MIL hogging the living room

[alliejay81]

MIL is here (she's in our social bubble). She's currently in our living room watching something on Netflix not suitable for DS so I had to make DS go in the family room.

WIBU to tell her to turn it off? It's not wildly unsuitable think adult themes / language: DS is 11. Not entirely sure why she's watching it, I guess DH must've put it on for her (he's currently mowing the lawn).

@FinnyStory

A few points:

• It's not wildly unsuitable just adult themes and language. He's 11 , not 5, we need to know what it is.

• You have a guest, when did we change from making guests feel welcome to "your house, your way"? .

• If it's really unsuitable, you have another room where, I imagine, DS is comfortable.

• DH obviously didn't think it was unsuitable.

• If you do have a problem with it have a sensible, grown up conversation about it.

Exactly this

@TooLittleTooLate80

Is the show about golf or cycling?

🤣

Definitely won't be hearing back from OP on what it was about

Come back OP, my DD is 11 & I need to know what's wildly unsuitable

Just here for the big reveal.

If you have a "family room" (whatever that is) as well as a living room, what's the problem?

Happy Valley yabu.
American Horror Story yanbu.Depends on what it is clearly.

I came back three pages later hoping for an answer...
I’m assuming your husband isn’t cutting the grass anymore....

Fgs talk to each other

Whats the difference between a living room and a family room and why is it so awful to have to go to the family room?

Schitt's Creek? Great show.

Whats the difference between a living room and a family room and why is it so awful to have to go to the family room?

In my house, the family room is the messy room with the big tv and the treadmill and the bunny cage and computers and stuff where we all hang out. The living room is the nicer room adjacent to the dining room that is mostly for company.

It's not wildly unsuitable think adult themes / language: DS is 11. Not entirely sure why she's watching it,

Your 11 year old is almost definitely using this "adult language" with his mates already.

Unless she's watching 50 shades of grey where someone's having an aubergine shoved up their bottom (did that happen? I've never seen it), he'll be fine.

You are being outrageously mean and unwelcoming about your son's grandmother.

"MIL, this isnt suitable for DS to see so lets pause it and you can watch it after he has gone to bed. There is X that we could all watch together, lets put that on"

No problem. And yes there is another room but why should the person who lives in the house be booted out of where he wants to be because no one will tell MIL that it is unsuitable? Presumably she watches what she wants when she wants at home so probably just needs a gentle reminder that with kids in the house, she needs to consider who is around when she puts on something that is a bit iffy watershed wise.

If she gets the sewing kit out - run.

Maybe you and ds could spend some time with her, have a chat.
Perhaps there would be no need for the unsuitable programme.

Good call on your DH mowing the lawn - he might not get a chance for the rest of the week!

Hogging the living room is MIL lounging full length on the sofa so nobody else can sit on it, with all the cushions, surrounded by her possessions, loudly eating snacks she isn't sharing while watching tv and hiding the remote.

Hogging isn't MIL watching a film you wish she wasn't.

Some of the posts on here are awful!

I can think of several of my family members (including myself years ago) who would sit politely watching whatever the host has put on as they wouldn't want to be rude.

Consequently, unless there's a significant, relevant back story, I would go in there and cheerily say something like, "You OK in here on your own? We're watching/doing XXX (whatever) in here if you'd like to join us??"

Oh dear oh dear - I forgot I posted! I was never going to ask her to turn it off, I was just annoyed!

I feel I owe a bit of context and clearly the name of the show.

Firstly the most important information. It was designated survivor - the third series is pretty raunchy (but maybe that's just me - clearly not in a Human Centipede league).

We're going on holiday with MIL tomorrow. She's staying overnight. I was finishing packing, DS was in the garden - there was no banishing her! In fact, I was talking to her as I was finishing up stuff but she disappeared. I appreciate not the best treatment of a guest, but as MIL often says to me, she's not a guest she's family, and she's quite happy to entertain herself.

DS had to come in from the garden as lawn needed to be mowed. He went into the living room which is our main living space. I walked in and made him come out.

Not got a problem with MIL sitting there watching telly, but normally she would watch the craft channel or F1. To be honest, I was quite surprised. And FWIW it transpired she'd put it on not DH.

We wouldn't normally put anything non-family friendly in during the day. Also, not convinced she'd be happy if I plonked myself down in her house and started watching my programmes!

Anyhow, storm in a teacup. We had a nice chat and turned out it was series 1. We chatted to me as I did the ironing and I even made her a piece of toast, so I'm not a terrible DIL after all. Although I did accidentally burn it, so maybe I am?

Whats the difference between a living room and a family room and why is it so awful to have to go to the family room?

In my house, it's the room with the huge TV, adjacent to the kitchen, where there are two sofas covered with dog covers and a recliner covered with dog covers, and a lot of mess. The living room is nicely furnished and relatively unmessy, with no TV. It's where people are supposed to go if they just want to talk or "visit" as we say in the Southern US. We rarely use it.

@SenecaFallsRedux

Whats the difference between a living room and a family room and why is it so awful to have to go to the family room?

In my house, it's the room with the huge TV, adjacent to the kitchen, where there are two sofas covered with dog covers and a recliner covered with dog covers, and a lot of mess. The living room is nicely furnished and relatively unmessy, with no TV. It's where people are supposed to go if they just want to talk or "visit" as we say in the Southern US. We rarely use it.

We've just got a lounge and dining room, oh well 🤷‍♂️

Designated Survivor? That's not suitable for an 11 year old? If anything, it's a living civics lesson in the constitutional succession to the presidency of the US. I must have forgotten the raunchy parts.

@TheHoneyBadger

Blimey you have 2 living rooms and think this constitutes a problem worth posting on the internet ?

I'm hardly going to post real problems on AIBU am I? Given the vitriol and quite frankly bonkers answers you get. It's just a place to let off a little bit of steam and to hear different perspectives!

Good lord. Whatever happened to being courteous to guests and respecting ones elders?

So does 'respecting one's elders' mean they automatically get to decide what's watched on TV and no one else gets a say?