To ask what is the most ridiculous reason someone has fallen out with you?

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Need a bit of solidarity right now!

Thank you @PablosHoney. This friend was one of the only people who knew i worked in a care facility and not even where it was/company or anything. Anyway it deffo wasnt me this person has cut off everyone who knew her from her home town/college/everywhere. The kick is i helped her organise her wedding and got no thanks for it either. Weirdo.

She sounds like a psycho, surely a normal reaction to your friend posting an injury would be concern for them not a tirade of verbal abuse to add insult to injury

I used to do half a day's work for someone four times a year. We got on very well indeed. But when I told her I'd have to stop because I had a long term contract that clashed (having found her an excellent replacement who she happily worked with for years) she cried, refused to speak to me again and very haughtily cut me when our paths crossed at social events. Sorry but eight hours' work a year doesn't bind me to you forever. Weird.

Agree with @lampshadery are you telling me none of your friends and family know where you work and what you do and would connect the dots

Work and personal social media accounts should always be kept entirely separate especially when vulnerable people are concerned.

I do think that people transfer their own issues onto the person they fall out with, if that makes any sense. Some are just incredibly self obsessed and others are just plain ol' batshit!

When we were about 20 DSister and I had been on holiday together. The journey back involved a 6 hour train journey and then a shared cab to our respective homes. When we boarded the train I offered her my bag of Opal Fruits and said ‘don’t take any green ones -they’re my favourites!’ She stormed off to the other end of the train and refused to travel home with me. We eventually spoke again about 6 months later.

When I got married I asked her to be my only bridesmaid. On the way to a wedding fair she got annoyed that I was making it all about me and went home. She then sent me her design for her preferred bridesmaid dress It was a skin tight, strapless, slinky number in red satin. I said I didn’t want her wearing something so distinctive because she would look so stunning she might distract from me. I offered to have that dress made for the reception and also buy her a more traditional dress for the church. She refused to be my bridesmaid.

More recently she didn’t talk to me for three years because I didn’t send her daughter the expensive gift she had ‘suggested ‘ I buy her. I explained that it was way outside our price range and she said ‘ I didn’t realise you were poor now!’

@sageandroses no one on my social media knew where i worked then and most people apart from the people i work with, dp and my mother know where i work now. I have had several jobs and have never felt the need to ever tell people where i work. Some people are different but im just private about people knowing where i live or work so people cant find me. I also go by a fake online alias so no i dont think i did anything wrong simply posting a photograph of my own severely damaged arm.

A close (gay Male) friend of over 25 years fell out with me spectacularly because DH has a very, very good job (that he’s worked his bollocks off to achieve), we live in a “massive, posh house” (standard 3 bed semi in ok area) and we “are fucking loaded” (we’re not, we save, have had a couple of small inheritances and live within our means) and he was basically jealous for some reason.

He was perfectly capable of achieving all those things for himself but was too lazy and he blew up when I hinted at that.

Hasn’t spoken to me in 4 years now. His loss.

A friend from work was cheating on her bf and I assumed her best friends knew. I was with her best friends one night and they'd brought up how she wasn't there and I innocently said 'maybe she's with other guy'. I guess she'd been lying to me about cheating or her best friends didn't know, because I never heard from any of them again. I have aspergers and we were 16/17 and I had no idea what I'd done wrong.

In my 20s I had a mum friend for 3 years who suddenly never spoke to me again and I never knew why. About a year later I was told it was because I commented on a forum post nothing to do with this family, saying that parenting is very individual but I think parents should kindly protect other kids from their own kids violence regardless of how they want to deal with their child's behaviour. She had an extremely volatile aggressive child that terrified mine to selective mutism, I'd been nothing but forgiving and kind so didn't understand the sudden ghosting. I didn't even know she would see a forum post based in another country nothing to do with them and I was trying to support the bullied/victim like mine as I knew how hard it was. I learnt to put my family first.

My ds did well in his gcses
Hers didn't. He didn't pass some of them, sadly.
My ds worked his socks off, went to all the revision classes etc
Her ds did the bare minimum and they booked holidays during all the half term holidays up the exams when the school ran whole days of revision clasees...
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Because her fiancé (soon to be husband) came onto me earlier in the night of the night they ended up getting together - 2 years earlier. I had said no as he was an arrogant tw@t. Everyone in our group of friends (including her) knew he had been coming onto me. She clearly wasn’t bothered at the time. When he turned his attention to her she seemed happy. I never mentioned what had happened as she clearly liked him. Why she suddenly decided to push me away 2 years later I am not sure. I can only think his fragile male ego couldn’t cope with me being at the wedding. They are now divorced.

As a teen my friend, who would cold shoulder me off and on (some deserved, some not, but I was frequently in the doghouse as far as she was concerned) was FURIOUS one Monday when I went into to town shopping with someone else from sixth form and said I'd done nothing over the weekend. When she found out she accosted me and demanded to know why I thought she'd never find out.
I just wanted a pal that wasn't so much bloody drama all the bloody time! I think she just wanted an emotional punching bag and didn't want me having other friends. If I was such a terrible friend, surely she'd be relieved when I started hanging round with someone else?
I do not miss being a teenager.

I had this friend who was really competitive and always tried to one up me. She was never happy for me, it was like she was literally annoyed that anything in my life was going well (or “better” than her). She’d give me the silent treatment if I was invited to things/made new friends and not her, if I got a new job, if a post of mine was doing well on social media

Apparently I said that she wouldn't make any money from selling Avon.

I didn't actually say that but I got the blame for it.

Another girl fell out with my when we were at school because I didn't know her phone number off the top of my head.

Oh also the same girl who fell out with me, when i had just finished uni we were talking about something related to the subject i had studied. She asked about something she didnt understand so i explained to her the scenario and she suddenly told me having a degree didnt make me smart and that i wasnt that smart anyway... can only conclude she was jealous. I had not once mentioned uni or my degree to her. She was batshit looking back.

God these are amazing. People are so weird

I invited her to my wedding. We weren't particularly pally, it was a 'work' invitation and everyone else from that sphere came. No idea what her problem was. She didn't know my fiancé either. She repeatedly proved herself to be a twat over the next couple of years. Silently, to me

A friend in uni fell out with me because her bf and my bf went out to the shops and her bf didn't buy her a sausage roll. I'm still baffled 10 plus years later.

My close friend cut me off because I didn’t phone her the day her mum died. I didn't know she had died, she wasn't ill, she had died very suddenly.

I had a complete emotional breakdown which meant 2 weeks in a mh unit. I had (what I thought was) 3 very close long term friends. I was quite open on Facebook about my breakdown & the one friend who wasn't on social media I txt to let her know. The breakdown left me with huge anxiety & panic attacks. One "friend" took great offence that I couldn't meet her for coffee as she had anxiety & would be able to manage it. Her & her BFF started trolling me on fb & one night she sent me a string of abusive messages so I blocked her & the other friend as apparently she agreed with everything. When second friend found out I'd blocked her on fb she msgd me to ask me why & I told her. She said she hadn't said these things & came round to see me. When she realised how ill I was she got upset & apologised for not coming sooner but the damage was done.
Friend not on sm (who incidentally is a trained councillor) ignored my text. Few months later sent me an invite to her wedding which would have meant an hours travelling each way & being in a room with a load of strangers which I was in no way up to. When I tried explaining this to her she told me it was no wonder all my friends had deserted me if that's how I treated people. I wrote her a long letter explaining everything that had happened to contribute to my breakdown (which was extremely hard to do) & she sent it back unopened. To add insult to injury she didn't pay postage do I had to!

Some of these are truly baffling. I would love to hear the viewpoint of the other person in each case just to see how they justified their bonkers behaviour! A lot of them are obviously jealousy or feeling that their self image is threatened but it would be interesting to know how they justify it in their own minds.

She wanted my dog.

I agreed to a trial because he is such a nightmare around sheep that I felt sheep-free living arrangements were worth considering, but the trial wasn’t working and he was miserable, trashing their house, losing weight etc. 2 weeks into the 6 month trial I called it off and took him back.

The mental distress caused by not being able to have my dog caused her, allegedly, to wet herself. As I have no desire to induce incontinence, I refused to discuss the dog except in writing (so that she could process the information on the toilet if necessary). 9 months later she issued an ultimatum: set aside half a day to have ‘painful’ discussion about dog, or she can no longer be around me. I chose the second option. The whole thing is my fault.

It took a while to realise how much happier I am without her in my life. She’s great in so many ways, but it is impossible to say no to her.

Boundaries are wonderful things.

As I have no desire to induce incontinence, I refused to discuss the dog except in writing (so that she could process the information on the toilet if necessary)

Sorry @eeek88 but this did make me laugh!