why do people on here feel the need to be so dramatic?

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not a thread about a thread, i saw on another thread someone telling the op to 'move out. now' over a minor inconvenience with her dh aibu to think people on here are unnecessarily dramatic?

Oh and people who put their hand up and say 'when I was a lawyer, doctor, life saving brain surgeon...' were they really? why aren't they doing it now ?

@katie43210

There was a thread not too long ago called 'most OTT responses you've seen on a post'. It was hilarious.

The recent step son allergic to cat thread needed to be on there. Apparently the OP needed prosecuting for harming a child because her SS had a very mild allergy to their cats.

Apparently you're supposed to re-home a pet at the first sign of a sneeze 🤷‍♀️ even if the said sneezing person keeps cuddling said pet in bed at night. Bonkers.

I'm on a roll now...'I've woken up and cant breathe what shall I do?' They always live 'in the middle of nowhere' but finally organise transport and update throughout the journey, whilst waiting in a&e then suddenly stop posting. Cue everyone thinking the OP is dead. Likely too embarrassed to admit it was just a virus

I like the what ifs too.

The other recent thread where the OP didn't want her husband to look down there when giving birth in a hospital.

There was a poster who was going on about 'well what if you'd given birth at home and there was no one else around?!?!?!'

Yeah... But she didn't...

I always think the LTB crew must lack the basic level of empathy to comprehend that there is a vast difference between reading something shitty a man who you don't know or care about has done, and writing him off as a person for it, and doing the same to someone you love and have been building a life with. We might make sweeping judgements about strangers based on one thing we see, but people don't just totally go off someone they love and leave them over one tiny comment.

It's also pretty normal to say harsh or even potentially a bit unreasonable (😱) things during arguments without it making you abusive.

Then there's the "Children come first. End of." brigade who think it's child abuse to ever consider factors alongside a child's wishes when making decisions, or ever expect a child to compromise to any degree. Especially if it's a blended family. Once your first child is born that's it, no more change, ever.

I have never met a child in real life as cushioned as the children of those on MN.

@aSofaNearYou

Then there's the "Children come first. End of." brigade who think it's child abuse to ever consider factors alongside a child's wishes when making decisions, or ever expect a child to compromise to any degree. Especially if it's a blended family. Once your first child is born that's it, no more change, ever.

I have never met a child in real life as cushioned as the children of those on MN.

Yes. You can guarantee OTT dramatic responses if the poster is a step parent.

The worst one I saw was where the OP and her DH was saving up for IVF due to years of infertility and was travelling somewhere for the procedure. Due to this they could only afford to take the children away in the UK this year rather than abroad and one poster was absolutely vile to OP because of it.

Apparently children having abroad holidays every year is absolute priority.

It got deleted because the abuse toward the OP was so horrid by this poster.

Then there was the thread once where the OP came on complaining about her husband who works full time, is a good dad, does a few things around the house like cooking dinner. But she is a SAHM to a toddler daughter and she plays with her daughter and organizes days out including getting the car ready with all the stuff in it which is so exhausting and wishes her husband would help out more. Responses were mixed with some pointing out that she really wasn’t carrying the world on her shoulders while others came on and said “but don’t you know how much effort it takes to put all the stuff in the car for a day out”. Really?

Are these posters and responders really that detached from reality and living in a parallel universe?

Oooooh you can't say no ever to a child.
Usually because the OP is mentally scarred because once their nan told them off for snaffling the last Mr Kipling.
Every single misbehaving child I ever see with the mother faffing around ineffectually psychobabbling about how Junior (usually kicking the shit out of some other kid) needs to be gentle whilst tinkling to the other horrified parents how "boisterous"he is...I put her on the "you're a MNer" list.

Children are unbelievably pandered to on here I find. Half the stuff kids get away with on here I just think

Can't expect your child to play Xbox in their bedroom, they should be allowed constant access to the living room TV at all times even if it's completely anti social because it's their home too.

Step children having the double bedroom 4 nights a month whilst the resident child crams into the box room.

A 17 year old 'child' called their step mum a fucking whore, stole money from their dads wallet and are generally a nightmare? They are obviously just emotionally scarred from their parents separating 14 years earlier and should be cuddled and cooed.

Little Jimmy won't eat the basic pasta dish you've cooked for everyone? Immediately jump up from the table and cook him something else, how dare you suggest he actually try something new or eat what he's given.

The OP who listed packing up the car for days out as one of her 'jobs' was also gold. It takes 10 minutes and it's not everyday...

I also love all the 'life admin' that people seem to do on a daily business. I haven't done a single piece of life admin today or in the past week, I'm still not sure what all this admin people need to do in their general day to day lives.

There's a thread at the moment where the OPs husbands mate is a serial womaniser. Because her husband won't stop being his mate, and has told her the things he gets up to she's gone and left him, probably on the back of the helpful advice she received

Childhood in Mumsnet land ends at 26. People love quoting various 'studies' about not fully formed brains as an excuse for their graduate daughter not to be able to sort out an electric bill or book a holiday without fucking it up.

I have a live on! On a thread I've started about the cost of soft play post-COVID, someone is apparently "beyond astonished" that people pay to entertain their children.

Beyond. Astonished.

The only time I've ever been close to "behind astonishes" was a story about Dick Van Dyke being rescued at sea by a pod of porpoises. I pity people who function every day at small things astonishing them. Sounds like a hard life

You beat me to the life admin! One poster was exhausted as she had no life due to getting home from work at 6 and spending all evening doing the admin and sorting out the kids clothes for the next day.

Yes to the grown up 'children' my kids left home well into their 20s. They did work all day but hardly did a tap around the house. Theirs brains weren't developing they were just bone idle!!

I started a thread on here in the run up the last general election about me and DP having very different political ideas on some issues. On some issues I'm quite far left while he's centre right on basically everything.

The thread was intended as a light-hearted 'DP is driving me mad because he can't see I'm right but seriously how do you cope with important conversations when you're politically different on a range of issues?'

It descended into lots of LTBs, lots of suggestions that the relationship was fundamentally built on thin air, and lots of concern about what would happen when (not if, when) we had children. One poster even commented that I should be very wary because if I ever became disabled it'd be very unlikely that DP would look after me given his right-wing political leanings.

B.O.N.K.E.R.S

I also love all the 'life admin' that people seem to do on a daily business. I haven't done a single piece of life admin today or in the past week, I'm still not sure what all this admin people need to do in their general day to day lives

You just reminded me to check my bank acc. Now I am exhausted. It's only Tuesday.
It's just too much!

Oh what about the thread where the op had inherited a property and was asking for advice on giving the tenants notice (I think) and someone berated her for not simply giving the property to the tenant. As if anyone would do that.

I also love all the 'life admin' that people seem to do on a daily business. I haven't done a single piece of life admin today or in the past week, I'm still not sure what all this admin people need to do in their general day to day lives

I don't even know what 'life admin' is, I am an utter failure as a human being

@aSofaNearYou

I always think the LTB crew must lack the basic level of empathy to comprehend that there is a vast difference between reading something shitty a man who you don't know or care about has done, and writing him off as a person for it, and doing the same to someone you love and have been building a life with. We might make sweeping judgements about strangers based on one thing we see, but people don't just totally go off someone they love and leave them over one tiny comment.

It's also pretty normal to say harsh or even potentially a bit unreasonable (😱) things during arguments without it making you abusive.

In all fairness to the LTB brigade, isn't that sort of the point? I'm going to go against the grain here and say actually its quite important to have that sounding board.

I agree that some people are too quick to jump in with LTB. But if you're in a bad relationship where its difficult to leave you can normalise stuff that's actually quite bad to save your own sanity and sometimes you need a dose of cold, hard reality.

You see all the time on the relationships board someone popping up with stories of behaviour from men which is actually really shit but it often comes as a real eye-opener to the OP because she has got so used to it that she thinks its normal. It's usually not "one tiny comment", its a pattern of behaviour of which the one tiny comment is the tip of the iceberg.

Obviously its much harder to LTB if the B is someone you've invested 20 years of your life in and have children with but that doesn't mean it isn't the right thing to do.

Women are very prone to tolerating shit behaviour from men in general and being made to feel that's "just what men are like". You can call it "dramatic" or whatever but actually having a bunch of strangers on the internet point out that your OH is a bit of an arse can be life-changing for some people.

@JustAPizza

Children are unbelievably pandered to on here I find. Half the stuff kids get away with on here I just think

Can't expect your child to play Xbox in their bedroom, they should be allowed constant access to the living room TV at all times even if it's completely anti social because it's their home too.

Step children having the double bedroom 4 nights a month whilst the resident child crams into the box room.

A 17 year old 'child' called their step mum a fucking whore, stole money from their dads wallet and are generally a nightmare? They are obviously just emotionally scarred from their parents separating 14 years earlier and should be cuddled and cooed.

Little Jimmy won't eat the basic pasta dish you've cooked for everyone? Immediately jump up from the table and cook him something else, how dare you suggest he actually try something new or eat what he's given.

The OP who listed packing up the car for days out as one of her 'jobs' was also gold. It takes 10 minutes and it's not everyday...

I also love all the 'life admin' that people seem to do on a daily business. I haven't done a single piece of life admin today or in the past week, I'm still not sure what all this admin people need to do in their general day to day lives.

What's life admin?

Also, I don't have kids but if my kid called me a 'fucking whore', I'd lose it. I told my mum to sod off once and hoo boy was that a bad idea.

Why do so many people on this site hate step parents? My last stepdad was a cunt but my current one is lovely and he's been really supportive to both me and my brother when we've had problems (my brother had cancer a few years ago, for instance).

What's more sad, people being overdramatic and using hyperbole or posting about people being overdramatic and using hyperbole whilst also being overdramatic and using hyperbole?

That and the “because anxiety”. Genuine, diagnosed anxiety is debilitating, I get that. But it becomes such a full stop - almost as if the anxiety is a get out of jail free card for everything challenging in life. And if you challenge that, you get absolutely piled on for being an uncaring, unsympathetic monster

Urgh yes! I’ve had serious anxiety in the past, didn’t stop me helping around the house or being kind and polite to people.
Seems like “anxiety” is a get out clause for any shitty selfish behaviour.

Eg “my husband told me I repulse him as I put on 1 lb and he calls me a big fat pig every day”

Well maybe he has anxiety? Perhaps be a bit more understanding of mental health issues!

“A drunk driver almost killed me this morning”

Well maybe he’s drinking to help his anxiety. You should pay for your own car repairs and his too as anxiety is really awful!

“My MIL told me she hates me and wants me dead”

She clearly has anxiety and or dementia. You should agree with her when she says this.

Urgh. Mental illness is NOT a fcking excuse to harm people and make their lives a misery. It’s just not.

There was one where someone with their own business who wanted to get rid of a staff member started a thread asking for advice.

Why would you go on a public forum to talk about something that should be as confidential as possible?! Naturally, everyone was on her side and empathetically agreed this person should be let go. No one seemed to wonder about the other side of the argument/how bad a boss this OP must be to come online to ask advice from largely unqualified strangers.

Life admin must be the same as other impossibly tiring and accomplished feats such as domestic horticulture or gardening as we know it, maybe couture sanitation or laundry. How about nutrition cuisinier or cooking dinner to most of us. I mean doing all of these things is suuuch an achievement and only a few notable MNers have managed this in the history of mankind.