AIBU to think you shouldnt keep having children until you get the sex you want?

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So this is none of my business but i was just on fb and came across a story where a couple had 7 boys before they managed to have a girl. Obviously i dont know the backstory and this couple may have intended to have a large family regardless of the sex of the first 7 children. But i know several couples who have had 3-4 of the same sex and carried on until they got what they wanted (usually girls).
In my opinion if they'd had what they wanted in the first place they wouldn't have kept going which feels wrong to me, when i got older i wouldn't want to know i was only born because my parents were trying to have the sex they wanted.

YANBU- You agree people shouldn't keep having children until they get what they want.
YABU- People should have as many children as they like until they get what they want.

I've got five but was luckily spared any sex-linked speculation by the fact that the first two are a boy and a girl.

When my DD1 was handed to me, the midwife actually said 'ah, now you've got your pigeon pair!' like it was something to be proud of!

Woman over the road did this, eight boys and then the ninth was a girl (tenth was another boy) She's now got her granddaughter that her daughter seemingly handed over at birth but not the grandson that soon followed.

Some people want more kids in the hopes to have a certain sex and some people just want more kids! When people found out I was having a third, they were always surprised to find out I already have a girl and a boy. Or when they knew I was considering going for a third, I would get “but you have a boy and girl?!”. If I had two of the same already I would have still gone for a third as well...not in the hopes for a certain sex, but because I wanted a third dc! It would annoy me though for people to just assume. I want a 4th. Do people now assume that because I have girl, boy , girl I must be trying for a boy? And before anyone says anything, we own our 5 bedroom house and have enough, food, toys, clothes etc for the kids we have and a 4th if we decide to go for it ;) and for the camps, extra activities etc.

I remember watching a channel 4 documentary when I was pregnant with my 1st (so best part of a decade ago) called ‘8 boys and wanting a girl’ which was really interesting. There was one woman who had 4 boys and was pregnant with her 5th baby. She’d been obsessively following all these bizarre ‘swaying’ methods when TTC and they filmed her finding out it was another boy and bursting into tears in the scan room. Apparently she’d also followed the swaying methods with the pregnancy beforehand and got a boy.

There was another woman who had 4 boys then went abroad, paid for sex-selective IVF and had twin girls.

My Aunt has tree girls, the 3rd was an attempt to see if they could get a boy but she was happy anyway but for her it would have been nice. They decided to stop there. My mum always crows about how she ‘did it right’ getting 1 of each.

A friend of mine has 4 brothers but she was born in the middle so people are confused and don’t seem to realise her mum and dad just wanted a big family. They have twin
Boys, a girl, then two younger boys.

I worked with someone who had 4 boys and his wife wanted to try for a girl a 5th time. It broke up the marriage. She used to say ‘ds1 was great but the rest were a disappointment!’ She didn’t work so it was hard to support so many children on his wage. She told him the pill failed for number 3 and then the coil moved out of place for number 4...he decided to get a vasectomy and she told him she’d divorce him if he did as she wanted to keep going for a girl....they are now divorced. I used to end up as his agony aunt on the train to work. His wife was really jealous as well, I offered him a lift on Sundays as the trains were crap and had to pick him up and drop him off a few streets away so he could say he’d got the train.

I totally sympathise with those who wanted /want a large family and people make comments when they have several of the same that they are only having them to get what they want. But when they openly say that's why they are having more children I think its wrong.
I also know a girl who plastered all on fb she wanted a girl and would be devastated if it was a boy. She luckily got a girl but what would have happened if she did have a boy, why get pregnant if theres a 50% chance you will have the sex you dont want?

I know when we had our third (we were planning on three kids from the start) a lot of people asked if we were stopping because we had a boy (after two girls) - DH even jokingly said we should have a 4th just to stop people from assuming that. We had a third child because we wanted a third child - not because we wanted a boy

I have two boys and had comments when I was pregnant with DS2 that they'd keep their fingers crossed for a girl for me (I didn't find out the sex with either of them). I just replied that I would be happy with either and that given that I already had a lot of 'boy' clothes, that might actually be easier which seemed to shut them down.

DS1 (9) and I had a conversation about this recently as we talked about close friends who have one of each and compared upbringings as I'm one of two (girl/boy) and DH is one of two (boy/boy). He had asked me if I'd have liked a girl. We talked about how lots of people see one of each as being ideal, but actually, that's not something was ever keen on as having grown up with that dynamic, I saw first hand that it didn't really work. We were far too different. I know it won't all have been down to sex, but it certainly has an effect. I love having two boys. I desperately wanted a third child, and always thought that that one would be a boy too, but alas I couldn't talk DH into it. I didn't want a third to go for a girl, I just always wanted three children.

Well, my sons are definitely not and never have been disappointments.
When I was pregnant with baby number 4, I was fully expecting to have another son and was definitely not going to have any more regardless of what the sex turned out to be.

Baby number 4 turned out to be a girl. Don’t get me wrong, it is wonderful to have a girl as well as my boys. I can’t emphasise “as well as” enough.

People must look at me and think I kept trying until I got a girl. But it’s really not the case! It’s quite annoying really, because it insinuates that I was unhappy with my boys when they are fucking amazing and always have been.