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People are so rude

101 replies

Lollypopsun · 31/08/2020 19:08

Just a little rant, just been out for lunch with OH and the children, went to a local bar wasn't too busy when we got there waitress said to choose a table, so we sat down ordered food and drinks. While waiting it started to get busy so the waitress started showing customers to tables, a family came in that wanted a table of 6 and 4 which there wasn't two together. One of them pointed to our table of 4 and said can you ask them to move so we can sit there, I heard the waitress say no I'm not asking them. One of them had the nerve to come over and say can you move to another table so we can sit there, I obviously said no.
I was a bit gobsmacked that someone who be so rude to walk in and expect someone to move for them.
Would you have moved for them?

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Lockdowners · 31/08/2020 19:47

Yes rude to ask and well done for saying no.

Butchyrestingface · 31/08/2020 19:51

Meh. I don't think it was particularly rude to ask, certainly not compared to some of the cheek you see reported on here. And certainly not worthy of a "people are so rude" thread title. 🤷‍♀️

Your gob was smacked over a relative trifle, I think.

HerNameWasEliza · 31/08/2020 19:53

I'm not actually sure if this is a reverse? Of course it's not rude to ask though you are perfectly entitled to say no. It's a shame when people get this precious rather than being willing to put themselves out the teeniest bit for others. I would have absolutely moved if not big deal and indeed would have offered if I'd overhead what you did. If the pram didn't fit anywhere else then fine to stay put. I can't help thinking this isn't what it appears to be as a question? Surely no-one can get that het up about something like this?

SillyLittleBiscuit · 31/08/2020 19:55

I’d have moved if it was easy and I’d probably not chosen a table larger than I needed in first place.

wewillmeetagain · 31/08/2020 19:55

Yes it was very rude of them! If it was that important that they were sat together then they should have booked!

CarolVordermansArse · 31/08/2020 20:16

I asked if we could change tables in a filthy pub once because something horrible was on the minging carpet between my seat and the wall (didn't say that though as the entire place was minging anyway) and we were told no because of the till being linked to that table.

Hadn't realised just how bad it was at first so just paid for our drinks and left without ordering food, even a change of table wouldn't have helped by that time so having it linked to the till was neither here nor there.

WiddlinDiddlin · 31/08/2020 20:19

Not rude to ask, but if you do you have to accept the answer might well be no.

I have had to ask folk if they'd move, most commonly in Five Guys where there is usually (no matter what branch) only one or two tables that are wheelchair accessible.

Most of the time staff will ask for me but I have had to ask myself once when they wouldn't do that, and the people at the table were lovely about it.

Original poster
Lollypopsun · 31/08/2020 20:31

@Ghostlyglow

I saw something similar to this happen in one of our local pubs last week. The people were actually eating and a family who came in asked the server if he could move them because they always sat at that table! Yes, some people are just rude. I know a few people who work in hospitality who can't wait for eat out to help out to be over because some customers have behaved so badly.
That is terrible and put the server in an awful position , I really do feel sorry for hospitality staff they must deal with some awful customers.
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JaJaDingDong · 31/08/2020 20:34

The table we choose was ideal for the pram to be next to the table and we had ordered our food, I certainly wasn't moving.

Jesus! God forbid you ever need a favour from someone Shock

DustyMaiden · 31/08/2020 20:39

I would’ve moved. Am I strange?

BigBlondeBimbo · 31/08/2020 20:39

I wouldn't have found it shocking to be asked to move. But, if I was the server, I would have been annoyed that I had just said no and they ignored that and asked you anyway. Super entitled.

I used to work in some vay fancy restaurants. You wouldn't believe some of the behaviour.

One involved a lady getting shitfaced and soiling herself, then using all those fancy hand towels you get in nice places to clean herself up 🤢🤢🤢🤢.

People are grim. I loved working in restaurants just to see some of the behaviour. Best people watching job ever!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 31/08/2020 20:41

It was very rude of them to ask.

BigBlondeBimbo · 31/08/2020 20:44

Just to add...it wasn't wee!

Sorry if that lowered the tone! It is a 100% true story though and probably one of my worst ones from days in hospitality.

I have so many more though!

JaJaDingDong · 31/08/2020 20:47

It was very rude of them to ask

Why?

emilybrontescorsett · 31/08/2020 20:48

No I would not have moved. They should have pre booked. I often chose a table due to where it is e.g. By the window, where I have more light or more privacy. It's first come first served as far as I'm concerned.

IndecentFeminist · 31/08/2020 20:48

Why on earth would it be reasonable for them to ask?! I've never heard of such a ridiculous idea.

Pelleas · 31/08/2020 20:48

If there was another reasonable table available and our food hadn't come yet, I'd have moved.

I wouldn't have moved if the only other table had been by the loos or similar.

Username7521 · 31/08/2020 20:50

I would have moved and actually would have offered when I saw them talking to the server. I don’t think it was rude to ask. I think it’s important for kids to see their parents being kind to people they don’t know.

InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 31/08/2020 20:51

@JaJaDingDong

Why wouldn't you move if you hadn't started eating? It would have been a nice thing to do. You might want someone to do the same for you one day.
Because you like where you are sitting and are comfortable there.
InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 31/08/2020 20:53

@Username7521

I would have moved and actually would have offered when I saw them talking to the server. I don’t think it was rude to ask. I think it’s important for kids to see their parents being kind to people they don’t know.
One's in a bloody pram, isn't going to remember Mum and Dad's pointless virtue signalling. Hmm
MusicWithRocksIn1t · 31/08/2020 20:54

I dont think its terribly rude of them to ask if they did so politely but if I had gotten us all settled and the kids were behaving (eldest is 3) I'd have said no too.

Ilikewinter · 31/08/2020 20:59

I wouldn't have moved either, if they wanted tables together then they should have booked them

Isitactuallyme · 31/08/2020 20:59

If I'd overheard their conversation and no food or drinks had arrived I would have offered to move. Why wouldn't you? Why can't people just be kind?

Angelina82 · 31/08/2020 21:01

You OBVIOUSLY said no? Why? As long as I wasn’t in the middle of eating I would have offered to move. Sometimes it’s nice to be nice.

InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 31/08/2020 21:01

@Isitactuallyme

If I'd overheard their conversation and no food or drinks had arrived I would have offered to move. Why wouldn't you? Why can't people just be kind?
Why can't people be responsible for themselves and book a table if they know they'll be in a large party rather than automatically expecting the rest of the world to accommodate them? How kind is that type of attitude Hmm?
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