My in laws just gifted me scales for my birthday

[Lsquiggles]

It's my birthday and I feel absolutely shit after opening a present from my in laws... Fucking scales.

No matter how hard I've tried with them they've always made it clear they don't like me that much, this is just the lowest blow.

They're meant to come over on Saturday and I don't know how I'm meant to bite my tongue.

Wow ancientgran. How did your kids feel about her? My exMIL 'innocently' says all sorts of similar shite. And worse. Am now NC with her, although cant stop my kids seeing her when theyre woth my ex.

Hey look! Your story's been recycled in an Aussie newspaper!
www.kidspot.com.au/parenting/real-life/in-the-news/my-inlaws-just-gifted-me-scales-for-my-birthday/news-story/85aca028931c5eea6d5c11d8a287e4d0
Bastards!

This will probably sound dramatic but I wish this sort of cheeked was classed as plagiarism l. At the very least they should pay to use stories? Why is everything fair game because it’s in the internet. That goes for journalists using photos from Twitter too!

Cheekery*

"I honestly can't see what the problem is" You need to read "How to win friends and influence people" "My husband gave me a scale for my birthday I never realized he hates me" He May not but I DO after reading your dumb ass post

Reminds me of when my mil gave me a book called something like "think yourself slim" by Andrew McKenna

I was size 12 at the time

Wrap it up and give it back to them and say "think you need these more "

@LioneIRichTea
It is awful. I'd never post an obvious personal issue with journo sniffs if only privacy laws existed online.

@IgiveupallthenamesIwantedareg0

Squeekums: don't we all have a house full of "fun stuff, cool stuff, stuff we like"? Mostly that results in just more junk around the place. I'd really have something useful, yes I may have bought it myself but it is appreciated when someone knows what I can really use!

Ok so get her a blanket, picnic basket, a clothing store voucher NOT something that really, blind freddy can see has an underlying message to the OP Its a rude dig at the OP as she did not ask or even hint at wanting scales

@Kbear

Reminds me of when my mil gave me a book called something like "think yourself slim" by Andrew McKenna

I was size 12 at the time

Wrap it up and give it back to them and say "think you need these more "

Are you sure it wasn't Paul McKenna?

Still, what a bitch!! MILs, eh?

Mine bought me size 18 knickers to keep at their house for when I stayed over.....
Apparently dh (boyfriend at that time) had gathered a pair in the washing and poor FIL almost had a heart attack when sorting laundry (he did have one a few years later but that has nothing to do with my under crackers)

I always took my washing home so it was a genuine oversight, but my knickers were normal, run of the mill pants, not dental floss!!

Reminds me of when my mil gave me a book called something like "think yourself slim" by Andrew McKenna

I hope you beat her around the head with it.

Do you know what I got of my mil for my birthday once???????????????

A BAG OF CHOCOLATE LIMES!!!!!!!!

When I had the first dgd after 6dgs my mil bought me a Tefal frying pan..

"Thanks for the scales, are you insinuating I need them. I've got some so you can have them back"

@P999 Wow ancientgran. How did your kids feel about her? My exMIL 'innocently' says all sorts of similar shite. And worse. Am now NC with her, although cant stop my kids seeing her when theyre woth my ex.

Interesting relationships, when they were little she would buy them loads which of course they loved. As they got older they found it all quite funny but I think they were amazingly tolerant, particularly the ones who weren't the "favoured" one and the "favoured" one was probably the most critical in the end.

I try to be a very different type of grandmother so I don't make her mistakes but I probably make my own but hopefully less drastic ones.

Lsquiggles I salute you for taking a stand against this shit. That deserves a giant slice of cake, maybe two slices, as it was your birthday too.

Reminds me when MIL bought and handed to me bottle of disinfectant & pack of J cloths as "Thanks" for staying at ours many moons ago... Just for context I was working full time, 3 kids & DP unemployed, all living in small flat. Said, "you'll have to ask DP as he deals with all the domestic stuff" after picked jaw up. On the plus side did force very non confrontational DP to take a stand and "pick a side"but only after I went on about it for weeks.

To put this in context, I knew DSIS wanted smart scales, and DM was struggling to find her a gift. So I suggested DM buy the scales.

DM refused - even though I told her I knew DSIS wanted them - because she was worried DSIS would see it as a comment on her weight.

It was only after I double-checked, and told DM it was fine, did she go ahead.

@P999

Wow ancientgran. How did your kids feel about her? My exMIL 'innocently' says all sorts of similar shite. And worse. Am now NC with her, although cant stop my kids seeing her when theyre woth my ex.

Innocently saying something would have been better than my exMIL on the one Christmas where I wasn't allowed to stay at home because the GPs 'deserved to see their first grandchild because that's what Normal Families do'.

One potato. Well, a quarter of one potato. One slice of turkey, five green beans and a tablespoon full of watery gravy. Oh, and a tumbler of room temperature water, as I wasn't drinking due to BF.

Yes, I was fat at 11 stone compared to her 7 and a bit, but Christmas Dinner, 6 months after having a baby? What's worse is that I'd missed breakfast and we were there until 8.30pm, so that was literally all I had all day, as I don't like Christmas Pudding and Custard - not that it would have been more than a teaspoon of pud and a tablespoon of custard, going by the first course.

Mind you, I wouldn't have put it past the ex telling her not to give me too much.

Once he went back to work two days later, I went to the shops and stuffed my bloody face.

MIL did make under feed me at hers - DH used to take a walk with me and we'd buy food while out and eat before going back.

She's been slowly taught to comment less about weight - mine her anyone elses.

Though she made a few comments to DD1 recently with food and weight- DD1 put her straght in her place and DH immediately backed her up before I had chance to wade in.

I drew the line when she asked me if having my husband circumcised as a baby had caused any problems in our sex lives.

My MIL kept on and on I should get steralised kept getting me by myself and keep on at me- I think that actually came from a good place as she'd had it done. Though she didn't want DH to get a vasectomy a simplar operation and kept on about their wills leaving everything to DH chillden - in case he had more with someone else - which is good will planning but not tactful to his wife nor did it need constantly bringing up.

It stopped when she said something in front of DH who was for once quite blunt with her.

It's much rarer she does shit like this now as I don't tolerate it and she often tries to get on with me now though FIL can still occasionally be an issue.

I have really enjoyed this thread. My worst present was from my parents on my 50th birthday last year. A bottle of Bulgarian bubbly which was our of date in June (my birthday was in August). Have been LC for a couple of years due to family issues (mainly DM), so not really surprised that they didn't put any thought into it.

Hope you have a quiet day today op..

Mitz, we get that too, we get told what's '' normal '' or not. They are the least normal people I know.

I'd give them the gift back (smiley and polite) and say thank you but I already have some, so they will be wasted.
Then. Plan christmas. Anti-wrinkle cream. Deodorant, subscription to weightwatchers or similar.