Wibu to call someone at their place of work to ask them out?

[Scoopstroop]

Just that really.
Its a service I use every few weeks, have met and chatted a few times now.
Its his own business so I wouldn't have to call through a reception/office and there won't be other people around.
Is this a really creepy stalkery thing to do or should I just go for it?

I'd also do it.

Think how you'll feel if when you go in with your son in 6 weeks he tells you about his new girlfriend? Better 5 minutes of cringe than a life of regrets.

Many years ago when I was a student and working as a waitress in the holidays, I got a call from a customer I'd had a bit if banter with to ask me out. I was hugely flattered even though I declined as I had a boyfriend. The likelihood is that even if he's not interested he'll be flattered and it doesn't need to be awkward. And if he is.... It's only harassment if you don't take no for an answer, it's not harassment to simply ask him out!

Ooh op please update. Do you not have a mobile number for him or does he only give a landline for business?

Yes, go for it!

Ideally I’d pop back in person ASAP minus son when shop empty. You could say did I leave an umbrella/sunglasses and hopefully get chatting a bit eg I need them as I’m going to be sitting in pub garden etc then ask.
If barbers has Facebook page you could message him through that but He may not see it or could be run by someone else.
Good luck

I think ringing up and asking is a bit creepy and weird to be honest. I think waiting till you next take your son there would seem more natural, but you run the risk of chickening out if you leave it too long and he might have met someone else by then. I think just going in pretending you left something then and then saying something would be the best plan.

I could not do it and I admire your courage, however I would not ring and I certainly could not face going back in if he declines a date.
I would wait until the next visit and try to direct the conversation the way I wanted it to go and then suggest a date. Or leave him a card with your details on and write ring me in bold lol.
Let us know how it goes, good luck.

Thanks everyone for all the responses.
I think I will go in and ask face to face.
I have actually lost my bank card not there but I think that is a good pretence to use.

@Scoopstroop read your posts and a few of the replies so sorry if this has already been suggested, I'd start with what you said:

"Just wanted to check I gave you my number correctly as I didn't get a call?"
"It's only for track and trace"
"Oh okay then, if that's all you want to use it for..."

@70isaLimitNotaTarget

What’s the worst that can happen if you ask him out?

Well you might need to find a new barber for your son

I culdn't ( apart from the fact I;m married) my DS barber has all his Hair Cutting Records ( Sheldon Cooper quote) so he couldn't find a new one

My son is autistic, we went to a different hairdressers after lockdown and he told the new chap that he wasn't sure about him because his normal hairdresser knows his hair requirements. Really reminded me of the Sheldon Cooper quote 😂

@ASatisfyingThump

I had to hit my husband over the head with the proverbial frying pan before he took the hint. He wouldn't have asked otherwise.

Same here, he's hopeless at picking up hints. I'm about as subtle as a brick through a window and he still didn't realise I fancied him!

OP, I wouldn't phone him, but perhaps go in and talk to him face to face. The worst thing that can happen is he'll say no.

This is DP and I too. We'd never be together if it wasn't for me.

Definitely context needed. A barman is way different to a GP administrator for example. The former....ok while you were in for a drink. The latter....not so much when you were in for a cervical smear.

Teach me to read The thread. Barber's....not so bad!

Why is it creepy to ask someone out, I can’t
believe the posts on here!

Someone did this to me when younger, I was very flattered, although extremely embarrassed at the time. We had a nice few dates though.

Hope you went and asked him and you're now on a date 🤩

Hope it went well!

I’m overly invested 😂

Come on @Scoopstroop did you ask him?!!!

I tried to call but the number on the website doesn't work.
Then I went there but it was closed.
Maybe its not meant to be.
Im also wondering if he doesn't update his website and closes early he might be a bit flaky and not very hard working?

Please don't give up Scoops!

I ended up asking my now husband out after dropping so many hints 🙄(which he says he is terrible at reading).
Go back and try again.

My son's barber closes early and the website is not that great. It doesn't mean he isn't a great guy.

Wishing you luck.

Don't give up! He's probably been working all week, can't blame him for shutting earlier on a Saturday.

"Hi, I've lost my bank card, so looks like dinner is on you"

Don’t lie and say you lost something, just be honest and say you enjoyed chatting to him the other day and would he be interested in going for a drink sometime.

Why is it creepy to ask someone out, I can’t believe the posts on here!

Some posters are probably drawing parallels withe the dreaded "Unwanted male attention".

Otherwise known as someone you don't fancy asking you out.

You phoned then actually went there? Very brave, keep us updated.

Some posters are probably drawing parallels withe the dreaded "Unwanted male attention".
Otherwise known as someone you don't fancy asking you out.

Yes agree. This is just part of human interaction, sometimes we all encounter awkward situations.

Glad you have given it a go OP and good luck!