Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

AIBU to wonder how I can find out what time I got married?

76 replies

ForgetfulAsFuck · 13/08/2020 18:48

Well this is embarrassing. DH and I are about to celebrate a wedding anniversary and I want to get him a present that involves the exact time we got married (it's a star map thingy of what the stars looked like on the day. DH likes star thingies Grin)

I know the date we got married but can't remember the time. Does anyone have any bright ideas of how I could find this out? It is 20 years ago so my usual No. 1 strategy to find shit out (namely, looking at my phone) won't work Grin We didn't have invites or anything like that. We have some photos but they wouldn't show the time. My wedding certificate is probably somewhere in the loft but I can't get in there anyway.

Any other bright ideas?

Ironically DH will remember the time but there is no way I could ask him without making it obvious I am plotting something. I give everything away Blush and I really really want this to be a surprise.

OP posts:
StarTrekRedShirt · 13/08/2020 19:49

Ask your mum and MIL if she kept her invitation? It’s the sort of thing mums do.

Dorisdaydream2 · 13/08/2020 19:51

I like the idea of starting a ‘what is the best time of day to get married thread’ that you could discuss with your DH!

Chicchicchicchiclana · 13/08/2020 19:53

Yabu

TriciaMcMillan · 13/08/2020 20:00

Just to throw in a random curveball, do you think the time the ceremony starts, is definitelythe time you 'got married'?

I can see an argument for saying, particularly when the ceremony is long and involves everybody including Great Aunt Doris doing a heart warming and deeply memorably reading (you know who you are), that you actually got became married an hour and 12 minutes later. I think that means I got married at about 2:27.

IgiveupallthenamesIwantedareg0 · 13/08/2020 20:02

What do you mean by "the exact time"? The start of the ceremony - even if in a registrar's or the actual precise time when the official said " i now pronounce you man and wife" - or whatever it is they say ? You are only actually legally married when all the necessary signatures are on the necessary documents-do you honestly think that interests anyone other than you and that someone was standing there with a stopwatch?

MiconiumHappens · 13/08/2020 20:02

Look for clocks in the background of wedding photos?

dwiz8 · 13/08/2020 20:05

Do you need to know the time? Many of the star maps are based on the night sky of that date not time specifically

Moonflower12 · 13/08/2020 20:06

Have just commented on your other thread. Hope I've helped by mentioning the times you think it might be! Grin

Original poster
ForgetfulAsFuck · 13/08/2020 20:11

Other thread? I've only started this one...now I'm worried I've forgotten posting something! Ironically I do have memory problems but only recent years not 20 years ago.

"do you honestly think that interests anyone other than you and that someone was standing there with a stopwatch?"

There's always one isn't there Grin I only want to buy a star thingy for DH and they asked me for the time as well as date and clearly that interests other people as they've posted. Including you Wink

Right. I will subtly discuss this with DH tomorrow...

OP posts:
TriciaMcMillan · 13/08/2020 20:13

I think someone has helpfully started one!

Agwen · 13/08/2020 20:14

If the time needs to be precise for the star chart thingie, how will you find out what time during the ceremony the registrar confirmed you are married?! What if it was closer to 3 than 2.30? How would you know? Do we need to get a registrar onto this thread to ask how long ceremonies took in 2000?

Totally over thinking this on your behalf OP.

Agwen · 13/08/2020 20:15

I am glad that others are similarly concerned about the exact timing of your wedding Grin

TriciaMcMillan · 13/08/2020 20:20

It's given me pause, I started getting married at 2 (just after actually, my dear father stepped on my dress as we started down the aisle and I had a brief bridzilla moment first), but the ceremony and signing and stuff is all needed before the 'status' can be conferred.

Did you have a long ceremony or couple of 'I do's and a scribble in the book? It might mean the difference between 10 past 4 or closer to 5!

RyanBergarasTeeth · 13/08/2020 20:26

I came on to say theres another thread on this Grin show him that and say ooh look at this mn thread what time did we get marrisd so incan tell mn Grin

SerenDippitty · 13/08/2020 20:27

Have you got one of your wedding invitations? We got married 30 years ago and still have one somewhere.

SirGawain · 13/08/2020 20:29

Since he knows you have an anniversary coming up you could drop a remark into the conversation such as: " Do you know I can't remember the actual time of our wedding'. Why would he suspect the reason that you mentioned it?

slashlover · 13/08/2020 20:29

From the OP - We didn't have invites or anything like that.

Why do people keep asking if OP kept an invitation or if her mum/sister might have one?

GinWithASplashOfTonic · 13/08/2020 20:29

How long ago where you married? If it was in the last 15/10 years.
Are there any emails confirmations or correspondence with the vicar saying the time?

Did anyone close to you save the date and time of your wedding in their phone? Then it's a case of searching their diary

slashlover · 13/08/2020 20:33

How long ago where you married? If it was in the last 15/10 years.

It is 20 years ago so my usual No. 1 strategy to find shit out (namely, looking at my phone) won't work

Bettysprocker · 13/08/2020 20:34

I got married in the registry office 25 years ago. When I booked the wedding I was given a leaflet with the booking on. It has the time on it.

TheTrollFairy · 13/08/2020 20:37

Does it matter what time you got married? As in, does it state the time on the thing you got done? Cuz surely these people who map out the stars on these things just makes it up and no one really checks (always one that has to be a kill joy like me Grin)

FlatCheese · 13/08/2020 20:43

Not really getting this - if you were married during daylight hours then the stars (except the sun) wouldn't be visible, so you'd have a chart with all the stars that you couldn't see at that time of year.

If it's an astrology thing then that probably doesn't matter. If, however, he's into astronomy (as in, actually looking at stars) then wouldn't it make more sense to have a chart with stars that were visible that night?

pussycatinboots · 13/08/2020 20:45

Ours was 8 yrs ago, on my 40th birthday - so DH only has to forget one date Hmm

I've just asked him, his response:
"It was before lunch, about 11?... Why? "

Not helpful to you, but I got the reply you will get even if you're subtle. Grin

Zilla1 · 13/08/2020 20:48

If you wanted a draft question, would "mum bet you can't remember what time you got married, dad. And what colour your/her mum wore' - too confrontational?

Good luck though I'd be surprised if a star chart is that time-dependent.

Would a sidereal time be of interest to him??

StCharlotte · 13/08/2020 20:50

@MiconiumHappens

Look for clocks in the background of wedding photos?
Oh good call!
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Join Mumsnet Log In

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.