Shouldn’t neighbours have apologised

[Crackers6642]

I’m curious what the rest of you think: neighbours kid has bashed our fence with constant footballs. I don’t mean odd ball banging fence, I literally mean he’s been using it to kick against for hours everyday. Old fence was damaged by him, put up a new fence and still carries on. Shouldn’t parents at least tell him to stop? Obviously they know it’s our fence and we paid for it. They sit outside with him. What’s wrong with people.

have you not spoken to them about it?

Yes I have! Still going on today. I felt guilty for bringing it up and felt maybe I overreacted but it’s still happening!

YABU for saying nothing to them

There’s 2 other fences he could bash his ball into but he’s chosen ours Everytime.

Go back around and speak to them.

YABU for saying nothing to them
I had words with them recently

What kind of people allow their children to do this!

Husband is saying that’s what kids do. I paid for fence so maybe that’s why he’s not bothered. Shall I let it go? How can I be at peace in my own mind

Could you put some nails / drawing pins through the fence where he kicks the ball against it and hold them in place with duct tape ? [semi-light-hearted]

Feral kid, feral parents. If they haven't stopped him by now they're not going to. They just don't know how to be decent citizens or neighbours. I would actually be very straight with them and say that if he carries on and damages the fence again you will be billing them for the cost of repair/replacement. These types of people won't change their attitude unless you're as mannerless as they are.

Is just tell the kid to stop it!

Offer to go halves on a brick wall?

Can you get a rottweiler?

I hate this kind of shit - people are selfish arseholes sometimes and bringing their kid up to be a selfish arsehole. Our old neighbours used to be the same. When I asked her why she didn't get her children to kick the ball against their own fence instead of my new one, she said it was because she didn't want her fence to get damaged ...

Not so much apologise, but bloody stop their kid! Speak to them again...tell them could they not purchase a net as you can't afford to replace another damaged fence. The cheek of some people is astounding!

I have a cat that tries to go over a fence. When she does, I shoot the fence with a very large water cannon. I also have very bad aim. . . It could go over the fence. . .

Film the child doing it.
Unbelievably rude.
Send them the video telling that you would appreciate if they would stop their son damaging YOUR property.
This may give them pause for thought.
At the very least it can be used in the small claims court if necessary.

They sound awful.

Plant a pyracantha hedge, then remove your fence. 😁

Alternatively turn on the hose!

Talking to the parents hasn’t worked. Next time boy is kicking ball go and tell him to “kick it over there.” And point to one of the fences that isn’t yours. Stand and wait until he realises you’re going to make sure he does. If he doesn’t then tell him to go and get his parent.

Write them a formal letter telling them if they continue to damage your property you will have to take things further. The parents sound like arseholes and I can't see you having good neighbourly relations after this.

@billy1966

Alternatively turn on the hose!

Absolutely

Is it one of those fences that you can lift out? If so, next time he's doing it, remove the fence.
Rinse repeat until he gets the message.

I was feeling guilty for a few days that I had a confrontation with them. It’s was just talking to them about fence damage, but as I don’t stand up for myself usually it felt like a big fight! Obviously had no effect. I really want to move. I hate the sound it makes

Is it legally your boundary? We've paid for fences up to match our neighbours, but one side wasn't ours, so even though we've paid it's technically theirs.