To call out doctor/ambulance

[Caplin]

Tonight we had neighbours round, all outdoors etc. At some point H vanishes. Ask kids, they say he is in the loo. He is an introvert so I

assume he has gone to bed as this is normal.

Wave people off. Go inside to discover H unconscious and shivering behind bathroom door. He may have been there 2 hrs. Had to force my way in. Got him into bed, no fever. After some water seems ok, but messed up and confused. I wanted to call 999/111 but he refused.

Kids are petrified. Should I insist he sees a doctor?

If something like this had happened to my husband and he decided to leave me because of it, I would happily wave him off. Anyone who broke up a relationship because their partner cared enough to do the right thing, isn't worth keeping.

meh

Someone respecting my conscious decision is important to me, I don't know 🤷

I just came in here to say my DSis was young, healthy, felt fine, suddenly wasn’t and collapsed without warning. Inside ten minutes was in cardiac arrest. DS was aged 34. Never hesitate to call 999 for unexplained loss of consciousness, it is never normal. There’s a reason an ambo crew handing over to Resus include LoC as a key indicator.

@Chanjer

If something like this had happened to my husband and he decided to leave me because of it, I would happily wave him off. Anyone who broke up a relationship because their partner cared enough to do the right thing, isn't worth keeping.

meh

Someone respecting my conscious decision is important to me, I don't know 🤷

But the guy had only recently been unconscious for reasons unknown.

I had an asthma attack last week and was not making sensible decisions because my oxygen levels were so low. I can see that now and my children didn't over-ride me, but we've discussed what they should do next time.

OP I hope there's nothing serious going on and he makes a good recovery.

OP, you came on here asking if you should call out a doctor or ambulance. You then ignored many posters (several claiming to have medical experience/knowledge) who said you needed to call asap. Now you being incredibly rude to those of us who told you what should've happened.

When it comes to serious medical issues, such as heart attack, stroke, or someone being found unconscious (especially for an unknown amount of time and an unknown cause), that persons request of no medical help is over ruled by the serious condition. Even if they insist they are fine afterwards - they cannot know this after such a serious incident.

It is always better to get checked out at the appropriate time frame for the medical condition, and it be nothing serious long term, than to ignore the signs of a potentially life threatening condition and subsequently lose that life. Being unconscious is a serious condition that needs to get checked immediately, not ignored because that person claims they feel fine, but won't admit what happened.

@caplin I'm glad to hear he was feeling better this morning. Thank you for letting us know.

How rude OP.

I suggest next time you make the decision yourself. What did you think people were going to say ffs.

I don't think anyone has been bitchy, especially not deliberately but it does seem bonkers not to have called 999 immediately when you found him unconscious!

Uncalled for and rude OP when people have given their time trying to help.
As an aside my brother in law had a funny turn the other night, his wife called an ambulance straight away...turned out to be a stroke...a man in his early fifties.

I think the lesson here is to ring 111 immediately for advice if you are not sure either way. Don't post on mumsnet, attracts way too much drama. After all that's what 111 are paid for.

And I know you didn't want to call 111 because your partner asked you not to but since when were we all controlled by men? Unconsciousness at any point will trump your judgement of calling 111 so just do it, don't be scared of what your partner will think, do it in another room if you have to

I absolutely understand OP. I very recently had somebody close to me have a serious knock to the head and short term memory loss, despite their protestations I called 999 but when the operator asked to speak to the patient and patient denied needing any medical assistance, they refused to send an ambulance.
Despite the fact my loved one couldn’t remember where they were or their date of birth. They just didn’t want a ‘fuss’.
Sadly they passed away less than a week later. I’m still very upset with the ambulance service taking the word of somebody with a head injury and memory loss over someone with them and trying to explain that something wasn’t right,

Don’t question your gut instinct.

Is 999 the right thing to do for any LoC?

I used to faint a lot when I was younger (low BP) and no-one ever called an ambulance. DP didn't when I fainted in the teeny shower room in our motorhome last summer, either.

Hope your DH is ok now, OP.

DH passed out in the chemist next door to the GP once. I rang 999 and called an ambulance, the GP who saw him came out and saw him again and at no point did anyone tell me to not call 999 or to cancel the ambulance. They didn’t let me drive him to A&E either. No idea why.

I used to faint a lot when I was younger (low BP) and no-one ever called an ambulance

If you have a known medical condition which has lightheadedness/fainting as a known symptom and especially if you have done something to "trigger" it (eg getting up too quickly, feeling lightheaded then fainting) then it is different from someone where the unconsciousness has come from nowhere without any indication, they have no underlying health conditions and the unconsciousness has been for an indeterminate period of time.

They didn’t let me drive him to A&E either. No idea why.

Two main reasons.

Firstly, your safety as your attention will not be 100% on the road and you are more likely to be in a state of heightened emotions and therefore would be at higher risk of an accident.

Secondly, if his condition changed enroute - which could happen if the fainting was a symptom of something more serious - then in an ambulance they have all the equipment to do something, as well as someone whose only job is to focus on him. If you're driving him, you may not notice a change, cant do anything if it did and also have to focus on driving safely.

Good points, melj1213, thank you I hadn’t thought about this since it happened. I did drive to hospital after the ambulance but I suppose I was calmer knowing DH was being looked after.

Thanks for the update OP. Hope it all turns out okay.

He really does need to see a Dr in spite of his protestations. My dad went through a sleeping a lot / delerium stage and it turned out he was having a series of mini strokes.

You never know what is happening physically if you don't get checked out properly.

Have you done a FAST test on him?

OP for your sake I hope you don't regret it

How about next time op instead of posting on here why don't you just make your own mind up? You're so bloody rude.

OP what a very rude last post! You came on MN to ask advice- and I seriously question why anyone who is worried about a medical issue would do this instead of dealing with it in an appropriate way themselves - and then have been rude to people who were offering the advice you asked for! In future don't ask for advice and then you won't have to be offended.

I'm sure the OP has hidden the thread. I also thought it a bit disturbing that she would post a thread on Mumsnet at a time when her DH was in a bad way. Surely the only thing to use the phone for would be to call 999?

I cannot believe that anyone would find someone unconscious and not call 999. How utterly bizarre. No-one wants to go to hospital but sometimes it is necessary to override their wishes and get help for them, particularly when they are confused. Could be he has had a heart attack,especially if he felt sick and then became unconscious.

I don't think you should ask for advice on what to do if you aren't interested in the responses. Posters' are being sensible and responsible. You, sadly, have been anything but.

I hope your husband will be okay.

I hope your husband will be fine. Please stop being so rude to people who are simply answering your question