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DemiL · 2020-08-03T08:07:00+00:00

I don’t live with my boyfriend but we spend a lot of time together and have stuff at each other’s houses. He has been having an eBay clear out and informed me today that he had sold some of my stuff. I had given him a few things to sell for me but he has taken other things and sold them! I’m upset about this but he doesn’t seem to understand my issue. AIBU?

damnthatanxiety · 03/08/2020 09:38

OP any comment on WHY he doesn't give you the money? Sounds so weird

ginghamtablecloths · 03/08/2020 09:41

Get rid of the boyfriend. He doesn't value you or your things. Sell any of his stuff that's knocking about your place, keep the money and say goodbye.

BertieBassettsBits · 03/08/2020 09:42

I'm curious to know what excuse did he use to justify this?
Get your money back and get rid if him

Dullardmullard · 03/08/2020 09:49

Just dump him sod the money because you’ll never see it

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken · 03/08/2020 09:51

Big warning sign here. Imagine living with him and sharing finances. This relationship can’t go anywhere good. Get rid xx

hammie46i · 03/08/2020 09:52

OP, that's awful. I would be really upset if someone sold my stuff without asking. And then not giving you the cash, to add insult to injury?! I think I'd be seriously rethinking the relationship. Has he ever done anything like that before?

AtrociousCircumstance · 03/08/2020 09:52

You can’t trust this man. Plus his values are fucked.

Get your money and run.

KatherineJaneway · 03/08/2020 09:52

So he is a thief and won't give you the money for what he did sell. Why are you with him? This would be a deal breaker for me.

redcarbluecar · 03/08/2020 09:54

Why doesn’t he give you the money? What did you agree at the time you said he could sell some of your stuff?

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DemiL · 03/08/2020 09:55

He’s got loads of money. He’s just paid off his mortgage. He’s extraordinarily tight with his cash.

He keeps promising to send me the money but there’s always an excuse. The last was I don’t have paypal. This has been going on for about two months.

We’ve been together for a few years now. He now reckons he was just doing me a favour as otherwise the stuff would have been donated to charity. I had considered donating the handbag, as I won it in a raffle. But it’s the principle of it more than anything else.

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KittCat · 03/08/2020 09:56

Get the money and dump the thieving scumbag

NancyPickford · 03/08/2020 09:57

You might not have PayPal, but he can transfer the money into your bank account surely? Takes 5 minutes.

hammie46i · 03/08/2020 09:57

@DemiL

He’s got loads of money. He’s just paid off his mortgage. He’s extraordinarily tight with his cash.

He keeps promising to send me the money but there’s always an excuse. The last was I don’t have paypal. This has been going on for about two months.

We’ve been together for a few years now. He now reckons he was just doing me a favour as otherwise the stuff would have been donated to charity. I had considered donating the handbag, as I won it in a raffle. But it’s the principle of it more than anything else.

I'm sorry OP but I think the issue is he's an absolute tight arse who wants to keep your money.

Disfordarkchocolate · 03/08/2020 09:58

Surely you mean ex-boyfriend?

jay55 · 03/08/2020 09:59

Tell him if he does it again you'll report him to the police.

Also the money he got from eBay is not likely what it will cost to replace the items, you need the full value for replacing them. And if it isn't in your account in two days you'll take him to small claims court.

Hopeisnotastrategy · 03/08/2020 10:03

@jay55

Tell him if he does it again you'll report him to the police.

Also the money he got from eBay is not likely what it will cost to replace the items, you need the full value for replacing them. And if it isn't in your account in two days you'll take him to small claims court.

This - and follow through with it. Can you get screen shots of the items on sale as evidence?

Shoxfordian · 03/08/2020 10:03

I hope he's your ex
Tell him to give you the cash today

TatianaBis · 03/08/2020 10:04

Fuck Paypal, tell him it’s cash next time you see him or else.

MizMoonshine · 03/08/2020 10:05

@DemiL

He’d better give me the money today because yes it seems he’s attempting to make a profit from my stuff and con me out of cash.

Take it in cash.

1Morewineplease · 03/08/2020 10:06

There’s more to this , I feel sure.

pandarific · 03/08/2020 10:07

Bloody hell op, poor you. Gently, what on Earth are you doing with this person? You can't trust him, you shouldn't be with him - get the money, bin him off and go find a nice person to be with.

Try to think of this as him showing you who he is - how could you be happy with someone like him?

magicstar1 · 03/08/2020 10:07

He doesn’t owe you the eBay money for the dresses. He owes the the full cost of replacing them , as you never wanted to sell them in the first place.

hammie46i · 03/08/2020 10:08

@magicstar1

He doesn’t owe you the eBay money for the dresses. He owes the the full cost of replacing them , as you never wanted to sell them in the first place.

^^

This

jessycake · 03/08/2020 10:09

I would go and get my stuff , and demand he takes me to a cashpoint or transfer the money to my account , or pinch a couple of things he does't use very often and sell them , he will quickly understand the issue then .

Bluntness100 · 03/08/2020 10:10

This is one of two things depending on how it plays out.

He gives you the money and genuinely thought he was doing you a favour in selling them

He keeps the money and he has robbed you.

If it’s the former explain to him you didn’t wish the stuff sold and were not giving it to charity and tell him to ask you next time.

If it’s the latter end it, you can’t be with someone who steals from you.