People are so rude

[Lollypopsun]

Just a little rant, just been out for lunch with OH and the children, went to a local bar wasn't too busy when we got there waitress said to choose a table, so we sat down ordered food and drinks. While waiting it started to get busy so the waitress started showing customers to tables, a family came in that wanted a table of 6 and 4 which there wasn't two together. One of them pointed to our table of 4 and said can you ask them to move so we can sit there, I heard the waitress say no I'm not asking them. One of them had the nerve to come over and say can you move to another table so we can sit there, I obviously said no.
I was a bit gobsmacked that someone who be so rude to walk in and expect someone to move for them.
Would you have moved for them?

They're not being rude to ask, no. You're not being rude to refuse either.

No I would not have moved

I don't think it was fair to ask you to move in these circumstances. It put you in a position to have to say no. That massively would have pissed me off.

I might have moved if we were between courses and it was easy to do.
Dependent on how they asked of course.

I wouldn't have moved with young children or if we were busy eating though.

If you already had your food and drinks then yes very rude. But if you were still waiting and there was another table available for you, then no I don’t think it was particularly rude. I probably would have moved, but I don’t think you should have had to.

• I might have moved if we were between courses and it was easy to do. Dependent on how they asked of course.*

That's really annoying for waiting staff a day difficult for calculating your bill if they use electronic tills & billing.

Why wouldn't you move if you hadn't started eating? It would have been a nice thing to do.
You might want someone to do the same for you one day.

Thought you could only accommodate a table of 6 in these covid times? So to ask for a 6 and a 4 is out of order as its a large party together?

well done at saying no. I would have done the same .
They really were rude.

So you’d ordered but hadn’t received your drinks or food yet?
I’d have overheard the request to the waitress, and offered myself.
Small thing for you, makes a bigger difference for them.

Should have said as long your bill remained attached to that table

It's fine for them to ask politely and fine for you to say no. I would have moved if our food hadn't arrived but not if it had.

Depends on other circumstances. If there were other free tables and it was an easy move, then I would, but I'm usually very accomodating of other people.

Was their lunch a special event where they wanted to all sit together? If they were out for aunt Moiras 50th, a wake or other event, AND there was another tableIi was happy with, then I'd consider moving, yes.

I think it’s presumptuous to ask pretty much anything of strangers in a restaurant. Mostly people go there to relax and be left alone. So yes, they were impolite.

One of them pointed to our table of 4 and said can you ask them to move so we can sit there.

I suppose the assumption would be that if you don't ask you don't get but it would never have entered my head to ask this question. It is entitled to expect people will move aside to accommodate you. But I also doubt I'd have bothered to create a thread about it. I long ago leaned that if you waste good-quality angst on every rude, CF you meet, you'll end up spending half your life mad.

Not worth it. But Well done that waitress!

The table we choose was ideal for the pram to be next to the table and we had ordered our food, I certainly wasn't moving.

Was their lunch a special event where they wanted to all sit together? If they were out for aunt Moiras 50th, a wake or other event, AND there was another tableIi was happy with, then I'd consider moving, yes.

Then they should have booked.

Given the current situation with covid I think you were right to say no. If you had moved to a new table to accommodate them the waitress would have had to sanitize the table and seating area again before letting them sit. I'm sure she has enough extra work to do already while following current safety precautions re covid. My local restaurant allows 15 mins changeover time between bookings to allow staff to sanitize the area between bookings. This family were cheeky to ask.

I don't think its rude to ask you, no.

I would have moved. I don't think you were BU not to move, but I do think your reaction to being asked is.

They wanted you to sit at a less good table and to be inconvenienced so that they weren't. Why would anyone think this was ok?

I don't think its rude of them to ask. I don't know whether I'd have moved, it'd depend on whether our meals were already being served and if there were other tables I'd be comfortable at.

Ultimately they asked and it was your choice, it isn't a big deal.

As long as you hadn't received any food or drinks yet, why didn't you just move?

I think it's extremely entitled to ask the staff to move people from a table they're already seated at, so that this party could be accommodated. Why on earth, with a party that size, haven't they pre-booked the tables? At our local pubs, in the time of covid, we book from week to week.

If I was waiting for my food and drinks I would have moved and I don't think it was rude of them to ask. If I was actually eating then I think that would be very rude!

I saw something similar to this happen in one of our local pubs last week. The people were actually eating and a family who came in asked the server if he could move them because they always sat at that table! Yes, some people are just rude.
I know a few people who work in hospitality who can't wait for eat out to help out to be over because some customers have behaved so badly.