To think sometimes parenting is a joke?

[Keeva2017]

Just having myself a little pity party but then started to think, no, this shit is ridiculous sometimes.

After a 4.30am wake up call from my Baby who was a good sleeper, but has now sacked it off completely, Iv now been awake 22 hours.

My poor 3 year old is also victim to her sisters knobbish behaviour this morning and has therefore been a ratty little thing herself all day. Got a toy dyson in the face from that one albeit accidentally but tell that to my shiner. Also led to me having to abandon plans to get out and about and come home because she was playing up and some people’s eyes were rolling so hard I thought they would fall out.

Tried to do the Aldi big shop the other day but some fucker had put normal trolleys in front of the baby ones and after trying to get help/sort it out I had to abandon it and head to Lidl. Where I had to queue with baby outside followed by a rain shower that was not fucking forecast, which I know because I checked and put my washing out before I left.

My baby is still kicking off despite all my usual moves so no doubt the neighbours will be less than cheery with me.

Getting lectures from the HV about my 3 year old being a fussy eater and needing a more varied diet.... no shit, why haven’t I been googling every trick in the book just to get one fucking pea down her neck. Oh wait, I have.

I know people have it worse. I know there is a global pandemic and I should be happy to be alive. I am. But Christ almighty these examples are just this week. Is this just me? Aibu to think most parents have to put up with this shit? Or am I just an incompetent tosser whose kids are going to need a lot of therapeutic intervention to recover from my shit parenting?

I welcome anyone else’s less than enjoyable parenting experiences btw. Please share and for once let’s appreciate a little race to the bottom.

It's shit - nothing useful to add sorry.

Dh and I were watching the end of a TV show and just about to go to bed last night, only to have our 3 year old run in shouting proudly about how she had slept through the night and can she watch some Octonauts cause she did such a good job.
It was 10.30pm.
She burst into loud howling sobs when told it was actually still the night time and let’s go back off to bed which woke her 6 year old sister who also cried (howling wails when your fast asleep might do that to you)

DH got the big kid, I got the small one both of us fell asleep with the kids and no one slept in our comfortable bed at all.

I’m sure my 6 year old’s teacher is enjoying that little grump this morning.

My 7 mo has decided to abandon his teething rings in favour of me. I have bite marks everywhere.

Parenting is shit.i wish I'd never bothered, no shit,no lie. Doesnt mean i dont love them,I'd literally die for the little fuckers,but damn I've never felt so tested and exhausted.

Not easy. Miserable stroppy teens who scream oh my god every time I ask them to do something unreasonable like put their washing in the basket. Stroppy teens who demand to know why I'm always shouting and deny its because I've already said the same thing 11 billion times.
Also got my 7 week old who likes to sleep on me and much prefers to stay awake all night and sleep all day 😞

@Haditall YES YES YES! I wouldn’t give them back or do anything but protect them with my life but lord I don’t go a day without thinking how fabulous my life would be if I’d remained happy, I mean childless!

I’m now on 23 hours awake so Iv put the little knobber in bed with me and her sister who joined the party a couple of hours ago.

Not only is parenting the absolute pits but no doubt some twat is itching to tell me I’m making a rod for my own back.

@Rosebel you have teens and a baby? For the mere thought of that I’m giving you a gold star just for surviving.

Rant away OP if it helps!

I needed to see this tonight! 6 year old has a broken arm which means we have had to cancel all holiday plans, no swimming, biking or playgrounds. He's driving me up the frigging wall and has developed the attitude of a teenager overnight and storms around hitting everyone and shouting. 9 year old is also a brat ( to be fair he has ADHD) and has an epic 3 hour meltdown of tantrums, swearing and slamming doors. I'm so done with it all. Our house is a shouting match day in and day out. God knows what our neighbors think.
Ugh. I needed that rant. I hate being a mum

Urgh yes! My arse angel of a 14 week old has woken every single hour since 1920 every night for the last week. What possible evolutionary reason can there be for babies to be so stupid when it comes to sleep.
On the plus side my 2 year has slept through so far .. on the downside she'll wake up shouting 'I've done a poo' in an attempt to trick me into getting her up at 5am. She will be lying but I always fall for it....

Nothing to add just joining in solidarity with a 3 year old and a 9 week old (the young one who decides its party time at 4am, and the older one who’s decided that if younger one gets to sleep in mummy and daddy’s room then he sure will too)

It’s absolutely exhausting. The love is all-consuming but ugh. I have seven of them! Ok, some are adults and left home but the ones at home range from 15 years (great but dyspraxic and so dopey) to 15 months (absolutely gorgeous she-devil). Yesterday I had borscht painted all over me whilst feeding youngest, the 3 year old whines all day, they all need food every bloody day...oh and the youngest wakes at 5am every single day...the 13 year old boy (ASD) wants to chat about esoteric academic stuff in the middle of the night...they all need feeding all the time...

It's a thankless job alright. Have you got NowTV? If so, watch Breeders- such an accurate depiction of parenthood!

Mine are 2 and 3 and have slept every night in my bed since birth. The 3 year old has managed to stay in her own bed until 5am about three times and the 2 year old never has. I've had a maximum of 6 hours sleep in a row about four times in the past 3 and a half years by mostly I manage 4 hours. It's really shit.

I think society fails women by not being realistic about both the pros & cons of parent hood. Life is not a Huggies commercial, all cooing & smiles & cuddles.

I tend to feel women are largely sold a lie. Now am sure for some people it is that way, and they wouldn’t change their lives for anything - but it’s so socially taboo to admit, at least publically that you either regret parenthood or that you were happier without them.

It doesn’t mean you don’t love your children ! But this concept that your life is somehow incomplete without children is problematic - it makes women who are infertile feel less than.

I don’t think parenthood is for everyone & it’s not for me so have decided to not have them. I really appreciate posts like yours because it’s obvious you love your children, but you haven’t prefaced your post by saying “ I wouldn’t change my life for the world, BUT (add complaint)”

It’s like women feel forced to say this because otherwise you’re accused of not loving your kids.

You can love your children but find the everyday struggles & slog of parenting draining or difficult.

I just wanted to say thank you for your post because you’re not warning people not to have kids, or insisting that motherhood is still better than not having had them... you’re just having a realistic whinge & I believe more young women need to know that it’s not neccessarily the be all, end all of life.

I've been parenting for over 19 years to three of them.

The demands change but it's still exhausting..

The early years are physically demanding, later it's mentally demanding.

Being a parent is like being a piece of chewing gum, I feel chewed up and spat out by the bastards little darlings and I used to be tasty and full of flavour!

It's a cruel paradox but you have to have had children to realise you could have had a good and happy life without them.
Doesn't mean you don't love them or wouldn't die for them.

I have a friend with two sets of twins. Her doctor told her that her one child needed 'more one on one time'. I think her answer was WHEN EXACTLY?

I have one and struggle!

I needed to read this. I feel exactly the same. And it doesn't help that dh says stuff like "I don't see how you can feel like that, he's so lovely". Yes he is but he also doesn't stop pestering for food, refusing naps, waking at 4am and being a little shit who hits and butes when he's over tired. He can be lovely but fuck me, right now he's like the devil wrapped up in a little 2 year old body.

God that sounds awful OP, I'd be so pissed off!

Can you get your shopping delivered? I hate the supermarket especially with baby.

My little 2 year old rotter has decided he'll nap at nursery but not for us. He also eats up to four servings of every meal and snack for them, but next to nothing for us, unless it's Nando's or pasta pesto. Ridiculous.

We were on holiday last week and he decided he didn't like the travel cot so we ended up cosleeping with him in our bed! Going to bed at 7! We haven't coslept since he was tiny! He also thought it was hilarious to smack us in bed so we'd just have to ignore him until he got bored and fell asleep.

Solidarity!

I’m with you; my 5 month old just doesn’t sleep and my 3 year old while being lots of lovely things is also “very spirited”. I do not have the energy and patience for it all.

It’s absolutely exhausting. The love is all-consuming but ugh. I have seven of them!

Seven
I have one, and the thought of another brings me out in a cold sweat!
I'm baffled by the basic logistics of having more than one, DD is 13 months and I was thinking this weekend "how could I ever deal with a 13 month old like DD, plus an older child?? How does that even work?? I don't have enough hands!"

Shhhhhh!
You have to pretend it's magical to encourage other people to have them too. Misery loves company.

You somehow described my week exactly including the trolley abandoning to go somewhere else.
I'm actually writing an email to the shopping centre about that, how am I expected to move seven trolleys with their breaks on to get to a baby seat with said baby in my arms and a shop workee smoking in front of them refusing to move from their self appointed smoking area
Besides the point I know I'm just happy someone else had that shitty moment this week.