To ask if you have personally ever doubted the sex you were born into

[Chantelli]

Just that
Yabu - of course my gender and sex have always been aligned
Yanbu - I've often felt as though I do not identify with my biological sex assigned at birth

I did once. I was in my late teens. The feelings passed quite quickly. It must be very distressing to have persistent gender dysphoria.

I have no doubts about my sex as I don't believe in being born in the wrong body.
I was a tom boy as a child, played with trucks, hated dresses, and even had my own imaginary persona who was a boy.
I am not really comfortable with the idea of gender identity as it seems restrictive and regressive. I am a woman and I have my own brand of female identity I guess. I think if I followed the gender ideology belief system I might decide I was non-binary. But I don't. Identifying as non binary is problematic as it seems to make an assumption that some men and women as binary, which is bollocks.

I’ve never felt I was male, no.

I've never had any issue with my biological sex and never felt the need to conform to any kind of gender stereotype, but I've often felt much more affinity to a different race than the human one. When I was a child I desperately wanted to be a different animal.

I was born female but often don’t conform to dates female gendered stereotypes. I am female and both myself and my DH role model great habits and skills to my children. I am a strong sporty and adventurous woman with an interest in science. I have experienced female experiences such as childbirth, periods, menopause, infertility, sexual abuse because of my sex, ovarian cysts, breast scans, lower wages, sexism. When younger I undertook responsibilities typically seen as wife work - caring for children and elderly parents, gift buying, domestic chores - although these days DH and myself are 50/50. I don’t wear dresses or makeup, can’t see the point. I’m every part a woman with a female experience of life.

I'm definitely a woman and never questioned that. However, growing up I was a "tomboy" as a younger teen and as an older teen preferred the company of boys to girls. I then went into, what was 25 years ago when I was choosing my future path, a very male career (barrister). In short, I rejected gender stereotypes but never questioned being a woman - that is just what I was. I wonder if teen me were growing up now I would be persuaded to identify as male.

My sex is a fact. I am a female.

As for my gender ? No. I don’t know what it means to feel like a woman (or a man) I don’t know what specific feelings one should or should not have. I don’t conform to stereotypes; not because I’m pushing back against them, I just don’t understand them... I’m not being deliberately inflammatory either, I just don’t get it. If someone can define for me what it feels like to be a woman, I’ll let you know if I feel similar, that’s the best I can do.

I've fought against unhelpful gender stereotypes all my life but my sex is obviously my sex... Periods, pregnancy, menopause, the lot.

I've never doubted my biological sex but I've never been pleased about being female and as a child and a teenager I felt very depressed about it, to the point of self harming. Then I came to accept it. I'm happily married and have children of my own. But I don't 'identify' with female stereotypes.

Being girly doesn’t mean being female. Crap stereotypes ..

I think gender is a big pile of horses hit, have done since I was 4. How do I vote?

When I was 4 I asked my mum if I was a boy or a girl. I remember asking it clearly. Today that would possibly lead to concern but back then mum just said “you’re a girl of course” and that was that. I’ve never felt any gender confusion at all and wasn’t confused that day as I clearly remember the sense of me just wanting confirmation from my mum of what I’d already understood myself to be. Her words told me I’d figured out that part of myself correctly. I’m glad I wasn’t asking that in an age when I would have been told I had a choice tbh as 4 year old me was looking for confirmation, not options. At the same age I also thought babies just appeared if you kissed a boy, so just a kid getting things straight in my own mind lol

I never gave gender a second thought, as a child in the 70s.

I don’t know what it is to feel male or female as I’ve only ever been myself and have no comparison.

I don’t have any sense of being the right or wrong sex. I am who I am.

I have/am regularly frustrated/angry about societal ‘norms’, expectations, limitations, disadvantages and the vast array of dangers that stem simply from the fact that I was born a female but I have never once wanted to be a man.

I am a woman and though I don’t subscribe to a lot of the arbitrary female traits assigned to women, I’ve never felt that I’m not fully a woman. I’ve never had doubts. I feel extremely lucky to be able to feel that way.

I just feel like me but i didnt fit in with girl sterotypes but also with girls themselves from my mid teens til i had my first baby. I got on with individual girls but really struggled with group dynamics. I hung round with boys heavy groups. I had zero interest in hair, make up, shopping. I think i could have thought i was trans if i knew such a thing existed mainly because i have an amazing sense of direction and can read a map and our biology teacher said men had something in their brain that was bigger that made them have a good sense of direction.

Anyway, i now have plenty of female friends, rarely spend time with men im not related too. I feel very much like a woman. I hate reductive gender crsap. And i can still read a map or find may way around with my sense of direction.

[quote HowManyToes]@RunningFromInsanity doing wonders for feminism there [/quote]
I do what I have to to get as far as I can in this world.
Woman are shit on in this world.
I will never be paid the same as a man. So I’ll take all the free drinks and perks when I can.

As I child I would ask for a willy for christmas and nothing else. I wanted to be a boy 100%, I was not 'girly' hated dolls and anything frilly. I just wanted to be a boy, this carried on until I was around 11yrs old. Now I'm in my 30s I wonder what I would do if my daughter asked the same.
I thanked my mum a few weeks ago for not changing my gender via doctors.

Nope. I've often felt a bit apart from (some) other girls - no interest really in being "feminine" and felt I was performing to fit in.

I've got quite masculine features and would have made a cracking man I reckon.

But I'm all female whatever I wear or do or look like . There's no other way to be a girl or woman other than to be born one.

I wanted to be a boy as a young teenager. Looked like one too- was often called ‘son’ in shops etc.

Eventually ended up as a bit of a tomboy teen with a shaved head and piercings. Maybe not a ‘typical girl’ but what is?

fluentlyexasperatedmadam I’ve been asking for a willy for Christmas for a while now. All the ones I keep being given are attached to disappointing men .

Biologically female, but always thought of myself as a male in the wrong body. Transgendering and all that entails never appealed to me. My sexual interests are solely in men, but always those with a strong feminine side who have recognised me as being a masculine woman. I always played with computer games, action men and liked making dens as a kid. Hated the Barbie stereotypes...had mostly male friends at school and University. Never had a strong best friendship with a girl or woman due to lack of shared interests. I am interested in mostly male-dominated hobbies now such as technology, DIY, cars, maths, science and engineering. I professionally trained in a male-dominated field. I am rarely out of jeans or leggings, and don't feel comfortable being glammed up. I will make an effort for special occasions but love to get home and scrape the makeup away. Cognitive tests reveal that my pattern of thinking and emotional functioning is around 80% male-typical. If I could go back to the beginning of my life and choose my chromosomes then I would definitely pick male. However, at mid-life comes some acceptance that I am 'me' and everyone has to like it or lump it.

I am a woman, any feelings I have are therefore the feelings of a woman. I conform to some gender stereotypes, and not others.

I have often wished that things were as straightforward for women as they are for men and that women had equal share of voice, power and money in the world but I have never doubted that my sex is female. It is a biological fact. I have never subscribed to the idea that women have to dress or behave in a certain way.

@WeeMadArthur

I would say that I have never doubted my biological sex but have often chafed against the expectations of how my gender should behave. That didn’t make me question if I was really identified as the correct sex, rather that I hated the fact that gender roles were a thing, rather than letting people just be themselves.

That is exactly how I feel.

I think the world would be a better place is we just forgot about gender and let people be who they are without the need to pigeon hole them. Your sex does not define your personality and your likes or dislikes. However, societal expectations constrain and prevent us from fully expressing ourselves if we don't conform to expectations.

Sex is important. There are differences between the sexes but they are fewer than the similarities.