why do people on here feel the need to be so dramatic?

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not a thread about a thread, i saw on another thread someone telling the op to 'move out. now' over a minor inconvenience with her dh aibu to think people on here are unnecessarily dramatic?

Feeling soo much better after reading this. Been told to run from my lovely, kind dp who I have a house with, because his ex is toxic.

Am literally shaking in the corner of the room having read this thread.

And have reported each and every one of the PPs.

@Girlzroolz Am also fuming

I'm also being slated to bits on a current thread because my very hardworking Scaffolder DH is a bit of an alpha male, but I quite like that. Apparently i am a misogynist lover, he HATES women and I am willingly bringing up my sons to be the same and should LTB for it. Whilst knowing precisely zero about me or our family situation. I tend to get ripped apart on MN a lot nowadays. It's not like it was 18 years ago when I was first on here with newborns. Everyone seems terribly woke.

It's the 'screaming' that amazes me. Babies and small children sometimes scream, and maybe an adult in an extreme situation, but neighbours, husbands, MILs, customers etc? Shouting maybe, if they're really cross, but screaming?

@nonamehere

It's the 'screaming' that amazes me. Babies and small children sometimes scream, and maybe an adult in an extreme situation, but neighbours, husbands, MILs, customers etc? Shouting maybe, if they're really cross, but screaming?

Teenage girls scream. That tells you a lot about some of the OPs.

*Everyone knows you don't just speak to people.

You must CONFRONT them!

None of that 'speaking to people' nonsense on MN.*

And on man no one ever asks for anything, you must DEMAND it

My favourite is when a friend or neighbour commits some minor transgression or act of thoughtlessness and people are falling over themselves to draft longwinded friendship ending texts full of words like furthermore and henceforth, it’s like no one has the ability to be mildly annoyed, avoid the person who’s annoyed then for a bit, then get over it 🤷🏻‍♀️

Oh yes - those excruciating long winded draft emails that not even the most pompous of parodies of Dickensian lawyers would draft

OPs who respond furiously to everyone who disagrees with them and has all posts that conflict with their argument removed :-)

TBH the answer to AIBU is usually "It depends" or "little of column a, little of column b" but that's not very fun to respond.
However, you do get some very extreme responses to banal statements sometimes. I could post, "I'm not keen on honey" and I could get some horrified "WHY DO YOU WANT ALL BEES TO DIE?!!" response. Like, I never said that and it can't be inferred from what I said either. Chill.

You had a disagreement or heaven forbid, arguement, with your DH/DP? Something that all couples do but will never admit to in the parallel perfect world of MN?

You must LTB immediately and instruct an expensive lawyer. It doesn't matter if you have nowhere to go, no support and limited funds, you must leave and instruct expensive lawyer, even if it means living in your car or on the streets. Or physically kick DH/DP out of his own home, even if he is 6.4 and 20 stone.

I've noticed on my fb group... that any situation end up as

Red flag! That's abuse! Leave him!

Whether it's Because he's left some pants next to the washing basket or tried it on 3 times in a week while she had a migraine.

“My MIL doesn’t like the way I fold my sheets, it’s affecting my mental health”
“My neighbour watches bargain hunt on full volume, it’s affecting my mental health”
“My DH didn’t give me gigantic smile and hug when I came downstairs this morning, it’s affecting my mental health”
“I found my first greys, it’s affecting my mental health”

Seriously, what is wrong with people? And no it sure ain’t their mental health.

Exaggerated language or language inflation has become a feature not only of the internet but in face to face conversations.

I was hoping that one of the few good things that the pandemic could bring was a sense of perspective but this does not seem to have happened.

I just got flamed on another thread. Making this threads point to a t. (if that makes sense.... )
Over-dramatic pregnant OP asking for validation of her choice re: partner. I simply suggested to think/talk it over with ppl who actually know them both instead of relying on hormonal judgement and the sleuth of strangers who have no idea about anything in her life.
I got galled misogynistic just because I didn't jump on the LTB bandwagon at once.

And everything can be solved by therapy. No one is just an evil cunt. No let's go to counselling and it will all be ok.

Or if I tell him to stop he will. Yeah right

And of course when it’s a slow news day in the socialist daily times, you get the ‘let’s abolish private schools’, ‘aren’t private landlords evil scum of the earth’ type threads. Usually the OP and a couple of hardliners validating each other while everyone else chimes in and leaves after being told they are worse than evil witches who eat children.

I posted a thread the other day about people who mess with wild animals and then ending up hurt and how they do actually have only themselves to blame, and someone responded with: “so I assume you’re a vegan then?”

People are commenting from their own experience.

They might for example spot the sort of abusive behaviour that starts small, like giving backhanded compliments, which they now know is how their own former partner began controlling them.

Only people who have experienced relationship abuse are likely to comment so they're a self-selecting demographic!

I just read one about funny things people overhear in the garden. One of the responses was 'I live in (whatever postcode). Sorry we can't all afford Gardens!'... I love mumsnet

I once posted about my DH suffering from depression and asked how I could help him, and I got so many LTB’s! Calling him selfish and emotionally abusive, etc. It was unbelievable. Luckily I know that he’s a wonderful husband in real life, and he was just suffering with poor mental health for a short period. But I’d imagine that there’s posters on here that would’ve taken that advice seriously.

"Dh is out doing his hobby".....Why not just say what the hobby is? Do you honestly think it will out you? That if you say your dh is playing, say, golf yet again, someone will recognise you as Samantha from 15 high street, Kettering because, you know, no one else's husband plays golf in the entire country, do they?
Or the advice, that goes along with 'LTB', to have a free half hour consultation with a solicitor, because all solicitors have to offer this service you know.

Does no one else come here for the drama.... 🤭

@SissySpacekAteMyHamster what a great idea haha

@Smorgasbored0000

Indeed. I remember posting a thread to have a little moan about my DH having 'man flu', and not wanting me to go to our local Tescos and leave our DDs (then 6 and 3) in his care for 10 minutes because he didn't feel up to taking care of them. I was annoyed, and asked him why he wouldn't simply switch in children's TV?

I was simply having a vent, as a lot of women do when men make too much fuss about a cold. But one poster said he was obviously being abusive, which is an insult to women who really are going through domestic abuse (like my DSis's first marriage).

My DH doesn't suffer from 'man flu' anymore btw, he hasn't had a day off work for over 5 years.

@AlternativePerspective

I posted a thread the other day about people who mess with wild animals and then ending up hurt and how they do actually have only themselves to blame, and someone responded with: “so I assume you’re a vegan then?”

That was hilarious!