Curiosity of that you think? next door neighbor's argument

[Mummytoonlychild]

My nightmare neighbors are arguing again. I'm in the front bedroom and can hear it from the garden.
Im sick of it tbo but she's currently going off on one again because he's been watching porn.
It's been going on for 40 mins about this and that some of the stuff is really funny she's screaming at the top of her lungs absolute silly things sorry off at a tangent slightly. But she's screaming mostly about him watching porn. And I'm wondering how many people find porn as cheating. I truly don't. I watch it and enjoy it lol and I've had partners that have alone and we have seen it together. For me it's no different that a dirty magazine you see in movies. So what I'm asking is it it that bad for others or am I just odd.
Yabu for cheating
Yanbu for not cheating

It can be bad for others especially if they have had last sexual.trauma of even if their partner is a sex addict and masturbates all the time and then can't perform for their spouse. Different strokes for different folks

Porn is not cheating. Jeez. Your neighbour has issues!

It's not cheating but I don't like it either. I'd be upset because of the likelihood that the "stars" are being exploited.

@RollercoasterRaver
Oh I know they have issues they are really bad for each other they regularly argue and attack each other at all hours of the night and threaten to kick my head in in the morning. Im at my wit's end the first few times I called the police. Trying to help but they keep going back to each other and they do nothing and the letting agents won't do anything as it's money coming in for them

Watching porn is contributing to the rape and trafficking of women and girls.

Lol

Yabu because although I don't see it as cheating, I can see why she'd be annoyed.

She's still arguing it's not about just porn he cheated on her with his WIFE when there first child was a 2 weeks old in her bed sofa and on the pram so the porn has exasperated it. Theyve been hitting each other on the garden. I feel so bad for the kids I'll be contacting social services again in the morning hopefully they will do something this time

They are hitting each other?

I don't think so just throwing things as she screamed stop strangling me help and I could see through the back bedroom window he was no way near her

Would it not be a good idea to call the police if your neighbours are acting like this?

In regard to your OP, I don’t think porn is cheating but I have a lot of problems with it. But even if it was something that I liked, if I knew that my partner felt like they were being cheated on when I watched it then of course I would stop. Why would you do something that you know your partner finds really hurtful when it’s something that’s so easy to do without?

I have done on multiple occasions they do nothing at all. One of them leaves till the police go and then they come right back and then it's worse for us as they threaten and abuse us in the street. I'll go the letting agent again and social again but I bet nothing will come of it. When ever I complain I am frightened to leave my home because of the aggravation I get and im petrified they will attack me.

Lol I would be dying laughing at this argument.

Anyway I don't care about porn

It's horrible but funny at times too she keeps screaming PORN randomly. If I knew she wouldn't kick my head in I would should it back

Yes, and I'm Kim Kardashian.

Porn is grim. It is an industry that normalises non-consensual sex (rape), trafficking, coercion and exploitation. Porn creates and contributes to skewed sexual expectations and conditioning in the men and boys who watch it, leaving women and girls vulnerable to expectation of emulation, both of physical 'ideals' and 'services rendered'.

I'm curious that you've framed your post as a detached discussion about pornography, when it sounds like your neighbours are knocking seven bells out of each other.

@Flowers009

Lol I would be dying laughing at this argument.

Anyway I don't care about porn

Me too. They can be very entertaining!

I don't think it's cheating, but I think it's very unreasonable for you not to lean out of your window and share your opinion, since they're making you part of their argument anyway by arguing so loudly.

This is BS.

Yeah whatever 🙄

I agree. This is a bullshit thread.

@Mummytoonlychild

She's still arguing it's not about just porn he cheated on her with his WIFE when there first child was a 2 weeks old in her bed sofa and on the pram so the porn has exasperated it. Theyve been hitting each other on the garden. I feel so bad for the kids I'll be contacting social services again in the morning hopefully they will do something this time

Yes, contact children services. They have responsibility here regarding children witnessing domestic abuse

I'd be tempted to video them so they can't deny it

So are the children already under SS? A Police callout three times should generate another referral to SS. Although we used to be amazed at what the Police didn't report to us (against their guidelines and breaking procedure), we used to find out from the Neighbours. Not enough action was taken against the Police for that.

What your loling at is the emotional and sexual abuse of children. Sexualised behaviour, making them aware of things like porn, is now considered sexually abusive. Those children probably regularly hear things, that they shouldn't know about.

Next time, instead of turning child abuse into entertainment, call the Police.

They kick off when you call the police (how do they know it’s you?) but not when you call SS / Landlords?

I watch porn too OP and do not see the problem with it - it certainly isn't cheating!