Fully expecting to get flamed but wanted to see what others think.
So as not to drip feed - myself and youngest ds have diagnosed autism. And I worked as a support worker for nearly ten years so do understand both sides and that she can’t really help it. That being said...
I am at my wits end. Our neighbour is a disabled lady who needs 24 hour care, more supervision really as she is fairly mobile and will help hang the washing out etc.
We have always been polite and spoken to her when seeing her out/in the garden etc. Most of the time she is quite friendly.
However her behaviour is deteriorating rapidly. She is now attacking staff, often in the garden (have heard them crying on the phone after being assaulted) and has started to scream and bang loudly on windows/shared walls/cars and shouting ‘fuck off’ far more frequently. As an example, the last two mornings we have been woken up at 4am with this. My youngest ds has autism and is extremely distressed when this happens.
She is also now doing it throughout the day. As you can imagine we don’t really want to have to keep all doors/windows closed for hours in this heat.
She has now started to scream ‘fuck off next door neighbour’ when my children/we are in the garden. We had to leave the paddling pool this morning due to it and my ds has been shaking and upset for the last two hours she won’t stop screaming and banging her windows.
I’m writing this as she is packing the car so we can bugger off for the day.
Over the last few months I’ve tried to just calm the dc with ‘come inside, ‘X’ is just a bit upset’ and do understand that I can’t exactly complain as she can’t really help it.
WIBU to have a chat with the manager when I next see her and just explain how much this is upsetting ds? When I was a support worker a gentleman I worked for ended up in a secure facility after deteriorating in what seems to be the same way (he threw a fire extinguisher at my head and ripped someone’s hair out).
She agrees with me, but DM says I shouldn’t say anything as one day that could be ds (though I think I’d agree if he was doing that then he probably was in the wrong setting).
AIBU?