Irritated by Facebook

[Willowmartha1]

I know it's my own fault for not coming off it but Christ some days I am so irritated by it ! Everyone bragging about their amazing homes, kids, partners etc. My cousin is the latest irritant, her and hubby have just moved to a £500k remote farm which looks stunning to be honest but I can't bring myself to say anything ! I have a poky home with no garden. My mum is really poorly too with dementia and when I visit most weeks it breaks me so to hear about other people's joyousness is hard !! Sorry for the rant.

It’s very difficult isn’t it? I don’t think either of you are wrong. Your cousin is entitled to be delighted with her new home just as much as you are entitled to be dissatisfied with yours. Neither of you are wrong.

Maybe just take a step back from it for a little while.

I try to avoid facebook for this reason. I have also unfollowed 80% of my 'friends' so i don't have to see their holiday pics, nights out, perfectly behaved children, etc, etc.

I am going through a misery-likes-company phase at the moment and their happiness is killing me! (Yes yes i know terrible and selfish of me, but that's another whole thread)

I either have really poor friends or my algorithm is all screwed up. I never see any of this! I just see adverts and baby group updates.

Likewise I just see people complaining about everything - but then again I do too

@ChupForPresident I'm with you !

I think you're best off backing off for your own sanity.

They may be very happy, but more often than not the more frequently people need to show off a lifestyle or selfies etc the less happy they are, truly happy people don't feel the need, they're content.

Be careful what you wish for.

Delete it. It's the best thing you could do for your own sanity.

If something sucks the joy to the point where you're not happy for others, remove it.

Life is happier without it.

Then why do you have it?

Delete it, it's like being freed from the shittest prison.

I unfollowed a lot of friends last year. They were all the old work colleagues, people from school type of friends.
Now I only see updates from those who I want to and local businesses and interest groups that I want to know about.
Its much better now.
I tried coming off totally but it is a useful way to find out about stuff going on in the area and i missed out on news from people that I wanted to know about too.

I know people say it a lot but it’s true - the things people post on Facebook and Instagram are very carefully selected. The fact is yes someone’s house or holiday may look fantastic - all glossy and perfect, but you don’t see behind the scenes things like people’s marriages breaking down, or the arguments with their kids, or even simpler things like the messy kitchen when they haven’t had time to properly clean, etc etc.

You never know what’s going on behind the scenes. And often people who post the most are trying very hard to project a certain image, and you have to wonder what exactly motivates why they care so much about what people think.

I feel the same at the moment. I KNOW comparison is the thief of joy and I KNOW that I should remain positive but I am a bit suck of struggling through life tbh when others just seem to have things land at their feet.

My best friend messaged me last week saying 'I feel like I have won the lottery, I have the Self Employed grant and the low interest government loan coming in the next few days. Whoop'. She is a self employed cleaner who hasn't been able to work. I'm glad she us getting financial help but she's going in holiday with it! I've been working all through the pandemic (work in health research in a hospital). Felt like a snack in the face tbh. And don't even get me started in Eat Help to help out. I could have cried last night watching people eat tapas and drink wine in the sun whilst I was stuck in a car waiting for DS to finish band practice. Where do people get the cash from for all these holidays, days out, homes etc? Drives me mad. I Eran above 30k and I struggle!

I've learnt that a lot of Facebook is lies. A family member who is continually putting up perfect family pics - her husband has been having an affair - no doubt those pics are for the other woman.

Another family member put photos of her filtered made up gorgeous self and achievements of her son - is being diagnosed with a personality disorder and hits her son to make him do his homework.

I was so innocent to this until I started realising it's just people projecting their life through a deluded filter.

I have lots of genuine people on there who post pics of first day at school, dog antics etc which I love but other than that it's a pile of rubbish.
The unfollow button is great. Info one once or twice a week now and that's about it.

Sorry, new phone. Not used to keyboard yet.

I've been a Fb user for years and always checked it several times a day. A few weeks ago It got to the point where I started to feel down about myself and my life, as everyone on there was doing so much more fun and interesting stuff than me. It made me feel inadequate.
I haven't checked it for over 3 weeks now and it feels great actually!

Eh not really the fault of FB

Your jealous and bitter nature is the real issue

I don't have social media. I can't stand people that put their lives on for everyone to see as some kind of brag.
Honestly don't think I would have any friends left if I saw the things they put online about their perfect families. I couldn't stand it.

Don’t compare everyone else highlight reel with your behind the scenes.

Delete it! Best thing I ever did - you won't regret it. It is a feeling of being free!

Why can’t people just be happy for their family and friends? Seriously, there’s enough shit going on in the world - why can’t you be pleased for them? You wouldn’t be any more successful if they weren’t, remember that.

You're wrong to be blaming facebook. It's your use of it that's upsetting you.

I don't have a single relative as a "friend" on facebook, just a few of my own friends. But I do use it to keep track of local happenings and to communicate with experts in the subjects I'm interested in. I'd find it hard to be without facebook.

I'd suggest hiding posts from all the people whose posts upset you.

FB is a real time and energy drain.

I came off it in 2008 and haven't missed it at all, still have had a life since that time.

I deleted mine about 18 months ago. Honestly my mental health improved immediately.
I have however set up a fake name account so that I can continue to post on some interest sites about travel as well as buy and sell on marketplace when I moved recently.
Must say that most of my rl friends have done similar and we don't now use any social media

Boast alert: I've never been offended by anything on Facebook.
I don't use the thing. My friends and I communicate by phone, email and text.