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People are so rude

101 replies

Lollypopsun · 31/08/2020 19:08

Just a little rant, just been out for lunch with OH and the children, went to a local bar wasn't too busy when we got there waitress said to choose a table, so we sat down ordered food and drinks. While waiting it started to get busy so the waitress started showing customers to tables, a family came in that wanted a table of 6 and 4 which there wasn't two together. One of them pointed to our table of 4 and said can you ask them to move so we can sit there, I heard the waitress say no I'm not asking them. One of them had the nerve to come over and say can you move to another table so we can sit there, I obviously said no.
I was a bit gobsmacked that someone who be so rude to walk in and expect someone to move for them.
Would you have moved for them?

OP posts:
Burnthurst187 · 31/08/2020 21:02

For me it all depends on "how" you were asked. If said person was very polite then I wouldn't have an issue (as long as we hadn't received our order yet) but if they were abrupt and bad mannered then no chance

InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 31/08/2020 21:02

@Angelina82

You OBVIOUSLY said no? Why? As long as I wasn’t in the middle of eating I would have offered to move. Sometimes it’s nice to be nice.
Maybe they liked the table. Hmm She said it was best placed to set the pram by it.
WorraLiberty · 31/08/2020 21:04

I don't think they were rude to ask but of course it depends on how they asked.

I probably would've offered though.

Cornettoninja · 31/08/2020 21:06

@JaJaDingDong

The table we choose was ideal for the pram to be next to the table and we had ordered our food, I certainly wasn't moving.

Jesus! God forbid you ever need a favour from someone Shock

It’s not like this group could ever return a favour to a complete stranger is it?

@Lollypopsun I probably wouldn’t have moved either. If it was just me and DP then maybe but not guaranteed. It absolutely is a faff to start moving bags and coats (although I am chronically clumsy) and I wouldn’t appreciate being asked either.

I would absolutely move for someone who could only access limited tables (including because of a pram) but otherwise it’s just tough.

Stripesgalore · 31/08/2020 21:08

They were rude OP.

They shouldn’t have been bothering you or hassling the waitress to ask you.

Thisisnotnormal69 · 31/08/2020 21:13

@BigBlondeBimbo please start your own thread with hospitality horror stories, I love to read those Grin

BigBlondeBimbo · 31/08/2020 21:14

😂😂😂, I might...

Btw, is your name from American Dirt @Thisisnotnormal69? I loved that book!

heartsonacake · 31/08/2020 21:15

YANBU. They were rude to ask.

RatInADollhouse · 31/08/2020 21:23

@Cocomarine

So you’d ordered but hadn’t received your drinks or food yet? I’d have overheard the request to the waitress, and offered myself. Small thing for you, makes a bigger difference for them.
This. Everyone on MN is so easily offended.
RatInADollhouse · 31/08/2020 21:24

@BigBlondeBimbo

Just to add...it wasn't wee!

Sorry if that lowered the tone! It is a 100% true story though and probably one of my worst ones from days in hospitality.

I have so many more though!

Thank you for answering my main question about your precious post! Yuck that’s awful.
vanillandhoney · 31/08/2020 21:28

I'm surprised people think it's acceptable to ask other customers to just move in order to accommodate them.

Cheeky buggers. YANBU at all.
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WorraLiberty · 31/08/2020 21:30

@Stripesgalore

They were rude OP.

They shouldn’t have been bothering you or hassling the waitress to ask you.

One of them pointed to our table of 4 and said can you ask them to move so we can sit there, I heard the waitress say no I'm not asking them.

How is that 'hassling' the waitress?

CorianderLord · 31/08/2020 21:33

It was fine to ask, I'd have just moved tbh. No skin off my nose

PomBearSandwich · 31/08/2020 21:35

I’m baffled that so many people think this isn’t rude.

Why on earth did those people think they were more entitled to that table than the OP and her family? They were there first, they got there early to get a decent table.

The other people are massive entitled CFs expecting to turf out the OP just because they think they are more worthy of the table.

itsgettingweird · 31/08/2020 21:38

@BigBlondeBimbo

Just to add...it wasn't wee!

Sorry if that lowered the tone! It is a 100% true story though and probably one of my worst ones from days in hospitality.

I have so many more though!

I believe you. I use to work meeting people at airports.

Pissed guests get off planes in all sorts of states.

The most confusing is the ones who appear to not even notice they've spiked and walk through all innocent ConfusedGrin

Florencex · 31/08/2020 21:40

Why on earth did these people think they were more entitled to the table than OP

They did not say they were more entitled. They saw OP and family had not been served yet and asked if they would mind taking another table. Other than the OP felt it was a good spot for a pram there was no suggestion it was a better table.

Some people may have moved so that another group could sit together, plenty of kind people around.

Angelina82 · 31/08/2020 21:55

Maybe they liked the table. hmm She said it was best placed to set the pram by it.

It was the use of the word obviously that I couldn’t understand. As if it’s abnormal to do something nice for someone. Mind you this is Mumsnet so......

InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 31/08/2020 21:58

@Angelina82

Maybe they liked the table. hmm She said it was best placed to set the pram by it.

It was the use of the word obviously that I couldn’t understand. As if it’s abnormal to do something nice for someone. Mind you this is Mumsnet so......

Yeah, it's totally nice to tell a server to move a seated family who were there first and then, when told 'no' to go directly to them and ask for the table where they were already sitting Hmm.
Angelina82 · 31/08/2020 22:04

Yeah, it's totally nice to tell a server to move a seated family who were there first and then, when told 'no' to go directly to them and ask for the table where they were already sitting hmm.

They told the waitress or did they ask her? Anyway as I said I would have offered before it even came to that. I would have thought most thoughtful people would.

Lockheart · 31/08/2020 22:05

@InDeoEstMeaFiducia they didn't "tell" the waitress to ask OP, they asked the waitress if she could ask. It's in the OP.

One of them pointed to our table of 4 and said can you ask them to move so we can sit there, I heard the waitress say no I'm not asking them.

InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 31/08/2020 22:07

@Angelina82

Yeah, it's totally nice to tell a server to move a seated family who were there first and then, when told 'no' to go directly to them and ask for the table where they were already sitting hmm.

They told the waitress or did they ask her? Anyway as I said I would have offered before it even came to that. I would have thought most thoughtful people would.

Star

There you go, OP, you've just won the MN Virtue Signaller's Lottery! You are: selfish, thoughtless, not nice and . . . drum roll . . . unkind.

I'm sure this is going to keep you up tonight.

InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 31/08/2020 22:08

[quote Lockheart]@InDeoEstMeaFiducia they didn't "tell" the waitress to ask OP, they asked the waitress if she could ask. It's in the OP.

One of them pointed to our table of 4 and said can you ask them to move so we can sit there, I heard the waitress say no I'm not asking them.[/quote]
Right, my bad! OP, I hope you have suitably atoned. You should have got up immediately, baby and all and offered to pay for their meal. 10 lashes with a wet noodle for you.

Chochito · 31/08/2020 22:12

Stupid question but don't you have to book?

InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 31/08/2020 22:14

@Chochito

Stupid question but don't you have to book?
No, all you have to do is make sure the restaurant has MNers in it, they would definitely vacate as soon as they saw you, I mean, just jump up and offer, as they are all kind.
Bbq1 · 31/08/2020 22:16

So entitled. Gobsmacked that they even asked. They even asked in a really rude way - pointing at you and talking about you to the waitress as if you weren't even there. If they had spoken to you politely explaining the situation, provided you hadn't been served you might have moved but no, you were right.