Boyfriend sold my stuff

[DemiL]

I don’t live with my boyfriend but we spend a lot of time together and have stuff at each other’s houses.

He has been having an eBay clear out and informed me today that he had sold some of my stuff. I had given him a few things to sell for me but he has taken other things and sold them!

I’m upset about this but he doesn’t seem to understand my issue.

AIBU?

Yes, getting a trivial amount of money back as a demonstration of showing how he's stolen from her and getting rid of him would seem like a good outcome for the OP.

Do you have anything of his of value kept at your house?

Then if you hadn't given him permission -I'd report it as "theft" to the police but I get would get evidence first eg. a text to him saying I'm really upset you took : ...... and ............without permission and sold them on ebay (screenshot the ebay sold prices) why did you sell my items? Where is the money?

Wait -get proof and then dump and police.

Um ... really?

@DemiL

He’s got loads of money. He’s just paid off his mortgage. He’s extraordinarily tight with his cash.

He keeps promising to send me the money but there’s always an excuse. The last was I don’t have paypal. This has been going on for about two months.

We’ve been together for a few years now. He now reckons he was just doing me a favour as otherwise the stuff would have been donated to charity. I had considered donating the handbag, as I won it in a raffle. But it’s the principle of it more than anything else.

What a CF!

I just don’t think I could get past this to be honest and the fact he won’t even give you the money back. He clearly doesn’t think it’s yours.

Report him to EBay for selling stolen goods!

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Thanks to everyone else for your advice. I now have my money and an apology but I’m not sure if I can get past the casual disregard for my possessions and (at best) his casual approach to owing me money.

I would hide some of his bits (x-box maybe) and tell him you’ve sold them. This should make the penny drop. What an arsehole. It’s good he’s apologised, but who in the right mind would think this is acceptable in the first place?! Get rid.

He's a liar, a thief and he makes a fool of you. Come on OP.

If someone steals from you you ring the police and report the theft. It doesn't matter who the thief is or where your stuff was. It really is that simple

Sell the stuff he' has left at yours.

Or throw it away.

then chuck him

I would report him to Ebay for selling stolen goods.

He most probably just got carried away, with gathering things up to list and sell, like a man who doesn't think things out properly.!

Yes because when you get carried away you sell your partners things and keep the money. That totally happens.

Why would you want to "get past this" OP?

Don't fall for the sunk costs fallacy. Just because you've wasted several years on this thieving bellend, don't throw any more away.

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation

Why would you want to "get past this" OP?

Don't fall for the sunk costs fallacy. Just because you've wasted several years on this thieving bellend, don't throw any more away.

* "*thieving bellend," yep!

Don't you deserve more, OP?🌹

"He most probably just got carried away, with gathering things up to list and sell, like a man who doesn't think things out properly.!"

Why the man hatred @1forAll74? Don't you think men can be responsible adults?

i thought you had to have paypal to sell on ebay

She isn't selling things on Ebay! He is. Why should she have Paypal?

More ot the point, he can just give her cash or do a bank transfer.

sorry misread that-yes bank transfer is easier anyway

He most probably just got carried away, with gathering things up to list and sell, like a man who doesn't think things out properly.!

If you for carried away like this, would your response be 'what's the big deal?' And keep the money Or would you be mortified, apologise offer the money quickly/offer to replace the items? Nothing in his response indicates that this was not planned.

Well OP, if you stay with him, you can't be surprised at ANYTHING he does.

He sounds like the dregs of society and a thief to boot.

He has absolutely zero respect for you or anyone else.

You must have a really low relationship bar to be spending years with someone who has so little regard for you.

Do you really think he is a good long term bet? 🤔🙄

Well good luck.

Dump him. He saw he might be able to get some money for some of your things, so he sold them and it's clear he doesn't want to part with the money he got for the things, which is what motivated him in the first place. He seems a bit obsessed with money.

Get all your stuff back now before he can sell any more, then dump him.

@1forAll74

He most probably just got carried away, with gathering things up to list and sell, like a man who doesn't think things out properly.!

"A handbag and dresses...." surely he realised they aren't his