To lie on CV to get a job

[arrivedbysaucer]

I haven't worked since 1999 due to mostly being unsuccessful at interviews and if I have been offered jobs I usually get fired as soon as the employers realise I have no organisation skills, time awareness, no ability to focus or complete tasks or attention to detail or in fact attention for anything.
I take medication for inattentive ADHD but the problem is I also have social anxiety because of this, which I have had cbt for but found most of this to be about self acceptance which I feel I have accepted myself and how I'm not the same as everyone else but it's not acceptable by everyone else to be the way I am so not very helpful, I'm also very socially awkward.

If I was to write the above on a CV it's almost certain I would not be invited in for an interview so would I be unreasonable to lie on my CV and say I can do all of those things when really I can't just to get the job and if asked for examples in an interview to just invent things?

Social anxiety is a fear of being judged which is exactly what an interview is, someone judging you so it's difficult but If I don't lie about who I am and waste employers time and resources I will get sanctioned by the job centre.

My youngest is turning 3 soon and I will then be expected to look for work as dh is on minimum wage.
My eldest is 20 now so I've been a SAHM for most of my life so have no experience or qualifications as my school grades were F's and
G 's and I failed at college.
I have two sons 2 and 20 the eldest lives with his fiancée so I just have the little one at home now.

Do I have much choice but to lie if I ever want to get an interview?

Look into Personal Independence payment. To me it sounds like you might possibly be eligible.

I assume you have a formal diagnosis?

Also look into schemes for helping people with disabilities get into work.

This might help: link

@arrivedbysaucer I will have to look for paid work from October to meet my commitment agreement but agree it sounds like the only realistic approach and I'd be putting something back into the community.
Is your husband only working part time then? Because as I said if he earns £604 a month which is less than full time nmw you will not have to look for work.

Do you actually want to work? If you don't then don't bother pretending to find a job, you'll just waste everyone's time and it'll make you unhappy. What do you actually like doing, what are your hobbies? What have you enjoyed/achieved in the last 20 years? Baking? Baby groups? Countdown? Skydiving? Shopping? Gardening? There must be something somewhere that you enjoy. Find a way to make that part of your life bigger and then work out how to get paid for it.

This is so sad to read, I know someone with ADHD and people don't take it seriously at all and expect sufferers to just go to the dr and get cured or find ways to manage and perform like everyone else even though that's not natural to them.
There was a thread on here not so long back debating weather it even existed. It does and this is what life is like for people. Yet still people say it's just a label for lazy people but how can op function normally without the basic skills we take for granted, finding employment will inevitably be a struggle for someone without the necessary skills essential to employers.

Yes you need to find something you can do and an employer who is flexible and can accommodate your needs but let's face it employment is never about the employees needs and if you can't do the job efficiently there's plenty in the queue who can, it's not going to be easy op but try not to give up hope.
My friend is also in and out of work and gets very few interviews and fewer job offers, none of which last long.
Have you considered working for yourself?
Dog walking could be an idea.
Otherwise how about child care? Minimal college work and children don't judge you so might help with social anxiety?

Sorry OP being an ambulance driver when you say you have no navigational skills and drive erratically is not exactly being realistic????

You need to start being realistic and stop hiding behind what you can't do and putting out excuses/barriers to doing a lot of these jobs. I can't see you being eligible for PIP you've managed to raise 2 children and run a house etc - you CAN work you just apply for the wrong ones and you aren't working with what abilities you DO have

Just saying oh I'll just have PIP to fall back on then I never have to find a job isn't the right attitude to have

Even if you don’t need to work in the near future it would be a really good idea to take some steps to build your confidence and your skill set. I’m sure that with the right support you’re capable of way more than you think right now.

@AldiAisleofCrap he works full time but min wage at least 40 hours a week but we get universal top up until our dc is 3 then I will be expected to look for work to get that top up. So the job centre says.

Have you contacted www.pluss.org.uk/locations/plymouth-employment-services before?

Here's some other orgs too (I'm not sure to what extent they are still operating) - they may well be able to help even if ADHD/social anxiety perhaps is not considered a disability:

www.improvinglivesplymouth.org.uk/our-services/information-advice
www.remploy.co.uk
www.livingoptions.org/support-help/journey-employment

@ivfdreaming I was saying I think of myself almost on pip at the moment as I'm not working and just wasting employers time and resources when I'm not what they need and I know that but have to apply or accept any job offered, not that I want to go on it or that I'd have that to fall back on.

I feel awkward going to interviews with none of the skills they are looking for with social anxiety just to wait for them to realise I'm useless to them which I already knew but have to apply to meet job centre requirements.

@Ihaventgottimeforthis thank you I will look now.

Most small companies don't check references.

Cleaner or carer job?

And don’t lie, it’s called fraud.

You don't get pip just because you're not working and feel you are wasting employers time and resources. People on PIP do work and make a valuable contribution. It's not for losers. You need to build up your confidence. Lots of inefficient people with poor time keeping work. Not saying you're inefficient. Everyone has both skills difficulties. But you need to get out of this I'm useless I'll never get a job mode.

OP, do you manage to run the household ok? If your husband works FT I’m assuming you must do a lot at home. So think about that - what skills does it require, how do you manage, what coping strategies do you use to get stuff done despite your disability.

Those are all applicable in the jobs market too. And listing them will give you an idea of what you’re good at - then look for roles that use the same skills.

Retail and cleaning. Not easy at the mo but it sounds like that would be the best start.

Could you become a childminder? Do you like working with children?

Warehouse work? Doesn’t really involve interaction with customers and quite simple tasks.

Become an Uber driver? Deliveroo?

If you drive erratically as you mention in your previous post, should you really be driving at all? Have you declared your problems to the DVLA?

I know it sounds harsh but if you lack ALL of the skills in your op then I wouldn't want to employ you nor work alongside you presumably carrying you and managing your workload too.
Would your dh not be able to retrain in something so he is not on minimum wage and support you if he's happy to do this now with government support I don't see why he wouldn't.
You do have a job your a SAHM
Can you manage without UC on his wages if it's the only obstacle? Albeit a sacrifice UC presumably stops when your dc grows up anyway.

Some sensible suggestions have been made, most rejected. Quite frankly, you seem averse to getting any sort of job.

I am not convinced that the Benefit system was designed to support people with such a low interest in finding employment.

Have you been diagnosed with ADHD. Can you claim incapacity benefit if you're not fit for work.
Do you want to get a job or is it the pressure from the job centre.
There is something for everyone if you have managed to bring up DC you must have skills to offer.

I am currently going through assessment for adhd myself. I was honest at my job interview because I felt I needed to be. It didn't do me any harm and I was offered the job, but this was for an LSA post with sen students. I have worked long and hard at accommodating my quirks and finding things which work for me. I did hold a desk job for 10 years, pre having children, but frankly I found it draining having to be 'normal'.

The key will be finding something you enjoy doing. Having 2 sen dc as well, it has made me realise this is where my strengths lie. If I also know if push comes to shove, my very first job was in a vegetable packing factory and I could do that job in my sleep even now.

Hi OP please don't lie on your CV. You can't just make up 20 years of lies. I would have thought it us illegal anyway. You would likely be found out during the interview when they question you about your experience. They would also ask you for references which you wouldn't be able to provide. If you actually somehow managed to get a job, your lack of skills and experience would soon be realised.

I know others have suggested volunteering for a charity but to be honest charities like any other organisation want capable workers and not people who are not going to be of use.

Sorry OP, that might sound harsh but I can see how ADHD would affect your ability to process and carry out tasks at work. It may be worth discussing all this with your GP.

Your writing ability on here is very good and you have communicated your situation very well, so you do have abilities, including organising your household and children.

I wonder if you would be able to claim Employment and Support Allowance which is a DWP benefit while you get support and help into the workplace. They can help with courses too.

@minisoksmakehardwork did you need any qualifications to be a LSA?
I have brought up my son who has high functioning ASD so that may come naturally to me although I read lots of books and learnt so much about it.
I find all mental health material so interesting, maybe because I can relate to so much of it and it was through his diagnosis that I was assessed myself.