To ask what is the most ridiculous reason someone has fallen out with you?

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Need a bit of solidarity right now!

My MIL fell out with me because I forgot her birthday (my dad died a few days before).
She got over it but then brought it up again on the day we scattered his ashes!

SIL stopped speaking to me and DH when she found out we were expecting number 4. Apparently she ‘couldn’t believe we were having another one’! 13 years on has not been to see her DN - lives 1.5 miles away. Her loss.

Because her neighbours didn’t clear snow from her drive...

Not a close friend, but friendlyish neighbours for about 15 years, I mean we’ve had coffees together, have mutual friends so have been at the same things together, spoke when we saw each other and our children were friends when the were younger.

It snowed, people in the street cleared outside their own houses, but not hers, she went on a massive rant on Facebook about it because hers wasn’t done and she works for the NHS - she’s an able bodied adult, has 2 able bodied adult children living with her, they were all home...Then she blocked everyone on Facebook...

Including me, even though I don’t live there anymore.

I’m not sure if I was supposed to dig my car out, clear the road outside my house and drive a few miles to clear her drive while she was inside her house or... lol

Because I gave her medical advice ( I am a nurse )about a mutual medical problem that we have on her birthday. It is innovative treatment that could help us both .Apparently I ruined her day and she has never ever spoken to me again.

Another friend because apparently "she now moved in different circles after her marriage" Told me so and never contacted me again.

I had a friend who was quite tall. I had known her since school and had been to her wedding. I am 5ft8 and she was taller than me but I never thought anything of it. One day in our 30s she confided in me that she was really hung up about her height and that she had people shout things at her in the street. I had no idea and was a bit perplexed because although she was taller than average I didn't think she stood out so to speak. Fastforward a few months and I introduced her to some friends, one of whom is shorter than average. Short friend spent whole evening asking tall friend about her height and what it was like being tall. I was cringing on the inside but aside from changing the subject had no idea how to address it without making an even bigger deal of it. Every time I changed the subject short friend brought it up again. I never heard from my taller friend after that day. If felt a bit unfair as it is not like I had any control over my other friend and to be fair to her she was just being curious (albeit slightly insensitive).

@GlamGiraffe

Because I dont like Vienetta😯 The other person was so outraged and upset she left in tears. We could never truly bond.

Well now she had a point, although a bit dramatic. How can you not like vienetta?!

I asked them to pay back the money they borrowed from my mum (princely sum of £15) because my mum kept asking me for it.

The girl didn't speak to me for years, told all her friends not to speak to me and it actually caused a major rift in the high school group.

Then, years after we became friends again, she fell out with me because I said her uni dissertation was really good.

Not giving her enough attention on a holiday for my 30th birthday. I had invited her sister along at her request and treated everyone to a limo and other stuff, but that wasn't good enough apparently

The worst reason is no reason at all. I've been ghosted by two close friends on separate occasions, simply went NC one day, no argument, nothing, over a decade ago. I was going through a tough time as well each time. This really affected me, I don't let people in anymore :(

I fell out with a really good friend over fishfingers! (We were both adults in our 20s) We had a disagreement over whether people would buy them if they had natural coloured breadcrumb coating on them rather than the lurid orange. It was just a disagreement, no shouting. But she cut me off completely after that.

Sounds funny but I was really confused and hurt. She’s done it to other friends too - cutting them off for trivial reasons. I still think about it years later actually.

A friend stopped talking to me because we were all at a dance music event in a marquee next to a pub. She arrived early with a small group and I got there an hour or so later with my then partner.
As it wasn't that busy yet, we went over and said to her we would be going to pub and coming back later.

When we got back the event had filled up a lot and when I went over to her, she turned her back so I just walked away

She texted me in the middle of night saying I was a terrible friend and didn't care about her only my partner and she wouldn't be contacting me again - this was despite the fact she was there with a group of people, she'd come on a few nights out with my and my partner (which he invariably paid for her ticket and drinks)

She then bad mouthed me saying I had abandoned her - funny but I now know a couple of other women who had similar experiences with her

She's one of those people who is never wrong and its always someone else's fault

Went on holiday abroad with 2 x friends, for a 3rd friend’s wedding. We were the bridesmaids but one of the girls was really short on cash so we stayed in a cheap Airbnb and hired a car to get about to save money.

One the day of the wedding she asked me to zip her dress up- I did so and turned around and said “oh can you do mine too please?” She ran off the bathroom in tears and the other 2 laid into me about how I was rubbing it in her face that my dress was 2 sizes smaller than hers.

Same friends would not let me drive the car as I was deemed “too slow and grannyish”- opposite side or the road and different traffic rules. One of them accidentally went up the wrong side of the road, crashed over a curb to get on the right side and damaged the hire car.

We had insurance to cover it but had to pay the excess before it would get refunded later and she was panicking as she didn’t have the money. I was still trying to be a good friend at this point and offered to put in on my credit card so we could sort it later (plane to catch). Again other friend laid into me, apparently I was “flashing the cash” and “rubbing it in her face that I was rich and skinny”. I was actually pretty skint myself but thought that by putting it on a credit card we could get out of there, catch the flight and sort it later.

Realised then and there that I was the scapegoat for a super unhealthy co-dependent relationship and never spoke to them again once I got off the plane. They sent me loads of messages saying how unreasonable I was to end the friendship over nothing 🤔

I shared a flat with a girl and we were sort of friendly. She always had loads of boyfriends, she was really attractive. I didn't have lots of bfs.
Then I met someone in a bar, and we went on a date the following night.

She never spoke to me again and moved out!

I went through a bit of a rough patch and a sort of friend was always ringing and wanting to support me and see how I was.
Rough patch didn't last long and I got better and one day we arranged to meet so I could give her her birthday present.
She had a 20 mins drive. Mine was 1hr30mins and after an hour driving I stopped for petrol and had a text from her saying... she didn't want to meet at all and in fact it was easier if we weren't friends any more because she only liked me when I was depressed.

An acquaintance dumped me because my partner shared a Facebook post from the Labour Party. She ranted on his Facebook and blocked both of us.

More recently, a group of acquaintances stopped talking to me because one of them lied about me to the others. Absolutely no loss whatsoever. We're all in our late 40's, btw.

My friend's DD picked up my DS's toy. She told her to put it down. I said it was fine, she could play with it. She replied "We do have toys at home" then got up and left. That was the last conversation we had, and we'd got along fine until that point.

Group of 5 friends (inc me). 2 fell out, one accused the other of doing something (vague) but none of the others were witnesses so nobody knew who was lying. The other 2 picked sides but I did my utmost to stay out of it (because I'd been in this situation before, picked a side and then when they drunkenly made up I was left out in the cold).

Of course, when the dust settled, the pairs split off and I was left with no friends. Never did get to the bottom of who did what.

It took me years to even begin to bother attempting to make close friendships after that.

I'll never be sure this is why she fell out with me, but its the last thing that happened before she stopped talking to me. A good friend in the village said I could send her my CV and she'd print out a few copies as my printer at home was broken.

I emailed her the CV, got in the car and went round. She was sat on her stairs, reading my CV. She handed them over, all a bit shitty with me and ceased all contact after that.

We both had 3 year olds and new babies and had met at playgroup. I'd never really felt the need to tell her about my degree and quite high achieving career pre-kids and I knew she had very few qualifications but was a fun and lovely person. I can only think that she either felt suddenly intimidated by my CV or felt that somehow I'd deceived her by not talking about that part of my life.

I was really good friends with a girl at Uni but after results came out in our final year and I got a 2/1 and she got a 2/2 she never spoke to me again.

[quote EmergencyHydrangea]@KatherineofTarragon

You sound absolutely vile[/quote]
I think this might be the definition of vindictive.

@RonnieBob

A friend fell out with me because I said how much she looked like her Dad who’d recently died. Literally took huge offence and was outraged I’d said she looked like her Dad 🤷‍♀️

God I’d have no friends left if I took offence to this. I am my dad

Christmas 2019, sister accused me of being selfish for making a tiramisu for pudding that wasn't as big as she thought it would be. We stopped speaking until recently and she's still ice cold to me now.

Because I hadn’t replied to a message 20 minutes after I’d sent it - in the middle of the working day. We’d met through mutual friends and they’d later dropped her; she was messaging me expecting me to act as a go-between. When I didn’t reply instantly, she obviously decided I was no use to her and blocked me. I’d tried to stay neutral on the argument, but after that I realised my friends were right to ditch the bitch all along.

My closest friend hasn't spoken to me for 3 years as apparently she didn't like my choice of partner (now my husband). She didn't think he was right for me and sent me a long email telling me why she was right and I should follow her advice.
When I didn't follow instructions on how to live my life according to her rules she blocked me on all social media, returned a card I sent her for her birthday and has never spoken to me since.
My husband and I have been together 6 years and have 2 lovely children so I'm glad I didn't listen to her "advice".
Her mother was the same so I realise why she is like that sadly.

Someone I'd considered a good friend (kids in the same class, went out socially, been on holiday together, etc) fell out with me because my DS switched to a different football team to the one her DS played for. She called my DS (who was 9!) a traitor and never spoke to me properly again.

Because I helped his girlfriend leave him and his abuse behind.
Mind I'd fallen out with him long before this.