Irritated by Facebook

[Willowmartha1]

I know it's my own fault for not coming off it but Christ some days I am so irritated by it ! Everyone bragging about their amazing homes, kids, partners etc. My cousin is the latest irritant, her and hubby have just moved to a £500k remote farm which looks stunning to be honest but I can't bring myself to say anything ! I have a poky home with no garden. My mum is really poorly too with dementia and when I visit most weeks it breaks me so to hear about other people's joyousness is hard !! Sorry for the rant.

The thing is, you don’t know what others are going through. I have a lovely life. I have a great husband, a lovely house that we have just extended, great family, a new dog and we both have good jobs where I work full time and am really supported at work, we have great holidays and no real money worries.

What people don’t know is that we couldn’t have children which I wanted more than anything. I don’t discuss it much, but I would give up all the charmed life I mentioned above for the chance to be a mother.

@ShaNaNaNaNa

I honestly can’t believe people still use Facebook?! It’s so shit. Fake, dull, self absorbed nonsense.

Facebook is a tool. A non entity. It can't be anything. Definitely not the "root of all evil". It's the people that use it that can be the problem.

And if all you see/have in your feed is dull,fake etc. that says a lot about you and the friends you have.

I keep myself on Facebook because of a few special interest groups I am in where we can help each other with information and some of the you can buy and sell on. eg I am on one where we knit clothes for premature babies in hospital.
The generalised ones where people come on to post things about their private lives I tend to clear of.I am aware that Facebook can have an evil side.Other posts I find irritating are those where someone posts a cryptic message about being in some sort of distress but not declaring what, and telling people to pm them.Why put this on in the first place then? Just ring your friend and talk about it.
If anyone annoys you just unfollow or hide their posts, if they have really hurt you block them.I have had to this in the past
Also be careful about putting photos of your young children on Facebook, as much as you like to boast about them.These photos have been known to end up in the wrong hands.

God yeah🙄
"In a hospital"
"What happened"
"Don't wanna talk about it"
Nah. I had 1. Got deleted. She kept checking safe for various disasters too. If it were genuine "we are in a hospital, wish us luck" it's a different matter.

Curate your feed!
Some of my family who I really adore I have unfollowed as what they post on fb irritates me for different reasons.

One posts lots of pics of suffering animals to raise awareness, one posts political stuff, one posts cryptic questions a lot.

I'm no longer irritated by their posts. I love dearly them in RL and there's nothing wrong with what they post on FB it's just irritating to me when I see it so now I don't see it any more!

If someone's posts make me feel bad for any old reason I just unfollow them. I belong to some hobby groups and a cute cat photo group which is most of what is on my feed.

I actually take an opposing stance to you OP!

It makes me all warm inside when I see family and friends happy, especially when I’m feeling down. There have been a lot of people buying homes (I’m in the process of saving for a first home our house at the moment is tiny and cramped and I’m dreaming the day we move in to our own place!) but I love seeing the positivity in other peoples lives. And babies too, so many people announcing pregnancies etc. Even down to people having a hot cut and showing off their new look. I find complimenting others makes me feel better inside. I do get it though I’ve been there before

Hair cut not hot cut

The thing is, even those with “a charmed life” will have struggles. Basic maths mean 50% of married people will eventually be widowed. We all inevitably lose parents and grandparents. Beloved pets have a limited lifespan. Something like 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage. Illness, disability, or SEN children don’t discriminate by income.
Comparison really is the thief of all joy.

Come off FB for a couple of years and then revisit it. You’ll be horrified by how utterly bizarre it seems, I can almost guarantee it.

I had approx 500 friends across 2 industries I worked in, my travels, my school/college/uni, ‘real’ friends and family. Mostly lovely people. So it wasn’t that I have shit friends. It’s that FB brings out the dick in people. So little of what people post is genuinely interesting or entertaining or REAL. That’s the platform, absolutely. Its absolute drivel. You just don’t see it when you’re part of it.

That was meant for @ComeOnBabyPopMyBubble

I think one of the things that bothers me is that everyone says these people only post the good parts of their lives, but at least they actually have good things to post.

I'm in my 20s and lots of people my age are posting pictures with their friends, finally able to go out and and socialise. They may not actually be happy behind those pictures, but at least they have friends they can socialise with. I don't, and there isn't any way I can pretend I do.