AIBU to not wear a bra?

[RandomName11]

Has anybody else not worn a bra since lockdown?
I have been furloughed so at home I have been going braless and I feel so much more comfortable!
Obviously i'll wear a bra when work picks up again but I have also not been wearing a bra when I go for meals, shopping, seeing friends etc.

I am 25 and I am a 32b and personally I think it looks okay. However, my friend's boyfriend saw my boyfriend the other night and commented that he noticed I haven't been wearing bras.

Now i'm not sure whether to go back to wearing bras in my everyday routines.

Me neither

Yanbu, unless you’re getting your boobs out at a funeral or something it’s literally irrelevant to anyone what do you with them!

I stopped wearing bras when I was struggling with breathlessness for suspected Covid-19 way back in March. I tried one on recently and it felt really uncomfortable..
I haven't been out anywhere since then that would warrant a bra.
Not sure I could inflict a braless me on
Sainsbury's when I brave normal shopping again though

I think it's unbelievably weird that your friend's boyfriend commented on your underwear.

I've not worn one for years.

Disclaimer I'm agoraphobic and haven't left home for years either BUT certain people still see me - delivery drivers etc. And I'm quite chesty! I just wear a strappy vest top instead and wear a tee or jumper over that (depending on weather) never been a problem.

Totally up to you and completely inappropriate for that guy to have even noticed let alone commented!!

Totally your choice and nothing to do with anyone else. The chap who spoke to your boyfriend sounds a bit creepy to say the least.

I don’t wear a bra in the very warm weather, with some summer dresses and tops unless actually going in to work. To be honest, with lockdown and home working, knickers have become something of an optional extra too.

If I didn't wear a bra, I'd be tripping over my knockers all the time. Do what suits you. Your friend's bf sounds like a creep.

@user127819

I think it's unbelievably weird that your friend's boyfriend commented on your underwear.

I agree. This should be the issue, rather than whether or not you wear bras again! I would argue that bras are for comfort and support, rather than “modesty”.

You could try a soft crop top or bralette just to give a little support but still be comfy. It's up to you though.

I can’t believe it’s tKen me more than 30 years to realise how shit bras are. I’ve moved over to crop tops, that are the future.

Knowing nothing about you other than the size you have given, when you do go back to bra wearing try boob or bust first. So many people are wearing the wrong size and being uncomfortable. I reckon your band size will go down and your cup size will go up a few but you’ll be so much comfier and better supported

Other than sports bras for exercise, I prefer soft crop tops, but am quite often braless at home.
Do whatever you feel most comfortable doing. It's none of your friends creepy boyfriend's business!

Seven years since I wore a bra, absolutely hate them. I wear one for special occasions only. A member of my husbands family made some shitty comments to me once “why do women think they can get away with not wearing a bra” but I don’t care. (I think she was just trying to make me feel crap) My boobs my choice. I’m not going to be uncomfortable every minute of every day just to please other people.

If you feel comfortable without a bra go for it. My tits are huge & my nipples are pointy at the best of times so it wouldn't work for me. I do think it's very unreasonable that your friends bf mentioned it and that she told you.

Didn't your boyfriend think it very odd that your friend's boyfriend was commenting on your lack of bra? Odd enough that he would notice/care, but to mention it to your boyfriend? Weird and invasive imo. Yanbu btw

Your friend's boyfriend made a comment to your boyfriend about your breasts?!

I wouldn't stand for that. What a fucking creep. Does your friend know about this?

Same, I've even popped to the shop hidden under a big jumper and I'm a 34E.

I will have to go back to something for work though, so I've picked up a stretchy non-underwired one from M&S to see how I get on with that.

Totally inappropriate for someone to comment on it though!

Do what suits you OP. As far as I'm concerned they are optional. I've worn one a lot less since lockdown. I rarely wear one on holiday and I don't wear one if the straps will show, even to work.

I've never once had any comment made. To my face anyway.

My boobs have totally rebelled and I keep getting a terrible itchy rash under them any time I wear a bra now. If I’m braless, no rash no worry.

Your friend's boyfriend is not your concern and you should not be his.

Iv got big ish bobs and have been wearing sports crop top things or yoga tops. It's a revelation. No rubbing etc. If I go out I wear a bra but otherwise just one of yoga tops

Why do you think you should wear a bra?

If I were still 32B I'd never wear one. Hope you're boyfriend told his creepy friend what he could do with himself.

You could try a soft crop top or bralette just to give a little support

I’m a 32B and don’t need any support. I would think that anyone at that size doesn’t need support either.

At 61 I’m as perky as I have ever been. Unlike most mumsnetters I don’t find bras uncomfortable, and I look like a boy without one so I will continue to wear one. I don’t care what other people do.

I stopped wearing them a couple of years ago, despite having huge breasts. Sometimes I wear a comfy crop top type bra, sometimes just a vest top. The only time I wear proper bras anymore is if I have to wear a posh dress or jacket that is cut to look best with high slung top ones.

Bras are bullshit.

There was a study of french women I found once actually, that found bras possibly cause sagginess, rather than preventing it. Something about the weight of the breast tissue being hung from the shoulders leads to the breast ligaments becoming atrophied and less elastic over time. So they lose their natural “bounce”.