Boyfriend breaks up with me every argument

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Hi. We are mid 20s.
Last night we had an argument as we were having food in his parents garden and he felt by the end of the night I was bejng quiet However I was just tired.

When we got into bed he said in a bitchy time that once again I was quiet. So this started an argument whereby he said i clearly don't like his family and that I am obviously uncomfortable around them.
I like his parents but I feel I can't be tired without being accused of being in a mood. This has happened numerous times.

And then I started getting tearful saying that I don't understand what I've done wrong tonight, I just felt tired and now I'm being told I don't like them and I'm uncomfortable around them.

But what bugs me is he always says "why don't you just break up with me then" or I turned around to sleep and he said "if you go to sleep we'll break up"

I find this really upsetting but he doesn't actually mean it as he never actually breaks up with me.

This is all just making me feel awkward. As he says I come across I don't like them a lot, I feel this is a flaw in my personality as I genuinely don't do it on purpose and I like his family a lot.

I just still feel a but sad about our tiff last night as I don't get why he snapped at me. He is okay with me now but I don't get why he snapped.
Yes I was tired and quiet but I can't be chatty and hyper all the time.

Sorry if that was rambles. If anyone needs more details let me know as there was too much to say so i struggled to think of the best way to include all details.

Dump him. He's trying to control you.

He sounds like he's got a screw loose to be honest. He also sounds a bit controlling (don't disagree with me or I'll break up with you...). How long have you been together? I'd cut and run I think.

Life is to short to put up with that rubbish.

Nobody has time for this kind of shit. Dump him, do not apologise, and forget him. You are worth more than this.

Why don't you break up with him? Is this what you want for the rest of your life, every time you argue he threatens you?

We've been together a year.
I am a naturally introverted person and I have told him this so I am not the most social of creatures

Hi OP, really sorry to hear this - it sounds like a really unpleasant situation, especially when you were looking forward to a nice evening

I can see you’ve mentioned to your boyfriend how you felt last night. Have you ever mentioned to him how it’s made you feel when he’s said previously that he’ll break up with you? His behaviour sounds threatening and manipulative, and I completely see why it’s making you feel uncomfortable and unhappy.

What is he like normally? Is he normally fairly easygoing or does he often behave in a controlling way (apart from these incidents you’ve mentioned)?

He wants you so scared of him dumping you that you become very obedient.

It is not worth it!

He is not worth it.

He sound exhausting. And about 15. You can do better.

He’s not making you happy is he? I think it’s time to let him go.

That feels like what my ex used to do. Every time I did something he didn't like or that he deemed not right he would start an argument and threaten to leave me.

It's essentially bullying huni and if he wants to break up then say fine. If he's relieved then he will have been waiting for you to pull the cord or if he's shocked and back tracks then maybe he'll see how much of a dick he is being. You are not his performing monkey. You are allowed to be tired without him making up reasons for your being quiet. You need to really think about if you wanna continue this relationship as he's picking on you and that's not ok huni xx

You will end up walking on eggshells around him, second guessing yourself & changing your behaviour to avoid provoking him - is this what you want from a relationship? I agree with the posters above.

Call his bluff; sack him off.

He sounds vile, he doesn't understand you, and is not interested in doing so. He's showing you his true colours - read them and leave before he screws you up any further. He's not the one for you, but you sound lovely and will find someone much better.

Ditch him.

He sounds horrible and you deserve better.

Its not you. Its him.
Its not you. Its him.
Its not you. Its him.
Dont waste your time with this sort of shit.
Call his bluff and find someone better.

Life is too short for that shit.

You are too young to make do with a shit bag. Dump him and play the field a bit, have some fun, and work on your confidence.

When I was your age I had a boyfriend like this. It took me three years to dump him but in the end I did. I wish I had had MN at the time but looking back I wonder how the fuck I put up with that shit for so long, how did I waste the two and a half years (the first 6 months were great)? I even kept diaries back then and re read them with horror. They sound similar to your relationship. He will only get more spoiled, more controlling and more insecure as time goes by.

Wait til his jealous side comes out (I may be projecting). You will end up walking on eggshells with this person.

Why are you scared he'll break up with you? He's trying to control you

Honestly, just him him off. Life is too short for this shite. In your twenties - full life ahead of you.

Obviously that was just BIN him off

He won't change. You are allowed to be quiet, tired and ready for bed. I had an ex that dumped me on Christmas day. He expected me to let him talk and flirt with other women inappropriatly. He would "dump me" if I brought it up or approached the girls. So I dumped him and am now 8 years into a happy strong relationship.

You don't need people who drain you like this. You need someone who gets how you tick. My current partner also is quoet around crowds. He's friendly but doesn't become loud. My dad's also a listener and observer until he's drunk them he talks more. Everyone is different x

You clearly aren't compatible.
Do you really want this for the rest of your life? Probably best to move on and find someone who loves you for who you are.