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To think I'm not the keeper of milk

146 replies

TellingTelephone · 01/08/2020 19:40

There is a story behind this but it is dull and so I'll keep it to the bare minimum.

DP has essentially told me it is my fault he didn't get any milk when he popped into the local one stop for "supplies". He claims he didn't know we needed milk even though he has been making cups of tea today. "How was he suppose to know" he asks... because he has eyes and a brain too, surely?

It's not a massive deal but him telling me it's my fault due to my poor communication skills has filled me with silent rage.

OP posts:

Clymene · 02/08/2020 10:29

You're not allowed fridge magnets because they're untidy and you have a baby? Good luck with that

fantasmasgoria1 · 02/08/2020 10:31

My fiance is so laid back about such things. If we run out of something he says so what! We can just nip and get some no big deal! My ex however liked to blame me for things not being there.

Happynow001 · 02/08/2020 10:32

@NiceGerbil

Only read op.

Op YANBU.

I just opened our fridge and no milk. What do you think you're playing at Fgs.

Hee! Hee! I just got that!! 🤣🤣 sorry I'm a bit slow as I haven't had my milk yet...!!

Happynow001 · 02/08/2020 10:34

@NiceGerbil

Also the tomatoes have gone a bit soggy and they were pricey ones.

Why didn't you suggest using them earlier, huh?

Roast 'em! They'll be luvverly!

Happynow001 · 02/08/2020 10:39

@TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince

My teen thinks I’m the keeper of her wardrobe and all her clutter.

‘Where’ve you put my school trousers?’
Where’ve you washed my pyjamas. I couldn’t find them and then couldn’t sleep as l need them to sleep in. It’s your fault I’m tired’

I just ignore as best l can....🙈🙉

Silicon ear plugs...

PickledLilly · 02/08/2020 10:41

I was the keeper of all things, the shopper, the washer, the finder of lost things. I live on my own now I presume he has now figured out how the washing machine works and that if his deodorant runs out that he needs to replace it and that actually, there never were magic house fairies that replaced everything and cleaned everything and magically facilitated his entire life.

JoysOfString · 02/08/2020 11:28

PickledLilly judging by the smell of my ex's flat, I'm not sure he has figured out these things yet. Ah well it's only been 4 years.

BooseysMom · 02/08/2020 11:46

Oh I love this thread.

But the Angel Gabriel came to me in a dream and told me that you ARE the keeper of milk OP.
Many are called, few are chosen..

Brilliant

So last night I'm in bed ill and DH has to be in charge of dinner then suddenly DS screams "Mum, get me some squash!" DH is sat down there next to him ffs! I wish I had ear plugs.

DH takes him out this morning and I'm reminding him of all the stuff he has to take. "Don't forget the sun cream" I say. He says "where is it, is it yellow?!" There he is standing looking down on the cupboard its sat on. He knows it's yellow. I despair!!

MumW · 02/08/2020 12:11

We have a baby
Please tell me you are breastfeeding then next time he asks for milk you can ask him to pass the pump!

It's bread in our house as I'm gluten free so don't use normal bread. I've been on a 'work to rule' since lockdown. Don't see why he should be doing leisure activities whilst he is furloughed and I have to carry on as normal so we make our own lunch! He's run out a few times and had to make do without.

We also have a magnetic shopping list pad on the fridge. The rule is that if you open the last of something then you put it on the list. If it isn't on the list it isn't my fault if it doesn't get bought.

TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 02/08/2020 12:11

Ugh teens and food tech lessons as mentioned above. Ugh😖

Rushing out to 3 different shops at 10:30 pm to find rare and exquisite ingredients. That cost a bomb.

Durgasarrow · 02/08/2020 13:32

He's trying to make it your problem and it's not your problem. It's fucking annoying that he's trying to push this task onto you. It's sexist. Of course you know that the solution is to gray rock it. But it's unfortunate that you should have to make even the effort of ignoring or repelling his unpleasantness in your own home, because he is not providing you with good value. There is no reason why you should put up with someone who is less pleasant than someone who is just walking down the street. They are at least neutral. Someone who complains to you about not doing tasks you have no intention about doing is getting into negative territory.

Eurovision · 02/08/2020 13:43

My DH is always baffled when we run out of things. I always reply if only we had some sort of list system or I don't remember seeing it on the list. He then asks me to write it on the list. I shrug and wonder of.

BatShite · 02/08/2020 15:22

Rushing out to 3 different shops at 10:30 pm to find rare and exquisite ingredients. That cost a bomb.

We no longer do this. If we are not told in good time, the ingredients are not gotten and she gets detention at school, or she gets the cash and can rush about like a blue arsed fly trying to find stuff first thing on the morning before school. Seems harsh, but it went on way too long, once she told us at midnight there was stuff she needed desperately for the next day, that she had had on a list for 2 fucking weeks...

Orangesox · 02/08/2020 19:13

Honestly the last 15 years of this nonsense drove me to fucking despair! I got sick to death of being the last one out of the house and finding no milk on the odd occasion I would have it for breakfast, and worse that he'd eaten the two crumpets that I'd diligently defrosted for myself for breakfast, and thought that I wouldn't mind that he ate the only breakfast items because there was no milk for cereal. As I frequently tell him, I am not telepathic.

We then got a milk man - and the feckless idiot kept "forgetting" to bring the milk in as well so it was getting too warm to keep. He soon started to "remember" when nipping to the shops mid-pandemic was not feasible, and I was more than happy to go without milk on the basis that I can take it or leave it, and I don't rely on it for meals.

I'm currently recovering from spinal surgery, and I'm frequently getting phone calls from the garage to ask which drawer so and so is in the deep freeze, or which shelf the squash is kept on out there. I don't know... I'm off my face on painkillers, use your fucking eyes is the stock phrase.

TheEmojiFormerlyKnownAsPrince · 06/08/2020 12:29

Just to add. Whilst on holiday l seem to have become Keeper of Masks, Although dh is now Keeper of Handgel after l rebelled!

squeekums · 06/08/2020 13:00

@Mum2jenny

Learn to survive without milk would be my advice. Most ppl who were students can.

When i lived in a share house and we were all unemployed in my late teens, milk was a staple that we MADE sure we had money for. Going without was NEVER an option

In south aus you get 10 cents for plastic bottles and cans, soft drinks and stuff. Was 5 cents years ago and we would save them up as our emergency milk and coffee fund, cash them in when we broke, get $20 and go get milk, bread, sugar and coffee

Id be pissy OP. No question, milk is basic and always bought. Remember that shit

peardrops1 · 06/08/2020 20:02

LET US ALL GO ON MILK STRIKE!!! VIVE LA REVOLUTION!!!

BlackSwan · 08/08/2020 21:06

Night before leaving for holidays I’m asked - “where’s the milk how am I got to have coffee in the morning”, to which I say he could use long life milk & he throws a pair of trousers at me saying there isn’t any!
There was of course. And it came with us on the road trip after serving well for coffee.

I can’t win though. He even packed the individual long life milk packs I bought (like on a plane) but moaned about how stupid a purchase they were.

I’m so depleted

Happynow001 · 08/08/2020 21:38

@BlackSwan

Night before leaving for holidays I’m asked - “where’s the milk how am I got to have coffee in the morning”, to which I say he could use long life milk & he throws a pair of trousers at me saying there isn’t any! There was of course. And it came with us on the road trip after serving well for coffee. I can’t win though. He even packed the individual long life milk packs I bought (like on a plane) but moaned about how stupid a purchase they were.

I’m so depleted

How rude! I think I'd have chucked those trousers out of the window if he'd thrown them at me.

NinkiNonkiNikau · 08/08/2020 22:37

Hang on op, so everything domestic is your responsibility but you can’t even have fridge magnets? There’s a lot more wrong there than milk!

violetbunny · 08/08/2020 23:13

We have Alexa for this purpose. I will only buy what's on the shopping list so if DP wants something but forgets to tell Alexa to add it, too bad.

He's also not allowed to ask me to remind him to do things (more mental load!) so now he tells Alexa and she reminds him

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