This mum and children

[Waterlamp]

Why do some mums want to be the centre of attention then pass it onto their child? Do they pass it onto their child on purpose or not?

Said mum is the smiley, over confident talks to everyone, PTA mum. Child is in the centre of all class photos, the dance shows, invited to all the parties. I've always thought how happy they must be inside but the children of hers are actually jealous of friendships, have to be the centre of attention at parties and in private other mums say how much trouble the children actually cause and how the mum is ott. The mum went out of her way to discuss an arrangement for a play date that involved her child and another infront of me, it was very blatant and I thought this is where they must get it from. These children are quite popular and the mum doesn't have private one on one convos at the school gates she has to be extra loud and let everyone hear the convo. I thought it was confidence but actually is it insecurity? Is it the mean girls film affect where everyone thinks they want to be with the popular one but doesn't actually like them that much? Are their mums like this at your schools? Why do they feel the need to be so extra

You should watch big little lies 😂

There's always people who enjoy chaos and loads of plans. There's always people who are popular and pretty and stuff. But it's just who they are and you can't change anything.

There's a mum near me who has decided to dress like someone from the traveller community for the last few years. Her children are also in similar clothing to match her image. Her husband now wears a peaky cap. The worst picture was when she had an animal print skirt on and her daughter's had the dresses to match. . Her son had his hair gelled over to one side and had a big gold chain around his neck. She had her hand on her hip pouting. She gets so many compliments. I just think she's so fake and such a wannabe. Feel bad for her kids as she's forcing them to have an image to suit what she wants to be perceived as. Let your children find their own style is my view.

You do have to just be happy with your own style and leave the brown nosers to it haha

@Waterlamp

You're sticking up for someone that is pushing her children to have to be the best and not actually be nice to other kids and just be happy in herself. I honestly have my own children to look after, how wrong you all are apart from the ones that actually get it. No problem have a nice day and I hope your children don't have to be a part of this clique that it will turn into at secondary school

You mention none of that in your original post, it's pretty clear that you're issue isn't with the children's behaviour but with how social and successful the mum is.

I get jealous when I see parents that look like they have it all together, that have lots of friends, a good career and that is normal. However, it doesn't bother me to the point where I will bitch about them on a forum. I also don't understand why you have her on Facebook if you dislike her this much? It all sounds very petty.

I've only skim-RTFT so haven't seen the content of most of the replies.

Are their mums like this at your schools?

I wouldn’t know. Most are pleasant and seem very nice people but I only see them at pick-up, drop-off and the occasional kids’ party.

in private other mums say how much trouble the children actually cause and how the mum is ott

You see, that kind of behaviour would cause me more concern than a socially-confident, loud conversationalist. If anything shouts ‘mean girls’ from your post, it’s this. No way would I be encouraging parents to gossip to me about other parents. It’s unnecessarily unkind and it’s also doubtful anything good or positive will come out of it for you.

I thought it was confidence but actually is it insecurity?

IME this often is the case. If anyone behaves like this in DC’s playground it’s one of the fathers, a competitive and reasonably successful local businessman who’s usually heard long before he’s seen. But he’s also perfectly pleasant, friendly and harmless.

We've all met that 'If I've been to the moon, you've been there twice' type of person. I can tune them out like radio static but you find her an irritant. That’s life; no one can expect to like everyone. Easy enough just to avoid her and be civil.

It was the same at ds primary school, the children of parents who were members of the PTA got the best parts in school plays or in school assemblies, the other kids got what was left. It was the happiest day ever when he moved up to Comprehensive school as parents are not involved.

I make effort and like her posts even when I know her and her children are actually bitchy and me me me, yet she rarely likes my stuff

How is she meant to know that her posts arent really liked if sycophants like you keep liking them?

Said mum is the smiley, over confident talks to everyone, PTA mum

Smiling and talking to everyone? The fucking evil bitch.

@BlogTheBlogger

I make effort and like her posts even when I know her and her children are actually bitchy and me me me, yet she rarely likes my stuff

How is she meant to know that her posts arent really liked if sycophants like you keep liking them?

Yes, OP. Tell this woman everything you’ve said here. I’m sure she’d be grateful for the heads-up. Otherwise she’ll just stay smiley and confident forever.

I just find that I naturally filter out any people like that. Injust leave them to get on with it. Im very confident but that has not always been the case. But im generally quiet and chatty to those I want to be chatty with. I gor really pushed out at school but became more confident in myself in that I dont feel the need to fit in, impress others (i'd rather stay under the radar) or be part of a clique. I always think that there are a significant number of people who act loud and bitchy toward others are under confident. What they don't realise is as they blather on I just nod and make a quick exit as I couldn't give a stuff.