Woman in cafe not social distancing

[Cafegoer]

Today I took DS to Muffin Break in a near by shopping centre.

As we were eating a woman came and stood right by our chairs to pay DS a compliment - the woman wasn’t wearing a mask and neither were we because we were eating. It made me feel uncomfortable as DS had been shielding and we should all be social distancing, she was talking over our food which wasn’t pleasant. DS asked the woman who she was and why she was talking to him (he has ASD and can be very straightforward). The woman said she was staff and being friendly. The woman then moved over to another table and spoke to a man with a baby, prior to talking to us the woman stood right next to another family to speak to them but they quickly shooed her away.

The woman wasn’t in a uniform and was there with three other people having lunch. She seems to be there very frequently (most of the time I walk by), never in uniform and does often tidy up tables and spend time with the staff.

AIBU to think that if she is staff (which I highly doubt) she needs further training in keeping her distance during the pandemic. If she isn’t staff then the staff have a duty to ensure customers are behaving safely.

People should be socially distancing but most people are arseholes. Because of this, I wouldn't dream of taking my children out to eat at the moment. It's hard enough dodging the morons mouth breathing down my neck when I'm trying to do my grocery shopping.

How close was she to you while talking?

Did she appear to be hot, with a dry persistent cough?

Did she appear to be hot, with a dry persistent cough?

What a stupid comment considering most people are asymptomatic

‘You should have shot her really’

Has made my week.

Poster, I would like to be your friend.

@nc600

"don't know why people find it funny that I get dizzy on escalators and can potentially fall and kill myself."

I don't know why you'd add in the extra complication of carrying a 3 year old if this is the case. Fan of extreme sports?

A poster on another thread has a disability that prevents her safely using escalators and which people apparently find hilarious, now spilled over onto this thread. Distasteful.

Her son is autistic not rude.

You should definitely tell the stasi, or maybe your good friend Kim. Maybe they'll line up a hit squad as a deterrent to others tempted to be friendly. Terrible behaviour.

@Midsommar

Eyeroll. Covid has turned everyone into a paranoid mess. I'm sure you've not contracted anything from her. As Elsa says - let it go.

It's incredibly sad isn't it, that in a matter of months, people have got into the mindset of treating each other like lepers - have people like the OP really lost their sense of humanity and connectedness and replaced it with obsession and rejection of friendliness.

What an unpleasant and childish thread 🤷‍♀️

@hamstersarse

I think you should have shot her really

😂😂😂

Wow. The anti-disabled crew is surely out in full force on MN tonight.

I see the loonies are having a field day on AIBU today.

OP, clearly you weren’t unreasonable at all.

In my local independent cafes, the staff all put in a huge effort to keep everything clean and act with complete professionalism. It’s all table service and all serving staff wear face masks. No-one would dream of wandering around without a mask and randomly try to engage you in conversation. Bizarre really.

Keep a distance from customers ? Hate threads like this ffs

Our local cafes are similar to those around @VintageStitchers. V. careful with social distancing and hygiene. I do t think the OP was BU, the lady should have been distancing from the customers.

But someone working in a cafe cannot physically distance themselves from customers by the nature of their job. To bring food to the table, they need to come within 2m of customers, most likely within 1m. I also noticed in my local cafe that none wear masks or visors, as presumably it's too hot within the kitchen. Customers also don't wear masks, as they are eating.

It really sounds like a bad place to be bringing a person who is shielding.

@cdtaylornats

There is a cafe franchise called Muffin Break?

People use these abominations?

Why?

Muffin break is fricken awesome!! I was gutted after spending a full year waiting to go again to the Arnison Centre one during a trip to Durham only to find it had closed down and is now card factory instead

I’m so shocked and appalled by some of the responses on here. I had no idea so many people were so selfish.

The advice is that people who were shielding can pause that for now. It’s important for mental health. OP should not have to stay away from life and deny her child because some people can’t be bothered to be careful.

Everyone is still meant to be socially distancing. 1 or 2 meters depending on where you are. The woman was being thoughtless. Probably not malicious but she does need telling, kindly, that her behaviour, whilst friendly and well meaning, is inappropriate at the current time. If she were an asymptomatic carrier she could spread it onwards and that could end up with untimely deaths and unnecessary suffering. It’s everyone’s duty to try and do their best to do what we can to minimise the spread. Anything else is quite simply selfish.

OP, you had every right to take your DC out for a treat and expect others to be following the guidelines and being more thoughtful and careful. Let’s hope those suggesting otherwise are in the minority or we are all well and truly F@£#%d - in so many ways.

FFS

Get a grip ffs

I’m so shocked and appalled by some of the responses on here. I had no idea so many people were so selfish
I'm hopeful that the selfish arses on here are students/pupils/MRAs - all known for anonymous bullying and lack of consideration. It is horrible to see pile-ons like this on MN but so many 'political' social media peeps are treating every Covid thread as a challenge. It's as though they think they'll get rewarded by Boris for being clueless and selfish when faced with a pandemic. Bonus points if they can throw in some misogyny, ageism or disablism

Let it go

@Msmcc1212

I’m so shocked and appalled by some of the responses on here. I had no idea so many people were so selfish.

The advice is that people who were shielding can pause that for now. It’s important for mental health. OP should not have to stay away from life and deny her child because some people can’t be bothered to be careful.

Everyone is still meant to be socially distancing. 1 or 2 meters depending on where you are. The woman was being thoughtless. Probably not malicious but she does need telling, kindly, that her behaviour, whilst friendly and well meaning, is inappropriate at the current time. If she were an asymptomatic carrier she could spread it onwards and that could end up with untimely deaths and unnecessary suffering. It’s everyone’s duty to try and do their best to do what we can to minimise the spread. Anything else is quite simply selfish.

OP, you had every right to take your DC out for a treat and expect others to be following the guidelines and being more thoughtful and careful. Let’s hope those suggesting otherwise are in the minority or we are all well and truly F@£#%d - in so many ways.

Totally agree. Of course YANBU. Hoping that those saying otherwise are a vocal minority who have found their tribe here over the last few months, or we are fckd.

Why not go to a cafe with outdoor seating. Why go to a shopping centre for heaven's sake. This makes no sense.