I have one of each, and I completely agree with
*@HelplessProcrastinator*. The amount of people who think and voice their assumption that I've stopped having children because my second is a girl.
I secretly wanted my first to be a boy, for the sole reason I typically find little boys easier to manage than little girls, so as a first time Mam, I'd have felt less daunted. I'd not have been disappointed with a girl in the slightest.
With my second I didn't mind either way. Yes I was excited when I found out I was expecting a girl, but I'd still have been excited for another boy.
After multiple losses, I'm over the moon to have two children at all, even more so that they're both healthy! People assuming I feel DS is inferior to DD, and that DD completed our family based on her gender boils my piss.
That being said, those are MY feelings, about MY children. I wouldn't think less of somebody for feeling otherwise about their offspring. You can't help the way you feel. People could have a multitude of reasons for craving a particular gender.
A healthy baby is of course important, but that doesn't invalidate any other feelings we may have about our offspring. It's the same as minimising the effects and impact of birth trauma. It still seems commonplace to expect women to accept anything that happened during labour and birth, because their baby is alive. I'm not disputing that a healthy Mam and baby are the most important things, but that doesn't mean that the mental health, comfort and choices of the mother should be ignored.