AIBU to wonder how I can find out what time I got married?

[ForgetfulAsFuck]

Well this is embarrassing. DH and I are about to celebrate a wedding anniversary and I want to get him a present that involves the exact time we got married (it's a star map thingy of what the stars looked like on the day. DH likes star thingies )

I know the date we got married but can't remember the time. Does anyone have any bright ideas of how I could find this out? It is 20 years ago so my usual No. 1 strategy to find shit out (namely, looking at my phone) won't work We didn't have invites or anything like that. We have some photos but they wouldn't show the time. My wedding certificate is probably somewhere in the loft but I can't get in there anyway.

Any other bright ideas?

Ironically DH will remember the time but there is no way I could ask him without making it obvious I am plotting something. I give everything away and I really really want this to be a surprise.

Any chance someone had a digital camera? Images from that camera might have a time stamp on it if you look at the properties.

Pretend you’re reading a thread on mumsnet about a bride who is concerned about how it’s ‘bad luck’ to get married after 2pm and you can say ‘what a load of nonsense - we got married after 2pm and we’re fine!’, then see what he says. Good luck!

A friend suggest you try here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3994778-AIBU-to-ask-what-time-of-day-is-the-best-time-to-get-married?msgid=99130764#99130764

Good luck!

Oooh I just fell down a sidereal time rabbithole! (Is that the expression?) DH would probably like that.

Yes I don't know exactly when we were married married but it's not really for star accuracy, it's just because the picture thing has a date and time on it. It would actually be a lot easier to just see if they can leave the time off the picture text wouldn't it really

If the ceremony started at 2 I think we were probably married married at 2.03! IIRC we literally stated our names and said some brief lines (embarrassingly we got the giggles ), kissed and then signed the register. We really fail at weddings, DH only chose a wedding ring this year

Did anyone else take photos? Back then, even traditional film cameras often printed date /time on pictures. It was something I loved about switching to digital cameras, no more date stamps spoiling the pictures.

Look through all your photos and photos that your mum or grandma (or anyone else who would have taken and kept photos) might have. We have one where you can see a clock on the wall in the background.

We could probably rough-guess it, but it always depends on how much the vicar rambles, how fast or slow they talked, how fast/slow you both talked, if you had anyone getting up to read, etc etc.
There could be time stamps on photos, videos etc., that’s worth looking for?

I only got married last year and already can’t remember. Either can DH. It’s prompted me to look and find out and note it down so in 19 years we aren’t wondering too!

If anyone took digital pictures, the time might be embedded in the meta data. If I am remembering the time correctly, digital cameras weren’t quite mainstream yet so that may not help.

Ah just looked at my watch in a few photos think it was 1430 for us!

One of our wedding photos has me walking down the aisle with a clock behind me, it was bang on 1 o’clock as planned! The forecast was rain and I was going in a soft top car so we left early so I could go with the roof down!

I hope the sleuth thread helps.

Have you looked at your album? I know the clock in the room we got married is showing in one of the photos?

Can you pay to see the register?
The time should be recorded there.

Liking all the sleuthing ideas! I don't have a wedding album, when I say wedding photos I mean we have about half a dozen snaps which are hilarious in their total lack of anything wedding related - one of them is a random close up picture of someone's backpack and in another DH has his hand on his forehead with an expression of get me the fuck out of here Ahh, the days before phone cameras! Sadly none have the time stamped, one of them has a date of a couple of weeks later printed on the back

I shall ask DH when I see him later. Or just try and get the picture without a time on. At this rate I'll end up ordering it weeks after the anniversary date anyway!

What did you do for food? Can you remember thinking “oh that will work well/badly because people will be hungry at xx time” when you were planning?

I could almost slightly regret not having a big meringue dress and proper church and party and dances and invites and flowers and videos now! We always said we would go to Vegas for our 20th anniversary and get married again by Elvis. I was actually planning a big meringue dress for that.

It actually makes me feel a bit strange to look at the photos now and how no one had any idea at all what the next 20 years would be like, and how we have no ideas now what the next 20 years will be like...

We just went to our local restaurant that we liked and had a set meal thing (ironically I still have the menu still so know exactly what we ate - but not the time!)

I know it was afternoon definitely and I know DH was in the pub beforehand

I think I'll just get the chart without the time

Well I know everyone is on the edge of their seat and didn't want to be all Victorian safe so a quick update...

We were married at 12. (Technically 12.03 probably for the pedants amongst us!) so DH must have been in the pub before midday on our wedding day which would make a great AIBU thread these days!

I have ordered the star chart and if anyone wants to feel an excruciating sense of irony, they don't actually print the time on the chart, you just have to enter it when you buy So really I could have said 2pm although DH may well know the stars were wrong as he is such a star geek

I'm very excited for it to arrive and now wondering where the hell I can hide it so he doesn't see it and that I won't forget where I hid it

Yey. How did you find out?

I asked DH I told him there was a MN thread about whether the time of day of wedding had a correlation with the length of time a marriage lasted Mornings - short marriages, afternoons long marriages (for someone who can't lie to save my life I was quite impressed with myself!) He said we must be in the middle as we married at midday exactly. I don't think I made him suspicious!

Also I asked my mum (I didn't think she would remember as she is elderly and these days seems to have a worse memory than I do) but she told me she had written about the wedding in her diary, she even found the diary for me and said it was 12. (This made me a bit tearful actually!)

I'm bemused that you can actually have forgotten this. Our wedding was at 3.30pm we would have been married after the processional music, the welcome, the first hymn, the reverend's wedding sermon, the first reading and the vows. The photograph in the vestry clearly shows the clock and the time we signed the register.

It was 29 years ago and the most spiritual and profound day of my life. I remember it like yesterday, especially the holiness and spirituality when the rings were blessed.

Enjoy your anniversary.

We have one of those star things and I don't think it has the time on it! Just the date!

Somebody might remember that the invitation was 2pm at the church. But do you want the exact time the stars were aligned as you said your vows?Good luck with that one!

Thanks for the update
I cant remember what time we got marrried - it was around lunchtime, could’ve been noon actually!

Well done! I honestly can't remember much about ours at all, its just a blur. I think I was so nervous I just wanted it all over and out of the way.