Boyfriend breaks up with me every argument

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Hi. We are mid 20s.
Last night we had an argument as we were having food in his parents garden and he felt by the end of the night I was bejng quiet However I was just tired.

When we got into bed he said in a bitchy time that once again I was quiet. So this started an argument whereby he said i clearly don't like his family and that I am obviously uncomfortable around them.
I like his parents but I feel I can't be tired without being accused of being in a mood. This has happened numerous times.

And then I started getting tearful saying that I don't understand what I've done wrong tonight, I just felt tired and now I'm being told I don't like them and I'm uncomfortable around them.

But what bugs me is he always says "why don't you just break up with me then" or I turned around to sleep and he said "if you go to sleep we'll break up"

I find this really upsetting but he doesn't actually mean it as he never actually breaks up with me.

This is all just making me feel awkward. As he says I come across I don't like them a lot, I feel this is a flaw in my personality as I genuinely don't do it on purpose and I like his family a lot.

I just still feel a but sad about our tiff last night as I don't get why he snapped at me. He is okay with me now but I don't get why he snapped.
Yes I was tired and quiet but I can't be chatty and hyper all the time.

All of the above.

Plus an alternative explanation - it could be he’s actually had enough of you and wants to split up but doesn’t want to have the convo with you, even though he doesn’t fancy you any more so he’s hoping that you do something that he can blame the split on as he will be ‘forced’ to leave you because of your unreasonable behaviour. Which is NOT unreasonable. HES the unreasonable one.

Sod that. You deserve better than him.
He does not value you.
Does not believe you or accept your explanation for things.
Only cares about his own opinions. As they are more important.
Yours are second best and trumped by his.

Don’t have sex with him. The last thing you need is an accidental pregnancy!

Leave him and enjoy the peace and quiet without his pish.

I had a boyfriend like this. He used to finish it all the time and I had to talk him.back round. It got to the point that I told myself, and him, that if it happened again it would be the last time as I couldn't stand it any more. When it did happen again I ended it. I was in a right mess for about a month and it was hard, but there was no way I was going to keep going through that. After it ended I met dh!

This is too hard work. Relationships aren’t supposed to be this hard.

You’re only mid 20s, don’t chuck your life away over this bloke, he’s really not worth it.

@ChocolateOO

Dump him. He's trying to control you.

This, with bells on. If you go to sleep I'll break up with you -when you are tired...............F* right Off.

He sounds incredibly immature and like he really enjoys drama to the point of inventing it out of nowhere. Cut your losses and dump him for real.

I know it's hard to hear OP but everybody is telling you the same thing for a reason - he is trying to control you and it will only get worse.

Wow, what a drama llama! Far too much work for you. My eldest daughter is around the same age as you, and I would honestly be heartbroken if I thought she was being treated like this.

He's a twat. Imagine you stay together and have dc. You'll be very tired. He'll constantly have w go at you. It's just not ok and not worth putting up with is it?

"if you go to sleep we'll break up"

"Fine. Probably better if you sleep on the sofa and we'll sort the admin of you leaving in the morning. Goodnight"

OP you don’t need the internet to confirm you boyfriend is a shit. You know that.

What you need to think about is this is who he is - so you want to live like this anymore?

If you think being single is the worse thing you could do, it’s not!
Being ground down and controlled by what what your boyfriend is doing to do is worse. You don’t want to be in a situation with children, no help with childcare or around the house, no friends etc just because he threatens to dump you all of the time.

Dump him now and enjoy your life instead.

I have an ex that used to do this, one day he snapped to leave him then one morning, I hopped out of bed and packed my stuff and left, he got a fright and chased after me and never did it again. Honestly think I should have kept on walking at that time as it didn't get better in other aspects. It is control and manipulation which will seep into other areas of your life. It has only been a year so no great loss if you do decided to drop him.

Nasty piece of work.

If you do not wake up.OP you are going to find yourself enmeshed in a deeply unhealthy relationship.

Why would you want to spend time with this twat.

End it.
Move on.

He's an immature moron.

You deserve better.

Next time he tries it just say ‘ok then, off you pop’. Leave, and mean it.

You know being single is not worse than having a shit boyfriend.

Sabotage.

He's incredibly insecure. Get rid or you'll spend your life trying to "fix" him.

Agreed. I had an ex who used to do this. It's control and manipulation. Get rid. It's only been a year. Don't waste more time with him.

Don’t you love yourself more? He sounds 15. Dump him.

He's push pull insecure anxious and not nice.

He seems to be monitoring every word you say, every breath you take and judging you whether he likes it or not and letting you know in no uncertain terms that he does not. You will always be walking on egg shells. What will happen if there is a real crisis I wonder? Will he support you?

If he threatens it then just sigh and say ‘ok you know where the door is!’

OP hes a controlling twat

dump him and move on with your life, its too short.

He sounds like he has a mental age of 14, and is emotionally abusive to boot.

Get rid, OP.