My friend and I often text about what's going on in our dating lives. I started chatting with a guy few days ago and, sounds silly, but he's the first in a very long time that I feel genuinely excited about (we have loads in common and he's just my type physically etc). He's also been really attentive, keen to meet etc. and just generally nice.
I texted her incredulously (and jokily!!) that I'm shocked someone so hot and seemingly nice has the time to be so attentive as I assume he's got loads of other women interested. I said I wonder whether he's one of those blokes that I really fancy but that other women actually find quite odd-looking (this does happen from time to time, I have quirky taste!)
I was expecting her to laugh and say haha, yes he does look a bit odd - or, don't be silly, of course he'd like you (as I would do to her - I am ALWAYS building her up like this), but instead she texted back 'He's being nice because he hasn't met you' (!!!)
She then a few messages later said 'Not to be cynical - but this is the part they can deal with - they like this bit', which I guess makes it feel less personal, but the initial message was quite hurtful.
I also feel like she just sometimes makes little digs like this that are disguised to make me feel a bit shit, particularly if I'm lacking in confidence at the time. She's also done it about my appearance when we've been together and getting ready etc. If I need the slightest bit of reassurance, she sort of uses it as a way to make me feel bad.
But maybe I'm just overly sensitive?
Her sister is super bitchy to her about her appearance so perhaps it's just her family culture and she doesn't notice. But I really don't like it, as I do a lot to make her feel good about herself, compliment her a lot because I know she feels self conscious about her appearance.
If it's useful background, she has had really bad luck with men for years and years. I have also had bad luck, but I objectively get a lot more interest and decent behavior / have had actual relationships with nice people etc. She says she doesn't care about this, but I think she does.
I would never assume she's jealous, but I just don't see where these kinds of bitchy comments come from.
I always give her the most generous interpretation of events when she's rejected and looking for answers, but occasionally I do tell her when I feel like she's not doing herself any favours (ie chasing men who clearly aren't interested) and tell her she deserves better. Maybe I shouldn't do this, even though she seems to be asking me for advice.
Or am I massively overreacting here, and I should just forget it?