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The Secret

281 replies

Stackys · 21/08/2020 09:29

AIBU to give “the secret” any thought?

I toyed with it years ago. Asked “the universe” for a £10 note. Walking through York the night after, found a wet soggy £10 note on the floor in a graveyard.

Played with it again a few weeks later. Asked the universe for a red balloon. Immediately afterwards I put YouTube on to listen to some music and the first recommended video was a song called something like “10 red balloons”. I’d never heard of the song before.

When I was a child, before I knew of “the secret” we were moving house and I desperately wanted a garden with steps in it. That would have been highly unusual in this area but I kept on thinking about it obsessively. The house we moved to had steps in the garden (the only house in the whole street that did).

My friend goes on about the secret all the time, I put all my “successes” down to coincidence as the alternative sounds batshit but some people truly believe it works, intelligent people!!

I watched the movie yesterday and I’ve decided I want £50k in my bank by New Year’s Eve 😂 ironically DH said to me this morning “we have nearly x amount in bank! The most we’ve ever had!” (Nowhere near £50k) ... maybe it’s already working lol

This is of course lighthearted but I’d be interested to hear other people’s experiences of it?! Please don’t turn it into a “you’re a fucking imbecile OP” type thread, it’s just for fun.

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readingismycardio · 21/08/2020 09:51

Also in a lighthearted way - it works. And to me it makes sense, what you think is exactly what you attract.

It's hard to apply, though and you really need to train your mind to think positively, which can't hurt!

tmh88 · 21/08/2020 09:54

I really want to get into this! My sister read the book and she says it really changed her life! I might try it!

Stackys · 21/08/2020 09:55

@readingismycardio

How have you used it and what have you got out of it?

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Artinsurance · 21/08/2020 09:57

I believe too. It's more than just saying something to yourself in most cases but making choices that help you to get there. I've still not won the Euromillions jackpot but I've done pretty well in the lottery of life 😊

StormBaby · 21/08/2020 10:01

People have been using this for centuries. Witchcraft and Voodoo are based on it. Thought-forming. Positive thinking.
Do I think I’m going to magically wake up to money in the bank? No! Can I influence my life in small ways by thinking X WILL happen? Absolutely.

Stackys · 21/08/2020 10:04

@StormBaby

That’s what I’m thinking. So of course £50k isn’t just going to appear in my bank, same as I’m not suddenly going to wake up a size 8 dress size ... but since I decided I’m going to have £50k in bank I’ve found myself motivated to make money. More motivated than ever and also motivated to save money rather than waste it

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Quackersandcheese3 · 21/08/2020 10:05

I live my life this way. The book is good. Dh is currently rereading it.

unmarkedbythat · 21/08/2020 10:08

Is this like the cosmic ordering thing Noel Edmonds was talking about a while ago?

PamDemic · 21/08/2020 10:11

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Therollockingrogue · 21/08/2020 10:13

Totally love it, Worked for me!

SnakesOrLadders · 21/08/2020 10:14

I believe.
Whether it’s really works or a self fulfilling prophecy giving you confidence I don’t know. I have wished for a group of friends, move to a very specific location out of our price range, dream school for the kids and a very niche job for me all of which has happened:)

namesnamesnamesnames · 21/08/2020 10:15

It's worked for me before. I should look back into this.

Sparklesocks · 21/08/2020 10:16

I think there’s a lot tied up in believing something will happen helping to make it happen. It channels your focus and motivation into that thing and possibly allows you to consider opportunities or ideas you hadn’t before. It also pushes you to keep going with things rather than giving up because you don’t think it’s possible, and persistence is a huge aspect of success.

Absolutely nobody is going to positive think themselves into being a millionaire, but maybe their focus will allow them to clear debts and invest wisely or think about money differently.

I think most people are capable of more than they think they are.

piscean10 · 21/08/2020 10:16

I believe in in too. The difficulty is changing your mindset. I suffer with depression from time to time and it is so difficult to drag yourself from one mental state to another.
But the times that I have practiced this it has happened. Not referring to only financial or materialistic stuff, but the times I've 'manifested' happiness then I truly felt a sense of peace.

Jellybeansincognito · 21/08/2020 10:16

It’s delusional happiness, don’t do it.
It makes you VERY unhappy in the long term.

It effectively blames people’s cancer on their unhappiness to name a few , which is disgusting.

How will you ever be happy if you’re constantly asking and wanting for something?

Are people really that narcissistic they believe in this?

OhioOhioOhio · 21/08/2020 10:17

It feels nice because it gives you confidence.

Lovingtheglitter · 21/08/2020 10:19

I've never heard of this! Going to have a look through Google!!

Jellybeansincognito · 21/08/2020 10:19

If you think the secret works- please read about confirmation bias.

FastFood · 21/08/2020 10:19

Oh yeah it works.
It's not some pure magic or whatever. Its just that when you put intention into something, that thing is way more likely to happen because you're gonna make baby steps for this to happen, you're gonna engaged the appropriate behaviours etc...

A year ago, I met a coach with work, I told him about my journal routine.
Told him that when I'm nervous or anxious about something, I write "I'm stressed about this but I know everything will be fine". And as a matter of fact, it's always fine.
Told him that I write that as a sort of wishful thinking, it relaxes me to write it.

Few months later, saw him again, and he gave me that book saying that my journal routine reminded him of it.

He also gave me a little exercise to do, a visualisation exercise, to imagine how I'd like my life to be in 6 to 12 months, how does it look like? How do I feel? Where am I?
Did the exercise for 30 minutes. Just lying down.

What I visualised was me, on a winter morning, before work, in a flat that would be mine, super relaxed, drinking my first coffee of the day, writing in my journal.

Well, since then, I bought my flat (waiting to exchange!) which is uncannily similar to the one I visualised. I was always convinced that I'd buy a purpose built, ended up in a conversion.
Whats happened is that having that making that visualisation exercise drove me somehow to take actions.
I became more focused and deliberate in my personal and professional life, saved money, got promoted, and worked towards that, almost unconsciously.

Recently, I did a similar exercise, more work focused. I was struggling a bit to find what were my career goals, so I took some time to visualise.
Now I have few goals, and somehow, I know that I will achieve most of them.

It's not magic, it's all in the intention.

(Sorry, long 😬)

Zoecarter · 21/08/2020 10:20

Read the magic by the same
Author it’s changed my life x

Jellybeansincognito · 21/08/2020 10:21

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/markmanson.net/the-secret/amp

If you like Derren Brown he also has spoken a lot about this, in one of his books.

oopsiedaisy2 · 21/08/2020 10:23

I'm also really interested in this. Did you just start by reading the book or is there other sources of information on it?

FastFood · 21/08/2020 10:27

And yeah, for the £10 note, its pure confirmation bias!
There's no magic powder, I can visualise a giant frog in a pink dress speaking russian in my living-room for hours, it will never happen.

The book itself is quite terrible and a bit too kinda religious for me.
But the deliberate visualisation (which is the same principle without the Universe BS) works very well for goal setting.

Jellybeansincognito · 21/08/2020 10:29

Op I know you’re saying it’s just for fun but I really have seen this stuff destroy people’s lives, they become narcissistic, victim blamers and it’s really very unkind.

Come on... do you think the starving kids in Africa don’t want food enough?

Or do you think people who have constant obstacles to overcome like cancer and abuse have brought it on themselves with their negative thinking?

Clearly in the secrets eyes this would be the case and if you can’t accept the bad of something, don’t accept the good either.

So many contradictions.

MoistMolly · 21/08/2020 10:30

Absolutely nobody is going to positive think themselves into being a millionaire

Why not? It either works or it doesn't. If I read the book and find out I can't resurrect the dead and create my zombie army, I'll be really disappointed.

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