AIBU about dog poo on pram?

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DM took DS out for the second time by herself today (first time was yesterday - he's 10 months but due to lockdown she hasn't done this before). She came back and there was dog poo on the pram wheel. DP has gone mental. He is saying we need to buy a new pram wheel. I suspect he won't let DM take DS out again tomorrow. He is furious. He says it's incredibly dangerous for babies. We need to chuck the blanket out because it was in the under carriage bit of the pram near the wheel. I think whereas it's annoying at the end of the day you just clean a pram wheel with some water and it's fine? Would have run it through a puddle but it's hot today.

So the question is
YABU - DP is right and poo on the pram wheel is awful, awful, awful. Bring on the new wheel / new blanket/ DM barred from taking DS out.

YANBU - dog poo on a pram wheel is regrettable but ultimately fine.

P.S. he wants to buy the new pram wheel on eBay. Like that one won't have ever had any dog poo on it.....

He sounds 😂😂😂😂😂

Your DP is being an eejit. This is not going to be the first time the pram goes through something horrible. He needs to get a grip of himself. I hope he's not said all this nonsense to your mum.

Yeah run it through a puddle. Walk it on grass...it will be fine.

It’s poo that will wash off not biological warfare

He’s over reacting badly

Oh for god’s sake can we not jump to a man being abusive because he’s had a freak out? OP is this his first baby? I think very calmly say look it’s all been dettolled to hell and back and all is fine, these things regrettably happen but baby is fine and pram is fine. And thank god it’s not all over the carpets!

His reaction is completely OTT. Give it a clean down and it'll be fine.

Hes batshit.

I have pretty severe ocd and germaphobia and even I wouldn’t go so far as to throw away wheel and blanket. I’ve rolled in dog poo a fair few times and just jet wash or scrub it off with soapy water before bringing pram inside. I assume your dp has anxiety

Is it his/your first baby?

I was a bit like this with baby #1 - I was terrified of letting any part of his body touch anything outside, especially on a changing table in a public toilet, and I would wash everything as soon as we got home. By the time we reached the toddler years I realized that was unsustainable. Now with Baby #2 I’m still careful but I have relaxed A LOT.

Do you think your partner could be experiencing some kind of mental health issues following the birth of the baby? I know a few dads who have reacted very badly to the sudden change, including several who had full-on nervous breakdowns.

Do you think he's doing this to upset your mum... Does he not like her?

He’s bonkers . Just wash the wheel and blanket .

Poundland
4 shower caps.
Cover the wheels as you take it into the house.
Or for in the car is great also!!

Wash wheel.
Spray bleach
Wash blanket.
Done

Did baby eat the poo? If yes keep an eye.

If no. Calm down

The world is full of shit on pavements. No one
s fault.
Get dp to make an appt with gp for CBT referral

In is inconceivable to me that this would be a reason to buy a new wheel your DH is being completely irrational. It is an inconvenience and a stinky job to rectify but just one of those things. My DH is a bit hysterical about dog poo but even he wouldn’t go this far.

Also not your mums fault. My question is - is this because he has anxiety or is he trying to drive your mum away. There must be a back story.

Thanks to everyone's replies. just felt like I needed a reality check on this one. Thanks also for the bleach and sunlight suggestions, blanket currently on hot wash.

He's defiantly not abusive - just anxious and very worried about germs. Yes, this is our first baby ( to the shin sonar, look forward to that!) And DP is very protective of him. Someone asked, he claims to have never let the pram go through poo!

Christ what an idiot. Don’t tell him there’s fecal matter on most things he touches on a daily basis, he’ll have a breakdown.

Way OTT. Rinse wheel, leave to dry in the sun, job done.

It’s a horrible job, but wash the wheel! You can’t buy and new wheel every time it happens, and unfortunately it does happen more than once!
Your poor Mum, I hope she doesn’t know the drama he’s making. It must have been really exciting for her to finally get to take the baby out x

Wow. Your partner sounds like a twat. Tell him to grow up and stop being hysterical.

What about all the rats' pee it's trailed through?

Does your boyfriend not like your mum? Has she done something in the past he doesn't like?

Does he suffer from health anxiety? That’s a massive overreaction and not at all a reasonable or fair response.

I would be encouraging therapy to help him work through the anxiety.

Oh my days if I got a new Pram or wheel every time I rolled in dog poop my husband would have gone mad. Tell him to get hot soapy water and a toothbrush and wash the wheel. I have only just managed to get a new pram as this is my last baby and my other was 7 years old as my husband said it was fine but I went and got it any way..

OPs OH doesn’t sound like an abusive, idiotic crazy twat.

He’s had his first baby during a pandemic, so every health professional they’ve seen has probably mentioned keeping hands etc clean and germs so I get why he may have reacted in this way.

OTT, I remember making a dog poo kit for the boot of my car with Dettol etc and plastic bags in it after running through poo on all wheels during a buggy fit class one week
It got plenty of use!

I'm pretty easily grossed out but even I would chuck on rubber gloves, scrub it off and hose it down.

Maybe he's just super worried about germs currently