Wibu to call someone at their place of work to ask them out?

[Scoopstroop]

Just that really.
Its a service I use every few weeks, have met and chatted a few times now.
Its his own business so I wouldn't have to call through a reception/office and there won't be other people around.
Is this a really creepy stalkery thing to do or should I just go for it?

Was once asked out by my hairdresser, years ago. Said no, figured that I didn't want to find a new hairdresser if it didn't work out.
He is unlikely to call you - as others have said, unprofessional, possible misuse of your personal data.
Do it in person rather than phone though?

@Scoopstroop

I tried to call but the number on the website doesn't work. Then I went there but it was closed. Maybe its not meant to be. Im also wondering if he doesn't update his website and closes early he might be a bit flaky and not very hard working?

Our barber closes when the queue stops on Saturday which could be 2pm or 5pm. I think this is common.

Try again another day. Fortune favours the bold and all that!

I haven't updated my business website in years. Cos I dont really use it. I have more than enough business and can't take on more. Also he could have had any reason to close early. Eg run out of face masks. Don't let that pjt you off

Maybe im just looking for excuses.
I do that.
It feels like too long ago to go back now.
Maybe next time.

Don't ring him, that's super-inappropriate, plus you take the risk that he doesn't remember you at all. Just ask him next time you have to take your son for a haircut.

Definitely don't let the website put you off. Most barbers don't really do a lot of business via their website, so it won't need to be a priority. Doesn't mean he's not hardworking.

There's no need to make a meal out of it.

Just call or text or email and say "Hi X it's Scoopstroop. It was nice to see you the other day, if you would like to get a coffee sometime that would be great."

Non-harrassing, no pressure, no need for drama.

I cant call email or text him.
It feels like too long to go back face to face.
Maybe I should just brave it tomorrow.
Will probably come to nothing anyway so i dont want to waste too much time or energy thinking about it.
But he is the only person ive been remotely interested in for quite a while.

Do it.

Do it tomorrow, @Scoopstroop! Don’t get discouraged. It’s fine if there’s a few days in between. Don’t overthink it. Most people on here seem to think it’s fine🤞🏽

I will see if i can work myself up to it in the morning.
Im just sick of waiting for men to approach me when in reality most that do are unsuitable, not my type, not that interesting and I dont really want the kind of man that finds it easy to approach women in bars/women they've just met.
If that makes sense.
I want someone more quiet, self aware, less ego.
I feel like its time to take a different approach.
Im very happily single but at the same time I dont want to be on my own for the rest of my life.

Good luck. 🤞

Write your number on a card, walk in, say here's my number if you fancy a night out sometime, look him in the eye if you can, walk out.

Make sure you look your best and smell great!

You'll feel amazing for just doing it!

So?

Did you go in and what did he say?

Any update? Need to live vicariously through others right now😁

Sounds like your son needs another haircut 😉

My son doesnt play violin thank god.

@Scoopstroop
Any update please ?