If you could would you skip the next 18 months of life?

[severeine]

I have hated 2020. I hated lockdown. I hated the sanctimoniousness it brought out. I hated the lack of social contact, the tragic consequences for some and isolation. If on balance a period of time is a net drain on quality of life, and I realise this is hypothetical, if you could, would you just go straight to the end of it and restart living when conditions are better? Before any of the "but how do you know things will be better -second lockdown, economy ruined, new virus" merchants pounce,I realise any talk of a less awful future is hypothetical.

No, but maybe that's because I'm in my mid 40s now and every year seems more precious. And I've personally had a terrible year health-wise (not Covid related) so I totally get where you're coming from on how awful 2020 has been!

No. I'm late forties and my kids are at important bits of secondary.

I'm really hating it all.

No guarantee it will be done in 18 months.

Given a choice I'd ditch the first 12 weeks or so. When we couldn't go to the pub etc.

I miss people so much.

No way. I want to enjoy every minute of my life and I wouldn’t skip 18 months of DD for anything.
I’ve had my mat leave ruined by lockdown but I still don’t hate 2020. I look at the pandemic as a hugely significant thing to be part of, unpleasant but life affirming!

No I have young children and dont want to miss out on their childhood. I feel very sad for people who feel they have nothing worth living for for the next 18 months please speak to a friend or family member about how you're feeling.

Disagreement all around. Interesting. If I could (obviously again hypothetical) cash in credit at the end of my life and get additional healthy years in hypothetical better times I think I would skip the next ten years

2020 has had its downpoints certainly, Lockdown and redundancy being the obvious two.

But there are upsides as well. I’ve spent loads of time with my ds, we have a much closer relationship, I’ve had time to redecorate, to get fit. I’ve caught up on sleep, my stress levels are down. There are silver linings to most situations.

I feel more like the old me.

How old are you op?

If I skip 18 months I'm nearly 50 and missed my younger kid starting secondary.

I also think you should face up to stuff no matter how bad it is. Hiding helps nothing.

At 70, the Grim Reaper is lurking just over the horizon. So, it's a no from me. Every day, every hour, is precious. But I weep for the young, with an insecure and uncertain future, and for young parents coping with working from home, with babies and cramped living conditions. And for the poor and exploited everywhere, with no work or hope of work, no access to even basic medical care, and a future that is truly terrifying.

No, of course not. I loved lockdown and I’m enjoying the social distancing when out and about; I like the orderly rules and systems now in place in shops/restaurants and I like that everything’s cleaner.

I don’t understand why everyone’s been whinging to be quite honest It is what it is, even if you don’t like it we have to get in with it and being so down about it is just going to make you even more miserable.

Yes. I hated lockdown. I'd like my divorce over and my partner able to travel back to where I live rather than being stuck on the other side of the world due to travel restrictions

I don’t understand why everyone’s been whinging to be quite honest confused It is what it is, even if you don’t like it we have to get in with it and being so down about it is just going to make you even more miserable.

This, in a nutshell, epitomises why I have started to hate MN

Polyglot yes it's shit for the children and young people.

Hearts mental health problems are through the roof. You like it, that's great. Saying you can't understand why people are 'whinging' is quite tactless. People have lost jobs, income, mental health issues etc etc. It's an unusual and difficult situation. Lots of people aren't coping. Have some empathy.

I'm glad that you are coping well. I wish everyone was.

Not at all I am loving lockdown. I'm a loner by nature and not having to socialize or go to the office for the last six months has been bliss. I'm dreading everything opening up again.

Severine there are 20 or more decent posts to one like that.

I agree it's changed but that comes with more users.

It's a nasty post but. I suppose reflects some people feel that way. Which is worth knowing. Echo chambers are not great.

No....although tbh i have a work placement coming up and lockdiwn was better than that so if we could lift the lockdown for everyone and i could chill insteas of working that would be ideal.

No, I'm pregnant and am savouring every moment.

Although this pandemic is giving me a boring home life at the moment, it is temporary and I'm trying to view it as an interesting moment in history. There is a lot going on in terms of politics, economics, medical advancement et cetera.

No, because regardless of my own feelings during Covid, I have an obligation to help my family and friends through it.

No way. Lockdown was horrendous with 2 kids at home, increased workload, homeschooling and no luxuries like furlough (or enough sleep for that).
however we are no getting the benefits of previous choices: no redundancy thread, kids were back in school mid june, and working from home means my work life balance is better than ever.
I feel for everybody negativity impacted, but we are in a good place now. Swings and roundabouts really

@heartsonacake people are dyingggg Kim

I think I’d prefer going back a year and the world taking a alternate reality that is ‘normal’ (as it was before Covid) but with the knowledge gained from this year. For example, making sure I made more time to
travel and enjoy the freedom we had.

Feel really trapped now, like the world has got smaller and more difficult. Knowing I can’t just jump on a plane and go to the places I want to visit or just pop to the shops and enjoy browsing because of the masks etc. All the extra cleaning and risks at work. It feels claustrophobic. I would go with your suggestion too so long as the risk of illness had gone and the world was ‘normal’.

I didn’t actually mind the first part of all this where it was all dramatic and we were fully in lockdown but this part is far more draining. I should also add my opinion is because I haven’t known a single person with Covid so it hasn’t directly affected me or mine health wise.

No. My son is 8 and fabulous. He’s growing up too fast,no way would I want to miss out on any time with him. My parents are getting older and time with them is precious as well.
I’m dreading this winter but this too shall pass.

No! I'm mid 60s and I don't want to lose any of my life, but more importantly, we got kittens a few weeks ago and skipping ahead 18 months would mean losing 18 precious months with them, not seeing them grow up.

I have enjoyed 2020 (sorry people who have been having a rough time). Normally I'm house bound so it's been great to have my normally working away partner home all year. The peace and quiet where I live has been lovely. I wouldn't change any of that.

No, because life goes on regardless, and I don't want to skip it even if it is different from normal.

No? For me life is getting more and more normal as things reopen. We are seeing friends and family now, we've been on holiday, my sons favourite local attraction is open. In september he's back to preschool with his friends and starting swimming lessons.

As an extended family it's likely we wont respect future lockdowns fully and will allow our children to meet their cousins in private homes throughout as we are not willing to damage our children with full isolation again.

Also like others I have a 1 year old and a 3 year old and no way would i want to fast forward watching them grow up!