So a few years ago I joined a local dog group who have same breed of dogs as I do, and made some friends on there who I would meet up with occasionally, usually a big group of us causing mayhem on a beach with a million dogs 🤣🤣
The group was headed by an older guy with his female friend and Through them I made a good friend, my age with 2 dog's so we would sometimes meet up without the group either on our own or with our dogs.
We've had similar experiences with anxiety and depression so we've bonded over that and tried to be there for each other and it's been nice to meet up now and then away from the group so we can chat.
The main guy of the group has been amazing so far with us both, supported us, cheered us both up and arranged meet ups either with one or both of us, along with the other lady and anyone else who wants to join.
He mentioned a little while ago that we haven't met up for ages due to covid so we chatted online between us all about sorting something out after the bank holiday, we live in a seaside place and it's just been far too busy.
Last night my friend messaged asking what I was doing today as she's having a hard time at the moment so I said nothing let's meet up. We arranged for her to come to mine with the dogs, walk them then back to mine for a cuppa and chat after once the dogs where calm 🤣🤣
We had a lovely couple of hours and took some photos for Facebook.
Not long after she gets a sarcastic message from main guy saying 'thanks for the invite'
He then sent me the same thing... Basically making out we had deliberately left him out.
She was annoyed saying we had done nothing wrong so I messaged him to say ' sorry, not intentional, we just wanted some girlie time to chat and it was a last minute thing' not like the usual big beach meet up.
Now he's unfriended both of us and removed us from the dog group page.
My friend is fuming and very hurt as she's spent a lot of time with him and his family, I'm upset as it seems a massive over reaction.
So were we being unreasonable to not have invited him or is he being totally unreasonable to get so upset about it?
Obviously we didn't see an issue with arranging a dog walk just the 2 of us as we've done before and not hidden it. But we seem to have really upset him for him to unfriend us both and remove us from the group.
I'm so confused and feel like we've done nothing wrong but hate thinking I've upset someone who has previously been very kind towards me.
It's just really ruined what was a nice day