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AIBU?

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To not let people park across the drive that I don’t use?

213 replies

Blanketyblanket · 17/08/2020 18:48

My house has a drive that runs next to the side of the house. For some reason the previous owners of the house built a conservatory across half the drive so it is almost impossible to actually get a car onto the drive. I’ve applied for planning permission to widen the driveway as it would involve knocking down part of the garden wall which is over 6foot. Massive backlog with PP at the moment in the area due to CV so not sure when it will actually happen.

The town I live in is very touristy. Parking is a nightmare every summer but this year has been particularly bad due to fewer people going abroad. As a result I’ve often not been able to find anywhere to parks I for the past few weeks I’ve been parking in front of the gap for my driveway. There’s no pavement or dropped kerb, it’s just an opening in the wall. My house is the only one on my side of the street. On the other side are about 6 houses, all with drives, so everyone parks on the side of the street that my house is on.

I come out today to find I can’t actually physically leave my house via my door as there is a car completely across the entrance to my drive. I hadn’t parked there as I only park there when I can’t find anywhere else. I can leave my house via the side door but it’s 20 steps down to the gate at the bottom of the garden, it’s a pain in the arse and very narrow and very often that gate is blocked by a car too. That’s not normally an issue as I don’t normally leave that way.

I put a note on the car parked across the drive saying ‘please don’t park here, access required’. Came back this afternoon to find the car still there and a neighbour from down the road came out to shout at me that I had upset his guests, where did I expect them to park, I was being really selfish in thinking that I had my own personal parking space when it’s a public highway. Luckily another neighbour came out and told angry neighbour that it was just temporary etc as angry neighbour wouldn’t let me get a word in.

So AIBU? I know it’s a public road but I’d never park across someone’s drive. The drives on my road generally only for one car so a lot of houses then park their other car across the dropped kerb. Bit different in my case I guess as I have no dropped kerb and no car on the actual drive. I very occasionally park my car on the drive but I never would at this time of year as if someone even slightly overhangs my drive I’ve got no chance of getting out again.

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Shamoo · 19/08/2020 00:37

This thread is hilarious. OP you are very funny and have a beautiful house. You clearly also have a drive. Your neighbour is an idiot. Anybody parking across your drive is also an idiot.

I am genuinely amazed by the number of people who can’t understand the concept of a drive without a dropped kerb!! Have people never been to the countryside?!?

zoobaby · 19/08/2020 04:11

Why has no-one suggested penguin bollards? Grin

zoobaby · 19/08/2020 04:15

You need one of these. With a little drawbridge. I'm sure that will suffice.

Fingers crossed you get the planning to widen your actually-existing-non-dropped-kerb-driveway. If you can, remove the entire wall and make it a really wide driveway.

To not let people park across the drive that I don’t use?
loobyloo1234 · 19/08/2020 04:17

Struggling to sleep and this thread has cracked me up no end 😂 I also voted YABU until I saw the photo. Sorry OP. I’m also now changing my vote to cancel the kerb 😁

Durgasarrow · 19/08/2020 04:33

Maybe you need some ugly lawn furniture so you can put a Chicago Dibs on it. www.thrillist.com/entertainment/chicago/chicago-parking-dibs-the-unwritten-rules-thrillist-chicago

ColdCottage · 19/08/2020 05:09

Can you put in one of those bollards which fold down flat then chain an old bike to the outside road side of it so nobody can park across your drive.

MsEllany · 19/08/2020 10:43

I think some big heavy planters or something is the best option. As someone has to park so close to the wall, you need something that stops that.

Something like these concrete spheres. And then maybe they can be rolled into your drive when you need to park there.

JM10 · 19/08/2020 10:56

Maybe you need to build a pavement inside your drive so you can drop the kerb? 🙄

Blanketyblanket · 19/08/2020 11:54

msellany just slightly further along the road it becomes very steep. If a car slightly nudged one of those concrete spheres it would very quickly end up like this.

To not let people park across the drive that I don’t use?
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Pittapitta · 19/08/2020 11:55

I was ready to say YABU but read your post and I think in this case you are not unreasonable

DoraThe · 19/08/2020 12:10

Am I being simplistic, but it seems clear to me.

www.highwaycodeuk.co.uk/parking.html :
243 DO NOT stop or park
... in front of an entrance to a property

It's an entrance to OP's property. All this talk about dropped kerbs is irrelevant.

DoraThe · 19/08/2020 12:12

OK, maybe I am!

DO NOT and MUST NOT mean different things.
As you were...

Namechange6005 · 19/08/2020 12:17

Yabu to not park accross it yourself. That really annoys me with the neighbours on my street. The street is busy and you have somewhere no one else can park but you still choose to park elsewhere. Selfish and annoying imo

Ethelfleda · 19/08/2020 13:35

@Blanketyblanket

Fine. I’ll get a dropped kerb. Happy now?
Grin
Collaborate · 19/08/2020 14:34

@Blanketyblanket

This is the most recent street view image I can find. Hopefully not too identifying!
To me that drive looks wide enough for a car, but what do I know?

From what I can gather the law doesn't help anyone very much. Unless you have a vehicle on your driveway that is prevented from accessing the highway the police won't do anything.

I'd get signs done for the drive and bottom of the steps saying access required 24 hours or something similar.

Skyla2005 · 19/08/2020 15:21

I don’t get why you let your neighbour build a conservatory on your drive ? Without seeing the situation of your house And the set up there it’s impossible for anyone to answer this

PrayingandHoping · 19/08/2020 15:27

@Skyla2005 it was the previous owners of her house that built the conservatory. Not a neighbour

newname81 · 19/08/2020 15:29

This is honestly the funniest thread I've ever read Grin sorry OP.
No helpful suggestions but YANBU!! If you were to park across it yourself I assume you can't exit your property? Otherwise I'd just do that all the time.

LonelyFromCorona · 19/08/2020 15:37

Read all your posts, good diagram, good street view picture

YANBU

Blanketyblanket · 19/08/2020 15:37

skyla2005 my neighbour hasn’t built a conservatory on my drive Confused.

collaborate the drive itself is just wide enough to fit a small car on with the wing mirrors tucked in. If another car overhangs the entrance by even 1cm though it is absolutely impossible to get off again without either knocking the conservatory or the overhanging car.

To not let people park across the drive that I don’t use?
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TrickyD · 19/08/2020 15:50

@Multicolourmophead

OP says it's a conservation area. No white lines allowed.

Who says? We are in a conservation area and have white lines in front of our dropped kerb.

SE13Mummy · 19/08/2020 15:51

I may not have been looking at the right fishing village but Street View was keen on including random men in the images on the day it visited. Also random sofas on the side of the street.

Blanketyblanket · 19/08/2020 16:43

trickyd I said earlier that we’re not allowed to have white lines painted. I promise I’m not making it up.

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MsEllany · 19/08/2020 16:48

@Blanketyblanket you say rolling boulders like it’s a bad thing!

Fuss · 19/08/2020 16:51

Can you not just hire that bloke to stand there and martial traffic? Give him a high vis vest etc. Job done.