

@Cherrylipbalm

Very tacky especially of you post it on Facebook. No one is genuinely interested in watching your kid make a mess

MN is obsessed with the idea that no one else is interested in anything to do with anyone elses child. What strange friendships and relationships people much have imo. If my friends or family post a picture of their child, I'm at minimum vaguely interested cos I care about their parents

MN is obsessed with the idea that no one else is interested in anything to do with anyone elses child.

The obsession is more to do with anything deemed to be "attention seeking", because good women should be self-effacing, silent and invisible. It goes hand in hand with the endless bloody moralising about everything.

I get it, I'm a woman so I was raised on the Cinderella complex too, but you'd think by now more people would have figured out what a lot of cobblers it is.

@draughtycatflap

A cake smash no... But I‘d dress the twins as Krystle Carrington and Alexis Colby and photograph them have a Dynasty cat fight.

Erm, I'm too young...

I have absolutely no problem with kids making a mess or messy but honestly cannot see anything cute or charming about small babies covered in bits of cake and cream.

Sounds like a total waste of cake to me.

@Yeahnahmum

Tacky. .. just for Facebook likes

Genuinely, I have the cutest babies ever. If I got my external validation from thumbs up on Facebook I could literally post any picture of them.

Also, you may want to reconsider referring to your children as fat! They're 9 months old, they have no concept that other people associate the word Mommy uses when she's squishing their thighs with something bad. They currently are fat babies, owing to a lack of crawling and walking and a huge interest in cake food. That isn't a bad thing, it's a descriptor.

@ShebaShimmyShake

I've actually never seen a cake smash photo on Facebook, ever.

Nor me, perhaps I need to be on Snap Chat it so I can Snap Chat it to everyone. Is that less or more cool than posting on the Gram or FB?