Cheeky Fil? Telling us about his health issues..

[Spiderseason]

When he took no interest in mine? Or my families..
I find it so strange. 5 days after I delivered his 1st grandchild, he and Mil decided to tell me exactly what they thought of me. They had come round(uninvited) to help paint our bedroom. We had not asked them too. Mil had been crying about the awful bedroom apparently and said it needed to be sorted out etc.
Anyway, I couldn't help pain (4 days post partum) I had horric neck pains and migraines from the straining, the drugs.. Pethidine.... I was also passing fist size pieces of clots? Flesh?

Anyway.. Mil verbally attacked me and left.
Then fil said... We need to move on . He then proceeds to tell me he doesn't like me. And half way through HIS dressing down I said '' please, I've just given birth to a baby!! '' he said '' so.. I know plenty of women who have babies and just get on with it ''.

My baby was half turned back to back!! I could barely stand up straight!!

Anyway. After years of issues we went low contact and now.. He has other family members to call us to tell us he needs an operation.. Then messages to me on my birthday.. Saying happy birthday.. I need an operation.. Then joint messages to myself and dh about his a and e visits??

I also remember telling him about my now deceased df various ops and ailments and got short shrift. Am I mad?

I'm thinking... Wow...!!

@foxyroxyy

Fuck him. They both sound like twats

Amen to that I say, Couldn't have put it better myself😎

Jesus. He sounds awful. I wouldn't respond, I'd just block, as you have and refuse to ever see either of them again. Some people are just vile. They will still be vile when they are a hundred years old. Just breathe and thank god you don't have them in your lives any more and make sure it stays that way.

You should have all gone NC then.

So, better late than never, do it now.

Ignore ignore ignore. Don’t waste any energy on these awful people.

I feel embarrassed for myself really that at the time we didn't do more.
It was all such a shock, and I didn't really have another person to support me, in that, if this happened to my dd, all hell would break loose, I'd support her etc.

I wasn't on mm then either. I must have low self esteem. I'd be horrified if a friend told me their in laws did that.
But it's hard to see the wood for the trees sometimes. Mil kept complaining that the baby was changing all the time and didn't know her (saw her once a week) and that's why she always cried... When she saw Mil etc. It was all and became about her and then fil... Pushing to get what Mil wanted.
It was an awful time.
I feel much clearer now and follow dh lead.
I really did feel like I should get between dh and his parents to build bridges early on but they didn't like me anyway, still treated me like the person driving them apart... Talk down to me ect.
Unfortunately we can't block emails!

It’s terrible the way you have been treated and you are wise not to respond.

Thinking about the emails, could you set up a rule to deliver them into a separate folder that you can choose when you check? Or choose not to check. Or even straight to trash.

Home, I didn't know I could get things delivered to a different folder! That's a good idea.
I forget about them then get a communication and it does upset me, especially on my bday etc when I don't have my own parents anymore...