why do people on here feel the need to be so dramatic?

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not a thread about a thread, i saw on another thread someone telling the op to 'move out. now' over a minor inconvenience with her dh aibu to think people on here are unnecessarily dramatic?

Reminds me of the thread where someone got very upset wanting a trigger warning because the thread contained a photo of a massive snake and they had a snake phobia.

The thread title was something like “I’ve just found a massive snake in my garden.”

Done of the OTT responses are because the thread itself was OTT. I’m baffled by the number of people who need to post to the whole world for advice or a major discussion on the potential unreasonableness of someone not taking the bins out. Who gives a fuck? I wouldn’t even consider telling a really good friend about a petty dispute with my husband over who takes the bins out, let alone post it for the world world to have an opinion on. Seriously, if they need to come to MN to ask random strangers how to deal with such random trivialities, there’s no hope for them when it comes to real problems. So it’s no wonder that such threads get responses such as “LTB” abd this year’s hot favorite “he’s gaslighting you”.

Just imagine if everyone took all of the advice given on here for the most trivial things:nobody would be married anymore, 101 would need to recruit an extra million call-handlers, no one would be in contact with their parents or in-laws, no one would have any friends, A&E wait times would be around 6 days, and there would be so many spilt drinks and woken-up babies that the whole world would be a mess.

What about the fucking evil mother-in-law's who buy their grandchildren presents! At Christmas! Or worse, want to SEE them!

I've noticed that almost any blatantly U aibu OP has learned to slip in the "I suffer from anxiety" thing so that the fangirlz can shout down anyone who says "er yeah, you are a bit" (it's usually a parcel left with them by evil postman for equally evil serial killing neighbour) with a DID YOU NOT SEE THE OP SUFFERS FROM ANXIETY???

I am not belittling anxiety. In the same way I know bullying exists, I know anxiety does. But by about 80% of MNers? Nah. It's become a handy get out of jail free card for being a twat and it does real sufferers a disservice. (In the same way someone who fucks up at work and gets told off is immedy the victim of bullying)

@TrickyD

Where have all these ‘Anxiety Issues’ suddenly sprung from? Every second person seems to have them.

It's more like 75% of posters nowadays, I don't know how they all manage day to day life

Yuck @ own random apostrophe.

I'm also remembering (couple of years ago now) the first time someone was really, properly traumatised and crying because they hadn't watched the semi-final of some reality show on the night it was broadcast and went ballistic at everyone for talking about it.
Kind of missing the point that they were the ones choosing not to watch it on the night it was shown.
Posters (presumably equally sobbing and traumatised) responded to the YABUs by howling snottily " and and what if the OP is a life saving heart surgeon who saved 18 lives while Strictly was on last night, doesn't she deserve better huh?"

It's like an anonymous Facebook feed on here these days.

I'm on a few, 'ahem' Fb groups with a certain instagrammer in the title, they like cleaning a lot and grey. I love watching her but the followers on the fb groups are batshit, over dramatic loons.

Keeps me entertained for hours.

@WorraLiberty

On a serious note though OP, I think a lot of the 'LTB merchants' are probably massively projecting due to whatever's going on in their own lives.

They probably want others to do what they never had the courage to do themselves.

Also, some people learn uniformed MN responses and just seem to type them for the sake of it.

Cancel the cheque worra.

Everyone's livid or apoplectic, half of mumsnet is shouting LTB while the other half are arrogantly judging the OP with gems such as "why did you ever have children with this man?"

I believe that after an indeterminate amount of time on this site, you are quietly taken from your home and replaced by a mumsnet clone, that's why everyone here talks the same as each other, which is wholly unlike the way anyone in real life speaks.

Apoplectic is SUCH an underused word...

Don’t dare make a meal or do some washing for your 20 year old dc !! You’ll get told it’s ridiculous they are ADULTS!!

Don't forget all these people who can't eat; they slurp, smack, gobble, guzzle, trough, devour, pig, inhale, stuff... but never eat.

But only fat people of course.

@boltzmannbrains
Lol at the snake thread!

And the snobby school mum cliques. My children have been at two schools, some parents I've liked a lot, some slightly less so, all have been normal, friendly people who chat to other parents. Even the pta mums seem nice round here.

My anxiety is very triggered by this thread. I'm shaking and crying as I write this, I'm definitely going to die of corona virus, DP Is too busy to make me a cup if tea. It's abuse I tell you. WON'T SOMEBODY THINK OF THE CHILDREN?? I'm off to A&E immediately.

This is so abusive.

I got told to just move to a detached house in the middle of nowhere years and years ago on here when I dared to post, under a different username, about my neighbours feral children who screeched constantly. Not normal family noise. No SN. Just badly behaved and poorly parented children in a block of flats in the middle of London.

Cos moving away from my job in central London was something I could do. And I was obviously unreasonable, as we're all the other neighbours, for wanting to sleep at night and have a bit of peace and quiet in our own homes.

@ClickandForget

Same for starting to cry if nobody agrees with them (bonus points for flinging themselves to the floor as well)

In fairness it's only mothers in law who are prone to chucking themselves about and weeping.

True! I did have MIL in the original sentence then I changed it around so MIL accidentally dropped out (or probably fell to the floor weeping and thrashing)

Glad a few people have mentioned the "oh, but I have anxiety" get out of jail free card. There is a massive difference between having a diagnosed anxiety disorder and being anxious about some things.

"People pleaser" seems to be the latest. If someone on MN can give it a label, then it is a bona fide, actual "thing". Said almost with pride.

On a mask thread recently (can't remember which one, there have been soooo many), one poster came up with ..."what if 50 people like you were not wearing a mask indoors and there was a chemical spillage that resulted in you all coughing in each other's faces?". WTH?

I'm shaking with rage that some of you are typing without wearing a mask, what if I catch a computer virus?

And instead of actually speaking to someone and sorting it out. It all gets blown out of proportion. Or instead of just ignoring whatever the issue/ problem is everyone has to get a solicitor etc.

@Casschops

And instead of actually speaking to someone and sorting it out. It all gets blown out of proportion. Or instead of just ignoring whatever the issue/ problem is everyone has to get a solicitor etc.

Everyone knows you don't just speak to people.

You must CONFRONT them!

None of that 'speaking to people' nonsense on MN.

“Guzzling water” is the latest one.

Apparently only entitled greedy pigs drink water.

In some MNers day they just quietly lived with chronic dehydration and LIKED IT!