why do people on here feel the need to be so dramatic?

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not a thread about a thread, i saw on another thread someone telling the op to 'move out. now' over a minor inconvenience with her dh aibu to think people on here are unnecessarily dramatic?

I must admit that I'm often a bit nonplussed by the posters who advise someone to kick their DH/OH out,or LTB because he called them a stupid cow or something similar in the heat of the moment during an argument.

I'd like to add one as well.
"Name changed for this" - to me this like "come on, let's see if you can suss out who I really am"
I never see the point of announcing it.

To be fair I think “name changed” is often to pre-empt all the “interesting first post” comments.

Why are you so unkind op? It takes nothing away from you to just be a bit more thoughtful and kind. BE KIND you rude cow.

"My DH has a new female colleague. They went out with two other colleagues to have a business lunch with a potential client."

He's shagging her/he wants to shag her/truest your SPIDEY SENSES.

Also, people take the smallest amusement and turn it into the most hilarious thing ever. Anyone here for 'snapped and farted' will understand.

To be fair I think “name changed” is often to pre-empt all the “interesting first post” comments.

The problem is that any troll who has read more then three different posts would know to say NC for this but Pombears, penis beaker, naice ham, Mexican house thief

On a thread where people are talking about their friends and family singing and how annoying it is, someone came on to ask whether they felt such 'hatred and disgust' for other groups of people too.

Any thread where someone complains about family always has someone who comes on to say, "Well at least you HAVE a family - even if they kept you in a cellar for your entire childhood and regularly beat you over the head with a sack of coal. You're so ungrateful. My family are all DEAD and people like you make me feel sick!"

Ha, yes I agree. People have an argument with their partner and it's nanoseconds before there's a 'LTB'. Obviously when there's

I was once told to MOVE HOUSE IMMEDIATELY because of an issue I was having.

The issue was resolved without me having to sell my nice home in a nice area. Bonkers.

I love the power crazed mums. "My MIL gave my DD an ice lolly and I'm so angry! I want to go NC as I told her not to give my children sugar! My DH isnt backing me up!"

One wanted to never see her own mum again for giving her GC a kiss after she had been isolating for fuck knows how long. granny didn't get the Covid from the magic Covid fairies you fuckwit. If these women were half as assertive when they needed to be half the posts on here wouldn't exist.

Someone just knocked on my door - DH is working away. I'm so scared. Should I phone the police?

Cue 20 replies saying someone is obviously watching the house and will burgle it in the night.

My neighbour made a noise. Should I phone the police too? I love all the 'report them to the authorities' posts. Like we are in school and if we tell the teacher everything will be ok.

The authorities don't give a fuck. Something many simply don't grasp.

I loved the one where someone got sent a flirty text by the CEO. They were surprised even though they (a junior) had been given extra special attention (its cause you're so clever love) and the frothing at the mouth brigade told her that even though she had been there 5 minutes to go straight to HR and report him and of course the board would fire him! Straight away! Or to ring acas who would of course ensure he never worked again! (Acas is for employers btw).

It's like a kind of lack of grip on reality.

Oooo it does feel good to vent this.

Half the fun of MN is playing bingo.

Tinkly laugh
Narcissist
LTB
Chilling
Spat my coffee out all over the keyboard
Head tilt
Controlling
Unmumsnetty hugs
Go for a spa day

BINGO!!!

Apparently I'm "part of the problem" because I once suggested that a man might have made a massive fuck up, been deeply ashamed and mortified and never likely to do it again. After hitting his wife once during a massive row, 10 years previously and never since. I suggested that people are able to change after an awful experience they regret deeply. But no. I'm as good as condoning DV apparently. That upset me greatly tbh 😭

@MadameButterface

My favourite is when a friend or neighbour commits some minor transgression or act of thoughtlessness and people are falling over themselves to draft longwinded friendship ending texts full of words like furthermore and henceforth, it’s like no one has the ability to be mildly annoyed, avoid the person who’s annoyed then for a bit, then get over it 🤷🏻‍♀️

I just woke people up laughing

This could possibly be my favourite thread ever. Im in stitches

The MN official signs that someone is cheating all apply to me at some point.

I have changed my fitness regime, started going to the gym a lot, met new people and new let anyone use my phone. I can go through phases of this. There will be jokey / borderline flirty texts with male colleagues. I go out for coffee and lunch with male colleagues and gay female ones. I even tell my DP thoughtless little lies about things I have done. Just to avoid lots of explaining and because he is slightly deaf. The shorter the answer the better.

Never even looked at or thought about another man.

Can’t believe we’re on page 4 and noone’s FUMING yet?!

Always makes me picture the OP standing in their locked bathroom, typing madly, with steam coming out both ears and a bright purple face.

I’d have to go to bed early with herbal tea and a heat pack if I fumed as often as some MNers. Sounds exhausting!

@BigusBumus

Apparently I'm "part of the problem" because I once suggested that a man might have made a massive fuck up, been deeply ashamed and mortified and never likely to do it again. After hitting his wife once during a massive row, 10 years previously and never since. I suggested that people are able to change after an awful experience they regret deeply. But no. I'm as good as condoning DV apparently. That upset me greatly tbh 😭

That’s so sad to hear. People react, whether through frustration, anger, distress or... dare I say! ‘Anxiety.’ Yet the only response it LTB.

The medical drama threads are my favourite. A queue of "doctors" lining up to tell the OP to tell the consultant what tests they should be doing. Posters diagnosing conditions because once 20 years ago their Aunt Mabel had a funny turn.

Then on the flip side posters with their heads hanging on by a thread being told not to go to the emergency department because the NHS have too much to be doing. Oh yes call one of the magic "log it just in case" numbers. (See also all crime threads)

YANBU.

MN really isn't representative of real life.

There was a (now deleted) thread a few days ago about an OP whose 16yo DD went to meet a boy she'd met online for sex. OP was mainly annoyed as she caught the train to another town and didn't let her know. Sex was consensual but DD came back feeling a bit like she'd rushed it. There were various posters telling her to call the police on the boy in question.

Now don't get me wrong, I fiercely advocate for women's rights and raising the appallingly low conviction rate of rape and sexual assault. I feel like I'm forever arguing with MRAs that women who "claim rape after they regret sex" don't exist. But that thread just made me think FFS, the OP's daughter did not claim at any point that there was any wrongdoing and I really think some posters wanted there to be. It was awful to watch it all unfold.

And I agree there's DEFINITELY a lot of LTB projection here.

Mind you when I did LTB myself MN Was a great help, I just ignored the loons.