Wwyd: colleague lied about me

[Delilahfunke]

Hi all!

Really don’t know what to do about this situation and need some advice .

I have Just left a group meeting Where a colleague told an outright lie about me in front of other members of staff and our Two Bosses.

It is regarding an incident that happened last friday and affects an individual i am responsible for-student . I wasn’t told a key piece of information about said individual.
The first i heard of it was my boss calling to Ask what happened as they had heard about the incident from another member of staff . My boss was worried and all i could say was i havent been informed i dont have any details yet.

No one had approached me during /after the incident to let me know what happened.

I feel completely betrayed .

@Delilahfunke you need to have a meeting or preferably email your boss and reiterate you position.

You were not aware something happened until she rang, as soon as she did you investigated. Mention all further steps /action you have taken like talking to the student, making a new risk assessment, changes to prevent it happening again, communication etc.

You need to reassure them that while you didn't know, as soon as you did you took all steps necessary and fulfilled your duties.

Then tackle the communications issue,the lying and being left out.

I'd take this up with the governing body after discussing this , first, with your union.

how are you OP ? did you clarify things with your boss 🌺

I'm still wondering what was the outcome of this? So bizarre!

Sorry, wrong thread 🙄

Very sorry I didn’t reply . I appreciate all the advice.

It’s only got worse and the same colleague has lied again and accused me of calling her names .

So I’ve made a claim for bullying and discrimination against this colleague.

I’m depressed about the whole situation and probably won’t be returning.

Sorry, that's awful for you 💐

I'm sorry about this. I hope you have a union and are keeping a diary of everything.

Wow, far to confusing for a Sunday evening

This sounds like something that could have been very easily straightened out if you hadn't been so excitable. You were not 'completely betrayed.' Or bullied or discriminated against. There was a minor breakdown in communications. That's all.
But if this is your usual histrionic manner, I can see why colleagues might find it easier to go over your head.

Do you have any support from a professional body such as ACAS?

@katy1213

This sounds like something that could have been very easily straightened out if you hadn't been so excitable. You were not 'completely betrayed.' Or bullied or discriminated against. There was a minor breakdown in communications. That's all. But if this is your usual histrionic manner, I can see why colleagues might find it easier to go over your head.

The baiting on AIBU is so tireseome.

Name calling and pot-stirring over RL situations is so unnecessary.

Why all the capital letters in inappropriate places?

All you had to say was she told you well after the event, not at the time.

Made a claim for discrimination ? In what way ? This seems a massive leap from 'He said she said'

Katy 1213 🙄judgemental much ?

Wow ! Blame a woman for being excitable..

Oh ffs @jessstan1 , i did do that.

However If You would rather focus on How my phone capitalises letters ”inappropriately” i guess You are not the type of person i seek empathy from.

OP You come across as immature.

This thread is just weird. A pp asks a relevant question after a two month gap then says it's the wrong thread.....then it just carries on

That’s shit OP. Hope your grievance gets you some resolution.

did you get the first incident clarified with your boss?

If you have not done so, include the time line gazelda wrote abouve regarding the first incudent. plus the false accusation of name calling. make sure that you establish that this is a pattern of behaviour.

are there any other suspect incidents that seemed not a lot at the time but are more significant now?

I’m amazed so many posters have found it so hard to understand the time line
I’m sorry OP it sounds like you are having a tough time of it, horrible situation to be in. Have you contacted your union?