Irritated by Facebook

[Willowmartha1]

I know it's my own fault for not coming off it but Christ some days I am so irritated by it ! Everyone bragging about their amazing homes, kids, partners etc. My cousin is the latest irritant, her and hubby have just moved to a £500k remote farm which looks stunning to be honest but I can't bring myself to say anything ! I have a poky home with no garden. My mum is really poorly too with dementia and when I visit most weeks it breaks me so to hear about other people's joyousness is hard !! Sorry for the rant.

@WorraLiberty

And lets not forget that every time one posts something nice or interesting they are apparently hiding se dark secret like bankruptcy, affair or a triple murder 🙄

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Thanks to MN, I will look at my friends in a very different way, their lives are obviously much more interesting than 1st thought 🤣🤣🤣

Anyone watching "good girls"? I wonder what they put on their FB

Oh and local businesses! It's good to keep up with them

Let's not forget that if people post about genuine upset or problems, they are immediately accused of being attention seekers or drama llama.

@SantaClaritaDiet

Let's not forget that if people post about genuine upset or problems, they are immediately accused of being attention seekers or drama llama.

You see, this in my opinion shows who people have on their SM. My friend posted about an injury her daughter suffered. It was quite serious. No one said anything bad. Everyone offered support, help, even send items from abroad to help with recovery in case they are too expensive or unavailable there etc.

That's what friends do. Actually friends not just fb friends. Imho if people controlled their friend lists better they would be much happier with the result.

I had people trying to add me after meeting me. "Sorry. It's just family and closed friends". No one got huffy.

@ImJustCoddlingAnEgg know exactly how you feel me too ! I guess I'm annoyed at the unfairness of life in general how some have constant good fortune and others have crap to deal with constantly.

I was recently in contact with a friend in real life who has emigrated and was back home for a visit. Her Facebook posts had led me to believe that she now considered her new country home, that her life had improved immeasurably since she moved there and that her long term health (mental and physical) had improved. When I spoke to her in real life I discovered that she is crippled with depression to the point of being unable to even work, and that she is homesick to the point of being physically ill.

I've also seen an acquaintance post photos with her massive newly built house in the background, looking fabulous, but I know (because she told me) that they live in one tiny section of the house because they can't afford to finish the rest of it, and they're unsure if they will ever be able to finish it.

It's all an illusion.

You know you can deactivate fb without deleting completely?
It's much easier not getting sucked in if you've done that, and if you find life feels happier then you can go on to delete completely (and even then you get a month's grace)
I love being FB free

[quote Willowmartha1]@ImJustCoddlingAnEgg know exactly how you feel me too ! I guess I'm annoyed at the unfairness of life in general how some have constant good fortune and others have crap to deal with constantly. [/quote]
Would other people having crap lives improve yours in any way?
Would it make your life better?
Your sense of fairness seems to be "if I can't have it ,then others shouldn't either".

If you don't like what people post then just mute them?

Muting takes half a second.

@ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble I'm guessing your someone with an amazing life then.

[quote Willowmartha1]@ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble I'm guessing your someone with an amazing life then. [/quote]
I think it's this attitude your problem, more than anything else.

Everybody has their own crap to deal with, some worst than others but for many who haven't possibly reached YOUR rock bottom, their own mess is hard enough.

You can either wish and strive to follow what you believe are the most rewarding lives
or you can call everything "luck" and resent everybody and wish them misery.

Your attitude only hurts you though, it has no impact on anyone else.

I prefer to cheer when people I like and love are happy, but that's just me.

Take a friend, a real one, with a beautiful seaside multi-million pounds house.

You can either be bitterly jealous, or jump at how lucky you are to have friends that can invite you in such beautiful settings.

We tend to invite and go to friends and family a lot - I don't mean we expect to be invited by the "rich ones", they are just part of the same lot.

@SantaClaritaDiet Not everyone has crap to deal with though do they ?? Plenty of people I know have incredibly blessed and peachy lives without any kind of sadness or problems to deal with. But I guess that's life.

[quote Willowmartha1]@SantaClaritaDiet Not everyone has crap to deal with though do they ?? Plenty of people I know have incredibly blessed and peachy lives without any kind of sadness or problems to deal with. But I guess that's life. [/quote]
You don't know that though. People can outwardly look as if they have everything but privately they have health problems/relatives with health problems/they're being bullied at work/they have an abusive husband. People barely admit those things to their close friends much less put it on Facebook.

[quote Willowmartha1]@SantaClaritaDiet Not everyone has crap to deal with though do they ?? Plenty of people I know have incredibly blessed and peachy lives without any kind of sadness or problems to deal with. But I guess that's life. [/quote]
I guarantee you that you won't find one person in the world with a truly blessed life, no sadness or problem

You cannot genuinely believe that.

It’s called boastbook in my house.
Come off it you will feel much better.

[quote Willowmartha1]@ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble I'm guessing your someone with an amazing life then. [/quote]
I'm not going to play misery top trumps with you. Mainly, because it sounds like you'd enjoy it.

However, I've accepted my lot in life and I make do with what I've got. My friends and family(the few i like/I'm in contact with) also being miserable wouldn't make things better for me, just add even more misery to MY life because I care about them and I want them happy,safe etc.

Happy and successful real friends and family boost you and bring you up with them.

It's a terrible attitude if you prefer to stay unhappy and bitter with the world. Again, you are the only one who suffers.

Being bitter at someone else’s happiness must be terrible for you guys.

It’s also terrible when something great happens in your life through sheer hard work, and suddenly no one can cope with it. Because they’re evidently all full of the jealously confessed to here.

Why can’t people cope with their friends having something? Even little things I find. To think all these jealous people sat at home hating on their friends.

For what it’s worth I don’t have social media as I have no need to show off about anything.

@SantaClaritaDiet actually I do know someone who has it all beautiful, gorgeous hubby, Lovely clever children the works, she has a holly Willoughby sort of charmed life.

[quote Willowmartha1]@SantaClaritaDiet actually I do know someone who has it all beautiful, gorgeous hubby, Lovely clever children the works, she has a holly Willoughby sort of charmed life. [/quote]
Holly works really hard for her own "charmed life". She might be lucky in some aspects, but she is still a full-time working mother of 3, with huge expectations to look presentable at all time.

It sounds like you would willingly ignore all her hard work and entirely focus on the rewards and aspects you think are positive...

What you see as a "charmed life" others will see as a very busy and hectic life. You would know absolutely nothing of what personal problems and upset she is dealing with privately.

Same goes for that person you know. You can't be a parent and not worry about your kids for a start!

[quote Willowmartha1]@SantaClaritaDiet Not everyone has crap to deal with though do they ?? Plenty of people I know have incredibly blessed and peachy lives without any kind of sadness or problems to deal with. But I guess that's life. [/quote]
You can be blessed as fuck, doesn't stop your parents dying early. From my experience...

[quote Willowmartha1]@SantaClaritaDiet Not everyone has crap to deal with though do they ?? Plenty of people I know have incredibly blessed and peachy lives without any kind of sadness or problems to deal with. But I guess that's life. [/quote]
How do you know this though?

I've had lots going on in my personal life but only me and my immediate family need to know this.

I was understanding of your irritation but don't think that because people don't broadcast it publicly that they do not have their own understanding of sadness or problems. Some things are private for a reason.

[quote Willowmartha1]@SantaClaritaDiet actually I do know someone who has it all beautiful, gorgeous hubby, Lovely clever children the works, she has a holly Willoughby sort of charmed life. [/quote]
And?

Is she a horrible person? Does she moonlight as a puppy kicker? Is there any reason why she should have those things except because you don't?

I honestly can’t believe people still use Facebook?! It’s so shit. Fake, dull, self absorbed nonsense.