AIBU to wonder how I can find out what time I got married?

[ForgetfulAsFuck]

Well this is embarrassing. DH and I are about to celebrate a wedding anniversary and I want to get him a present that involves the exact time we got married (it's a star map thingy of what the stars looked like on the day. DH likes star thingies )

I know the date we got married but can't remember the time. Does anyone have any bright ideas of how I could find this out? It is 20 years ago so my usual No. 1 strategy to find shit out (namely, looking at my phone) won't work We didn't have invites or anything like that. We have some photos but they wouldn't show the time. My wedding certificate is probably somewhere in the loft but I can't get in there anyway.

Any other bright ideas?

Ironically DH will remember the time but there is no way I could ask him without making it obvious I am plotting something. I give everything away and I really really want this to be a surprise.

It probably doesn't help but I think it was either 2pm or 2.30pm. But then I think it may have been 4pm. It was in the afternoon I know that.

Is there anyone else who was there who you could ask?

Ask some of your guests? They might have kept the invite. This is the sort of stuff my in laws hoard.

Will the place you got married know??

An elderly relative may remember?

Ask your guests, just in case one has a 20 year old diary kicking about?

Any emails lurking deep in the recesses of your account?

Digital photos with a time stamp?

Do you have any weddings coming up that you're guests to?

You could mention that "look Kate and Ben are getting married at 2, (or whatever time their wedding is) just like us" and either he will agree or he will correct you.

Can you work it out from what you did before and afterwards - a meal, drinks?

Get one of your kids to seamlessly weave it into conversation.

Does anyone (possibly your DPs or PILs) still have their invitation? I'm almost certain your certificate won't have the time on so that's the only way I can think of.

Ask your guests if they kept any kind of record. But honestly, if you dont remember then neither does he and the stars didn't move much in 2hrs so just give it your best guess?

Did you keep an invite or did your mum?. Is there a video?

Sorry missed the bit where he would know. Just slip it into conversation. Talk about someone elses really late wedding .

You will either have to ask a reliable guest or your husband...drop it into convo.

Lovely idea by the way...but you are right, the time needs to be correct for the chart to be accurate.

Happy Anniversary!

Oooh lots of replies! It was a really very small wedding, my mum was there but she won't remember the time. No invites and no videos. Ironically I'm not that fussed about wedding ceremonies (although I like being married) so we just had a tiny one and a meal afterwards.

DH definitely will remember the time. I could ask a DC to seamlessly weave (I like that ) into a conversation but they're about as subtle as I am I know MN will solve how that conversation should go, so over to you lot...

In my house it will probably be
DC: "Dad, mum wants me to ask you what time you got married but I can't tell you why"
DH "2pm, why?"
DC "she's making you a star chart thingy"

Oh god I can't remember what time I got married either, I think it was 2 cos I remember being early! Xx

How about the payment for the meal? Would that show on your bank statement?! Just clutching at straws here

Although saying that...Sometimes things don’t show for a couple of days so maybe not very accurate!

How many years ago was it?

I can't remember mine either but I think I kept an invitation somewhere. The whole thing was a bit of a blur to be honest, there's lots I can't remember.

Tell him you’re doing your wedding horoscope and need to know the time.
Or that you’ve heard there a correlation between wedding time and child birth times.

Was it long ago and was it at a register office? If you give them a ring, they might still have their appointments book from 20 years ago.They're great at hanging on to stuff, after all, it's kind of their job!

If a church, it might be in church records.

It was 20 years ago fucking hell

Pfft, easy.

Ooooo look DH, mumsnet are talking about the best time to get married. They say 2.30, isn’t that when we got married?

You could even start the said thread yourself. We’ll all go undercover and contribute.

We once spent a couple of months trying to remember what year we got married. Eventually we wasted a few hours and hunted down our wedding certificate. Neither of us were right.

I doubt very much either of us would remember the time.

I'm sure you could find out from him. Just chat about how it was a lovely day, great food etc and see what he remembers.

To be fair, I only know what year we got married as it was 2000 so easy to remember It was a registry office so they may have the details. I might start a casual conversation with him tomorrow. I know you'll all be on the edge of your seats so I'll let you know

Ironically we still have the menu from the restaurant where we ate afterwards, stuck to our fridge! It's been through many house moves and is still there clinging on with its teeny alphabet magnets keeping it safe.