Would you be ok with your husband going to the cinema with a female friend?

[JizzPigeon22]

I have a friend who I’ve known since I was 3 years old. Last year he got a job in a pub directly across the road from my house so I see him quite often as he will occasionally stop by after a shift for a coffee or to see my kids, who they refer to as their uncle, they’re all very close. Over the years we’ve been to festivals together, holidays, camping trips etc. He was the best man at my wedding. Last year my husband passed away and my friend was great in helping sort things out, and just to have someone to chat to. We both like marvel films, which his wife hates, so when the new avengers film came out last year he bought tickets for the first showing as it was at 12 noon so we had time to watch it before getting the kids from school. His wife was at work and he was doing the school run.
She went absolutely apoplectic with rage when she found it. Said that going to the cinema was something couples do, I was desperate to get a man because my husband had died and now I was lonely etc. My friend was so disgusted with her that it almost ended their marriage.
I hadn’t really thought about it till today when it came up in conversation with 2 other friends who had very different views. One was of the opinion that it was fine, the other of the opinion that it’s never ok for men and women who are married to socialise like that as it’s disrespectful.

Aibu to think the cinema with a friend is fine? She’s fine with him coming to my house but not the cinema? I just found it such a bizzare reaction and the nasty things she said about me following my husbands death were pretty unforgivable.

Anyone else seeing a correlation between Not being happy about the cinema trip and Not reading the OP's posts?🤔 Not even her original post.

I'd be majorly pissed off for not being invited too. I wouldn't go because I hate marvel films too but it's the deliberately excluding the partner that makes it suspicious. If you and he have nothing to hide you could have invited her and let her make the decision if she wants to come or not.

READ THE THREAD. Everything you have said is so irrelevant.

People saying they’d be fine with it and he only ‘went out with a friend’. What if the next week it was a candlelit meal for two, again with the wife uninvited, would you be ok with that aswell?

You think two people going to a midday film together is equivalent to two people going for a candlelit meal together?! I really need to know what other people have got up to at the cinema...

Yes, you draw a line. I'd draw a line at a candlelit meal for two. I wouldn't draw a line at a cinema trip. They are totally different scenarios.

@DioneTheDiabolist

Anyone else seeing a correlation between Not being happy about the cinema trip and Not reading the OP's posts?🤔 Not even her original post.

Yup. For a website supposedly full of MC and high earners, there is pretty poor reading comprehension here...

@Bluemooninmyeyes1

People saying they’d be fine with it and he only ‘went out with a friend’. What if the next week it was a candlelit meal for two, again with the wife uninvited, would you be ok with that aswell? After all, it’s still just ‘going out with a friend’, and then the next week something else, just the two of them.

Surely you have to draw the line somewhere, or is this what people do now?!

Well a candlelit dinner is designed to be romantic, the cinema isn't. But a meal for two is fine. This wasn't time away from his wife or kids, he presumably couple have gone alone if op was busy and no one would cared. There's no suggestion this moneywas taking food off the table so yeah, my DH can spend his free time aka time I'm at work and kids are at home how he chooses.

@nasiisthebest

I'd be majorly pissed off for not being invited too. I wouldn't go because I hate marvel films too but it's the deliberately excluding the partner that makes it suspicious. If you and he have nothing to hide you could have invited her and let her make the decision if she wants to come or not.

She was at work. Surely waiting for her to be available then inviting her to something she won't go to and then going without her is worse than going when she's already busy herself 🤣

Surely you have to draw the line somewhere, or is this what people do now?!

When you say 'what people do now', Bluemoon what on earth do you mean? I've been to see my favourite bands playing their slow romantic songs with my male friend. My OH has been to a cinema many times with his female friends. Both of these are date activities - IF you're interested in the person you're there with romantically. It's not the activity that makes it romantic!

I can't believe there are people who would refuse to do something with a good friend in case it accidentally led to them fucking wildly in a Zizzi's. Cos high street food chains are a well-known date location and you might not be able to control yourselves...

I really need to know what other people have got up to at the cinema... Me too.

Clearly all the people objecting are getting up to too much naughtiest once the lights go down to watch the movie

People saying they’d be fine with it and he only ‘went out with a friend’. What if the next week it was a candlelit meal for two, again with the wife uninvited, would you be ok with that as well?

I've certainly gone out for dinner with male friends. Their wives were not 'uninvited', apart from in the sense that if I were going out for dinner with a female friend, I wouldn't 'invite' their husband as well.

@nasiisthebest

I'd be majorly pissed off for not being invited too. I wouldn't go because I hate marvel films too but it's the deliberately excluding the partner that makes it suspicious. If you and he have nothing to hide you could have invited her and let her make the decision if she wants to come or not.

When you see your friends, do you invite your partner every time?

Only if they're men? Only if they're men or lesbians? If so, why are you so convinced everyone wants to shag you?

I can't believe there are people who would refuse to do something with a good friend in case it accidentally led to them fucking wildly in a Zizzi's.

@RedNun

People saying they’d be fine with it and he only ‘went out with a friend’. What if the next week it was a candlelit meal for two, again with the wife uninvited, would you be ok with that as well?

I've certainly gone out for dinner with male friends. Their wives were not 'uninvited', apart from in the sense that if I were going out for dinner with a female friend, I wouldn't 'invite' their husband as well.

But what if you couldn't control it and found yourself finding Samantha under the table?? I mean have you no SHAME 😂

Fondling.

Finding her there is probably because you're there with her husband and she doesn't trust you. Whole different story

You're right, @SleepingStandingUp, I would be unable to control myself. I would be playing footsie with Samantha and making eyes at her over my Margherita.

Gosh. Some people here are making me gag with the though of me sitting on cinemas chair you all did your dirty deeds on. Since that's what cinemas are for apparently 😂
I wonder if ours changed to leather so they could clean it easily😂

I'd be fine. He sounds like a good friend.

Christ RedNun you're uncontrollable - poor Samantha only wanted to eat out to help out! (Maybe that's the problem...)

The only naughty thing me and my friend have done in the cinema is sneak a kfc in a few years ago after an afternoon of day drinking

OP, in this situation, I feel the wife is wrong. She was very out of line to call you desperate and accuse you of being after her man.

You have a longterm friendship with this man that pre-dates the marriage. He is a close friend who is supporting you with your loss and with whom you share hobbies with.

It's a shame. I hope things can get resolved.

I fucking hate the way single women in a world of married women are regarded as 'threats'. But to regard a widowed woman like that is disgusting.
And to actually phone you up, when you are grieving and say that. What a self-obsessed foul women she is! Not surprised it almost ended her marriage. Not sure I would have stayed with her.

@JizzPigeon22

The only naughty thing me and my friend have done in the cinema is sneak a kfc in a few years ago after an afternoon of day drinking

Kinky Friends Cunnilingus you dirty moo

@SleepingStandingUp finger licking good

I'm assuming op you were pregnant with your youngest too? So probably not even that flexible for a cinema shag

I dont think you did anything wrong OP. She clearly had an enormous chip on her shoulder about you. Even if that's the case , taking a lifelong friends mind off their spouses death for a few hours by seeing a film with them is not the time to throw a hissy fit.

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