MIL hogging the living room

[alliejay81]

MIL is here (she's in our social bubble). She's currently in our living room watching something on Netflix not suitable for DS so I had to make DS go in the family room.

WIBU to tell her to turn it off? It's not wildly unsuitable think adult themes / language: DS is 11. Not entirely sure why she's watching it, I guess DH must've put it on for her (he's currently mowing the lawn).

No wonder kids have no respect anymore, he has another room ffs, let her watch it

Blimey you have 2 living rooms and think this constitutes a problem worth posting on the internet ?

I wouldn't really see an issue with letting her watch a programme, especially in the evening.

It’s your house.
It's also op's Dh's house, and they've invited his mother round... Not really a situation that calls for the My house My Rules enforcement 😂
Especially since it was her dh that turned it in in the first place.

What’s she watching 👀

Perhaps the hubby didn’t know the adult content.

Just say what it is, op...

Unless she's watching pure dirt or there's a massive bitch back story...then you are being unreasonable & mean spirited to say she's hogging the living room! Guessing you just don't like her.

This place is cringy sometimes.

She's a guest so I would let her. Unless there's a massive drip feed coming and actually this is just one of many issues.

Fiver says it's the new season of Lucifer 🤤 some eye candy for grandma! Get some, girl 😂

If you have two living rooms what’s the big deal?

She's not really hogging the living room is she? She's watching telly. its not really the crime of the century. If its a massive problem and you want to use the living room ask her to watch it later?

A few points:

• It's not wildly unsuitable just adult themes and language. He's 11 , not 5, we need to know what it is.

• You have a guest, when did we change from making guests feel welcome to "your house, your way"? .

• If it's really unsuitable, you have another room where, I imagine, DS is comfortable.

• DH obviously didn't think it was unsuitable.

• If you do have a problem with it have a sensible, grown up conversation about it.

So "hogging the living room" means "watching telly" in your house? What is this wildly unsuitable programme from which your 11 year old must be shielded ?

If I have anyone staying, normally family, I always let them have first dibs on the tv. If there is something I desperately want to watch I'll go off to the bedroom. To be honest sometimes it is quite nice to have an excuse for 30 minutes of me time. Having said that if I miss something I'm following I just watch it on catch up. I think it is being hospitable.

Can’t she watch something a bit more family friendly? I wouldn’t let her carry on if it means ds has to leave the room, rude of her, frankly.

Can you not tell us what the programme is for heavens sake !

Just here to see what she's watching

Tbf OP I wouldn't worry about the language because if your 11yo starts secondary school in the next couple of weeks he will hear it all and a lot worse than what's broadcast on TV within the first couple of days IME.

No wonder so many MILs feel unwelcome.
Honestly, the woman is probably sat there enjoying a show, offer her a cuppa and a mint club for gawd sakes.

Maybe she sensed that she isn't welcome and wants to sit quietly watching tv out of the way? I take it the room was empty when she was plonked in there like a child in front of the tv? Otherwise she would have been involved with what you and your son are doing.

Bearing in mind the stuff I've regularly heard coming out of the mouths of eleven year old boys, there is nothing on TV that an eleven year old boy needs shielding from.

She's watching a film your husband put on, why is she the bad guy?

By 11 he is likely hearing more swear words an hour at school than you do in a week.

I asked my boy if he was OK with the language in Derry Girls, he gave me a withering look and reminded me he was in secondary school.